would have been 8 weeks now

[stephaniex]

i would have been about 8 weeks now and i just cant stop thinking about what my baby would have been like. whats making this even harder than it alredy is is that my ex doesnt even seem to care, i keep asking him if we can talk but he says hes busy. when we have talked about things he just says he is going to be selfish as he has to deal with lots of other peoples problems to. this makes me really angry at him and annoyed because he said he would help me and he said he still cared.

 

[ncmommy]

He may just need some space. Many men deal with mc differently than we as women do, we like to talk about it while some just want to be forget and move on.

 

[irish_rose3]

I know it's hard when the other doesn't want to acknowledge, Stephanie. I have my angry moments towards the father of Noah also. If not for this board, friends, and family, I probably would have cracked by now. We're always here for you.

 

[stephaniex]

this forum has really helped me to so far its good to be able to talk to people who understand, as none of my friends have been through this.

ive noticed other people have thought of a name, does this really help because my counsellor suggester it to.

 

[Mummy2Angel.]

its hard but it will get easier .... i promise.... i have been there.....and yes every week will come and you will think of what stage you should be at.....just take some time for yourself

 

[hippylittlej]

It is hard but you will get better and men just deal with the whole process different to women. I hope you feel better soon.

I would have been 12 weeks today, it has only been just over a week but you know it is starting to get easier day by day.

 

[lilwelsh1]

I would have been about 8 weeks this week too. men are never very good at emotions and feeling, its just their way. which can be very annoying. im sorry for your loss I find naming the baby to be very helpful, makes me feel i have acknowledged what happened better, i chose a nickname instead but my kids asked if the baby could be called donnie when i told them about my pregnancy, bless them. but the baby i lost will always b my 'little 3' i guess its what ever you find comfort in be it a a unisex name, a nickname or if you feel your baby was a boy/girl and name him/her as you feel is right. hope whatever you do it brings you some comfort xx