would u make a complaint about doc that said this?

[lisac25]

i know this is prob the wrong place to post this but, most of u guys hang out here soooooo....
anyway, i posted a few weeks ago saying that i had broken my foot and was having a nightmare because i wasnt allowed to put any weight on it, which when u have a little one running around is a complete nightmare, i was quite emotional, and upset about it, so went back to the docs for a check, and foolishly (on advice of others) got my hopes up thinking that the cast would be removed and i could go home and get on with my normal day to day stuff.
but when i got there the doc tells me i have to have a permanent cast on for another 4 weeks, at which point (bear in mind i was very emotional about the whole matter) i burst into tears, i just couldnt help or stop it, i would have been well i am fine and i did get over it. but the doctor then looks at me and says " well i am not being funny but its not like i have told you, you have cancer is it"
i was so shocked and already upset at the time i didnt reply, but once i got home and told my other half he was fuming, and wanted to report it, what do u guys think?
i was well aware that it wasnt life threatning but would still expect to be treated with a bit of respect, i know i was a big baby but it was only a few tears, i wasnt having a breakdown or anything lol x

 

[Lu28]

That would have annoyed me but not enough to complain about it x

 

[angel2010]

I would def complain, like you said you were very emotional, but it is not his place to comment on it.

 

[hivechild]

I agree with lu. It was insensitive and unprofessional but I'm not sure I would file a complaint over it.

I hope the next 4 weeks fly and the cast comes off for you before you know it!

 

[Scooby12345]

I think the Doctor needs to be reminded how to speak to patients, bringing cancer into the conversation could have made things much worse. Cancer may have effected your life previously and i think its wrong the Doc said that to you.

 

[hancake100]

I think the Doctor needs to be reminded how to speak to patients, bringing cancer into the conversation could have made things much worse. Cancer may have effected your life previously and i think its wrong the Doc said that to you.

This is what I was thinking. If either you or a family member have been effected by cancer then it would have been even more out of order.
If it was me I would 110% complain about it as he cant talk to his patients like that.
I lost my dad to cancer 4years ago and if someone said that to me I would be VERY mad and upset!!

 

[AppleBlossom]

That's awful! But I don't think complaining would make any difference

 

[AugustMidge]

That would have annoyed me but not enough to complain about it x

I agree I would be annoyed but not enough to complain.

 

[Tsia]

WTF? Docs are supposed to be compassionate.. and help you in any situation not make you feel worse.
What if you heard one of your family had cancer the day before? you would have brokendown!
How friggin heartless. Yeah file a complaint to the PCT

 

[SAmummy]

I would also be annoyed, but would prob let it go. Sometimes you say something stupid when you are tired or under pressure so I would just ignore it. If he keeps saying things like that sooner or later someone will put him in his place !

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

It may have been a very bad and insensitive joke to cheer you up. Silly idiot. As a doctor he should have comforted you and showed compassion. I'm not sure I would complain but he does needle reminding that patients should be dealt with in a sensitive manner and to not make jokes about a serious illness
X

 

[happygal]

i made a complaint about my gp a while ago, when i rang the surgery i was told i could report the comlaint to the surgery manager for it to be dealt with in house or i could take it further.

prehaps you could just make the complaint to the surgery manager just so someone has a word with the dr about his bedside manner. whether it was a life threatening illness or an ingrowing toe nail, if a patient is upset about it then a gp should respect the way they feel and act accordingly x

 

[Eala]

I agree that it might be worth phoning and speaking to the Practice Manager. Explain that you aren't wanting to make it a formal complaint, but that you were very unhappy at how the doctor spoke to you. He sounds like he needs reminding that he is supposed to do no harm - to me that means emotional harm as well as physical!

 

[Cat lady]

I think a comment like that is way out of order and I would make a complaint. He maybe a healthcare professional and think you are making a big deal over nothing but that is just HIS opinion, he has no idea what you are dealing with at home. It is way out of line and he should learn to control his tongue.
xxx

 

[ellie27]

It was a silly comment that you have took in a bad way.

I dont know what you would get out of complaining?? Would it make you feel better?

If it was me I would have laughed thinking it was just silly banter. It would have been better if he said 'its not like your leg is going to fall off' rather than mentioning cancer

 

[gills8752]

I would complain. The doctor is there to support you and help you in physical and emotional trauma. I've had many a burst into tears in the doctors over silly little things because everything else has been getting on top of me and not once have I ever had anyone say something like that. They have always been supportive and offered to arrange for me to speak to someone if things are getting a bit much and I want some help or just someone to talk to.
He should have responded asking if you were okay, how where you managing coping with children with a leg in plaster - give you information about where you can get help whilst in plaster etc. Doctors are supposed to help well being not just cure illness.

 

[Cheryl xx]

I would be annoyed to, but i wouldn't complain about it no xx

 

[lisac25]

thanks for all your replies, i think if i wasnt so upset at the time i would have said to him, that i dont think what he said to me was very appropriate, and quite offensive, maybe i will mention to him when i have to go back in 4 weeks to have the cast removed. my OH was the one that wanted to make a complaint, he can get a little protective over me, and was just really disgusted with the comment. i dont think i will make an official complaint because i was otherwise treated well, and i would hate to feel responsible for someone getting into trouble, but like i said may just mention to him about it so he aware that his comment was hurtfull, and to someone in a different situation could have been much worse, thanks again all x

 

[Blah11]

I dont think it's worth complaining about either. Complaints cost money and IMO unless its a big thing, it's useless to waste your time really.

 

[Blah11]

I agree that it might be worth phoning and speaking to the Practice Manager. Explain that you aren't wanting to make it a formal complaint, but that you were very unhappy at how the doctor spoke to you. He sounds like he needs reminding that he is supposed to do no harm - to me that means emotional harm as well as physical!

Every complaint gets fully investigated hun. If you complain to the practise manager they have to report it.