Worst reactions to telling parents / relatives your pregnant?

[ilvmylbug]

About to tell my mom when she finally gives me a call back. Nervous as hell.

Anyone had a bad reaction from family?

 

[jocelynmarie]

I've avoided telling people I know I'm going to get a bad reaction from... they'll figure it out eventually!! lol

Good luck telling your mom, I hope that she gives you a supportive response!

 

[rayasunshine]

My dad's first response was "You are an idiot" but within a week he was really excited and started collecting stuff for the baby.

 

[SamiraNChris]

I had a bad reaction from my dad and he still doesnt bring it up but i wont tell you horror stories otherwise your going to think the worst!!!! i had the BEST reaction from my mum though she was over the moom so good luck hunni let us kn0ow how it gets on!

 

[JLFKJS]

My OH's grandmother was our only bad reaction. She lives in a different state and I've never met the woman yet it was "the worse news I've heard all year!" and "is she going to get an abortion?"
And now this woman wants to come visit when the baby is due. HAHAHA uh, no.

 

[Bexxx]

Well...my dad tried to kick me out.
He called me a slag as well (despite only being with my OH of almost 4 years )

But to be fair, I am only 19 and was meant to be going to uni this year, so was a bit of a shock to him I suppose

He's over it now

 

[ilvmylbug]

I'm so sorry to all you ladies that have had idiots give them bad reactions

I just got off the phone with my mom. Pretty much it was, "Yeah I figured when you went to the doctor. Well are you prepared to take care of it? You know it's another mouth to feed. When are you due? Well... all right. Talk to you later, bye."

I'm disappointed that she didn't even give a congratulations or "How are you feeling" or even show a sign of excitement. Especially since I even sounded giddy over the phone.

Could be worse though, I guess.

 

[ilvmylbug]

Adding onto a "worst reaction", when I was pregnant with my first one, I told my boss I was pregnant (I was working at a grocery store then) and she said, "Wow, that sucks."
I wanted to punch her in face!

 

[CeeCee2010]

My MIL originally said "I told you you should've waited four years after getting married before doing that because everybody else in the family has waited that long!" but as soon as she found out that we were having a girl (i.e. the long awaited granddaughter because all her side of the family are boys!) She suddenly became much more positive about it lol funny that! At the end of the day if you're happy about being pregnant then that's all that matters hun so stay strong and keep your head up high and don't let anybody bring you down XXX

 

[Mabelpye]

My mum was really shocked and said "Well I'm going to presume this was an accident" haha Hubby and I were newlyweds when we found out, and have been together over 5 years, so it was surely the next step lol She's really come around now, and comes to all of my hospital appointments and scans xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

when i was pregnant with my first, my sister cried in a bad way and my mum for weeks kept telling me to have a abortion and that shed pay for it! she never pays for anything.

no matter what my mum said i knew what i wanted and that was our baby.
this time everyones really happy for me

 

[myasmumma]

i made a thread about this a few days ago adams mums reaction was OH NO!

 

[daddiesgift]

Im glad that no one we know reacted like that but some people I wouldve like a little more excitement! (mom ect.) We had be ttc for a couple years so I think everyone was happy that it happened.

But while TTC I was tired of hearing the stupid reasons why I should be happy that I wasnt pregnant! And that "If god wants you to have a baby now god will bless you" thank you MIL. I freaked and told her "I suppose all those drug addict, drunk, hookers who get pregnant everyday were just blessed by God. 16year old girls and people who give birth to children on crack. Guess this married, stable, loving person isnt worthy of a baby yet." lol

 

[Kittifer]

My OH's mum wasn't pleased to begin with. She said "Oh no, no I'm not happy about that. I'll phone you back when I've had some time".

I raged about it. I really did, I was soooo annoyed that she said what she did, although I understand her shock. Baby wasn't planned so it was a shock to all of us.

She's fine now, really involved and always asking me if I'm doing okay. I've forgiven her, and she seems really excited now. I guess she wasn't planning on being a grandparent just yet. This baby will be the first grandchild and great grandchild so I'm the centre of attention now

 

[MoonMelody]

My mother's initial reaction was an exasperated, "Oh, Jesus!" The face-palming was audible. But two seconds later she was like, "Ok, ok. No, it's good. The most important thing is that you feel well." She's very excited, and was just initially concerned.

 

[MrsPOP]

My brother said when I asked him if he was excited to be an uncle "well I could lie to you Laura and say I am but I dont care" and "why would I be happy knowing my little sister is having sex?" (Im 27, have been with DH for 6.5 yrs and married for 2.5 yrs).

We then had a fight and he tried to punch me saying I was going to be a terrible mother.

Can you tell we dont get on ?

 

[blondieliz]

My MIL and FIL were VILE!!

My parents were over the moon, broke out the champagne etc, however OH's parents were the total opposite.

We told his dad together, we knew his mom would be funny, but thought his dad would be ok. We told him whilst we were sat together and he put his head in his hands and started going on about how his mom would be so mad. He looked really pissed off, so OH said how pleased we were, that we were adults, married etc and that really this was amazing news. FIL said 'after all you've put us though over the years, how can you expect us to be excited for you, do you need me to spell it out for you' to which I said, 'well you'll have to spell it out for me! He was livid and thought I was being cheeky. I burst in to tears and waited outside for them.

I made OH go tell his mom on his own as I wanted nothing to do with them after tha to be honest. For the record, all my OH 'put them through' was divorcing his physco ex wife, being an amazing dad to his son, fight for access to him and also to the 2 kids that were his 'step kids'. A bad guy would have walked away, he took the higher road and took all the kids on even though they weren't his!!

He is still 10k in debt with solicitor bills - you'd think his parents would be proud of him for being such a good man!

I'll never forgive his parents for their behaviour about this pregnancy as long as I live!!

Sorry for the long post

 

[June2012]

Hi
Initialy I had a bad reaction from my mum but I think she needed some time to digest the news. One of our close relative advised us to abort since this baby was a suprise package. Now my mum and the other relative are very exicted about this baby. They have even offered to babysit.

 

[moomin_troll]

with this pregnancy my family were so happy but my inlaws were horrible, i was talking to my mil and said that this baby is a blessing. she looked at me n said well might be in afew months.
concidering her son father of my babies had just died ud of thought shed be over the moon. she still hasnt said shes bothered

 

[Chocoholic123]

When we told dh's dad and step-mum his dad was over the moon but his wife just said to me "oh you have to be very careful, no heavy lifting even shopping bags, no gardening. ." I would never do gardening, random or what! Its not as bad as some of the stories on here but at the time i was offended and upset cos i was only about 6 wks and we wanted to tell our family rightaway and i felt like she was being doom and gloom when i was trying not to worry about getting to 12 wks safely as you do.