Worried abt ttc again after 2nd mc.

[MyZahra]

Hi

I had a mc on 11th February and again on 25th March. The first time I didn't know anything about early mc and the 2nd time I was just waiting to bleed. You know how it is, checking each time you visit the bathroom...

I just feel really weird. Really scared to try again but really desperate to get pg. I've been reading that after three mc it becomes a medical problem.

I don't want to wait. I want to start ttc but really worried about another mc for obvious reasons...the pain of losing another little bean...it's awful. But now on top of that I have to worry about it being a medical problem whatever that means.

any advice please anyone.

 

[tansey]

So sorry for your losses
Are you new to TTC or have you been trying for a while? Do you chart or use opk or anything? Do you take anything vits or medication? There are so many variables but lots of ladies on here can help you look at the facts.
I think that if you have a 3rd that the docs in the UK will then start looking into things. It's not necessarily a medical problem just that it isn't unusual and that's why they don't do anythinkg until it has happened a few times unfortunately!
I'm sure you are scared, i've been through 1 myself so i know how you feel and i am scared for when i get pg again.
I didn't want to wait but because you have had 2 after each other, maybe you should rest your body for at least one month until you've looked into things a bit? Harder said than done!

 

[MyZahra]

Hi Tansey

thanks for replying.
I have a daughter who is 3 yo and had no problems with that pregnancy.I've been trying since January. I've not really been using any kits or done any charts. Just been waiting to feel like I'm ovulating (I usually get cramps) and then been ttc. I've been taking pregnacare vitamins since January.

thanks again for replying. Sometimes I feel like my family just don't understand.

 

[tansey]

Hope you feel better soon and of course you can talk to lots of nice people on here who do understand what you are going through.

 

[akamummy]

For you Myzahara
I understand how you feel I also m/c in Feb...mine was on the 24th! And I had to have a D&C done...I was 11 1/2 weeks...
I had AF come to visit and she has only just left! So for me it took a good 6 weeks before my body started to get back to naormal cycles etc...some women take longer, some are shorter...

I do understand what you mean about wanting try again as soon as poss...but seeings as you have had 3 m/c one after another, you MAY want to try waiting until you have had at least 1 or 2 cycles...But then again...just listen to your body...if you feel really ready...then I say go for it...you may want to try taking some vitamin tablets, if you can...I am taking Vitex (a good alrounder for regualting periods and helping sore (o) (o) etc...) for me I have found it to be just great! But make sure to check with natrupath esp if you are on any sort of medication...

to you!

 

[suzan]

Hugs

Sorry about ur loss.

TTC after a miscarriage or more are aweful. I have experience it a lot, and its so stressful. You get so obsessed and scared at the same time.

But hey.. I thought about it a lot.. isnt having a baby more desired than the fear we feel? Dont u feel that if u weight out both feelings.. the wanting a baby feeling weights more? If so, then you should stick to have ur dream come true and feeling scared wont fade away, it will be there, but it will get easier.. I am sure