Would just love a little bit of help once in a while... :,-( NOTHING'S Changed!!!

[Groovychick]

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[jobee2222]

You know i'm starting to think our hormones are there to help us say the things we need to say so that when the baby comes we hopefully have sorted things out. We put up with too much otherwise. Doesn't look like he will get the message unless you do something drastic like moveout. Hopefully it wont come to that, but whatever you do kick him where it hurts.

 

[KS1977]

Thanks for your support and kind words ladies. We must have the patience of a saint!! Hormones raging and all that. Xx

 

[oread]

I hope you can work everything out with him! This is something my husband and I have been fighting a lot about lately, but at the moment I am sitting on my butt and he is doing the dishes So at least he is trying.

I think it helped that we sat down and talked about it when I wasn't angry at him. Its easy to freak out and get in a fight when I think he is being inconsiderate and not helpful, then he just gets defensive and we really get nothing accomplished. So I had a non-confrontational talk with him and explained that I know he works hard a lot but that I feel like he intentionally ignores what needs to be done because he knows I will do it. And I get really frustrated and resentful, or feel the need to nag him to do things and I hate being like that. So if he voluntarily does things without being asked, even just a few things, I would not be so upset and nag about chores. And I agreed that when he says he will do something I won't get impatient and just do them because I want them done now, but I'll let him do them on his own time but I reserve the right to call him out if he says he'll do something and doesn't.

So I recommend trying to have a good, nice talk to him about it using "I feel..." (I feel like I do all the chores, I feel like you don't try to be helpful, etc) phrases instead of accusatory ones like "You never..." because that tends to make people defensive.