I just started a new job almost two weeks ago. I was nine weeks along on my first day. I chose not to reveal the pregnancy as it was very early in my mind and I was uncomfortable telling a random person I was pregnant before my own mother.
This is unfamiliar territory for me. When I worked during my last pregnancy, the job was temporary and I was five months along and let them know in the interview. It could've been permanent, but not enough pay/benefits/hours to justify - would've been PAYING money after daycare. It also worked out well that I was due during their slow period of time.
My boss and both direct co-workers all have two kids. I haven't even revealed the pregnancy to family yet. I'm waiting until after the NT scan on the 23rd. I (to me) look pregnant but it is slightly easier to hide since family knows about my diastasis recti and I lost enough weight prior to pregnancy to look essentially "back to normal". I did "pop" earlier as this is my 2nd pregnancy too.
I still workout (Zumba/Zumba Toning) twice a week without issue. My job is primarily administrative in an office setting but there is bending/lifting/etc involved that eventually will be a physical problem for me. The job is also in retail which means it follows that schedule.
I'm leaning towards a scheduled c-section which would put baby's birth date around November 4th if the midwife has her dates correct. Unfortunately this also means if I take the 8 weeks of maternity leave granted in my state to a c-section birth, I will miss all of November and December which is US Thanksgiving, "Black Friday" and Christmas. These are SUPER busy times for my work and I would feel terrible leaving my co-workers to pick up the pieces. I'm not about to leave a week or month old baby with my MIL despite how good she is with my son. I want the same time I had with him, but I enjoy working too and had been looking for work since he was a few months old with few leads.
However, I'm not willing to prioritize a $10/hr part time job over a child. I can't think of any type of job where I would put it above my child at all, actually. This makes me feel guilty for accepting the position but everyone I work with is very family-oriented and I want to hope that they'd be accepting and understanding of it, not just act as such and then talk about me behind my back. I've worked in a couple toxic environments and I've not been there long enough to really judge it yet.
I'm extremely concerned once I reveal the pregnancy, they will find a reason to terminate me because they will see I will essentially be unavailable during their busiest time. The extra income is nice but we can manage on just DH's if need be.
Is anyone else in the same boat?
This is unfamiliar territory for me. When I worked during my last pregnancy, the job was temporary and I was five months along and let them know in the interview. It could've been permanent, but not enough pay/benefits/hours to justify - would've been PAYING money after daycare. It also worked out well that I was due during their slow period of time.
My boss and both direct co-workers all have two kids. I haven't even revealed the pregnancy to family yet. I'm waiting until after the NT scan on the 23rd. I (to me) look pregnant but it is slightly easier to hide since family knows about my diastasis recti and I lost enough weight prior to pregnancy to look essentially "back to normal". I did "pop" earlier as this is my 2nd pregnancy too.
I still workout (Zumba/Zumba Toning) twice a week without issue. My job is primarily administrative in an office setting but there is bending/lifting/etc involved that eventually will be a physical problem for me. The job is also in retail which means it follows that schedule.
I'm leaning towards a scheduled c-section which would put baby's birth date around November 4th if the midwife has her dates correct. Unfortunately this also means if I take the 8 weeks of maternity leave granted in my state to a c-section birth, I will miss all of November and December which is US Thanksgiving, "Black Friday" and Christmas. These are SUPER busy times for my work and I would feel terrible leaving my co-workers to pick up the pieces. I'm not about to leave a week or month old baby with my MIL despite how good she is with my son. I want the same time I had with him, but I enjoy working too and had been looking for work since he was a few months old with few leads.
However, I'm not willing to prioritize a $10/hr part time job over a child. I can't think of any type of job where I would put it above my child at all, actually. This makes me feel guilty for accepting the position but everyone I work with is very family-oriented and I want to hope that they'd be accepting and understanding of it, not just act as such and then talk about me behind my back. I've worked in a couple toxic environments and I've not been there long enough to really judge it yet.
I'm extremely concerned once I reveal the pregnancy, they will find a reason to terminate me because they will see I will essentially be unavailable during their busiest time. The extra income is nice but we can manage on just DH's if need be.
Is anyone else in the same boat?