wow yall, i cant believe this

[socophoenix]

last nite me n my OH got into a huge arument...i dont even kno wat happened!i recently broke my foot and had to stay home for a few days. yesterday all my school friends called including an ex and one guy who liked me but never had a chance. i realised that all these ppl called who i dont care about and i hadnt heard frm him since morning. i told him that and that i missed him. and he said y do i have all these guys callin me, that im 'too friendly' cuz they shouldnt have my number anyway, when they got my # a long time ago AS FREINDS. he claims i say stupid things that a girlfriend shouldnt say. he told me that its hard to take me serious when ppl are tellin him im still involved with another guy...WHICH IM NOT!!! but he says these pl wouldnt lie to him, and he cant trust me. he said we shouldve just stayed friends and this was a mistake thinking two leos could be together.....and he broke up with me. im crushed and dont kno wat to do!!!

the part of me that knows him hopes that wateva hes going thru has nothin to do with us and hes just taking it out on me, and that he'll realize wat happened and ask me back....but i cant help but wonder if this is forreal.

two of his friends just called me, that NEVER call me and asked had we broken up and if i was pregnant. i told them i dont kno yet and they made an excuse to hang up. that makes no sense cuz gary(OH) already knows i havent tested but that my period is late. we were trying so hard for a baby, now a part of me hopes im not preg. i just cant believe this. wat am i gonna do? how can i get him back?

 

[Jenny]

This is NOT your fault hon. He's being a total jerk face, and its his own problem if he's believing his "friends" over you. The basis of a relationship is trust and if he can't trust you then it will never work out. He'll always be doubting and accusing you of things that aren't true.
Don't try to get him back, make him come back to you on his own choice. As you've already tried to explain to him that these other guys are friends and he doesn't believe you, its now up to him to decide if he wants to grow up or not. You honestly don't need a guy thats going to be choosing his buddies over you, ESPECIALLY when you're trying to have a baby. You deserve way better

 

[socophoenix]

hes always had trust issues, and so did i. this relationship was a risk for both of us as we had come from really bad, hurtful relationships. he just lost custody of his son from a previous relationship, and he got fired yesterday. he's been really stressed and maybe i just put him over the edge....we'd been chasing each other for 4 years, u would think that he'd put more effort into trying to fix this. i told him that and he said he knows it wouldnt help and that we'd end up hating each other cuz he hates the thought of me with other guys, cuz previous relationships have taught him that young females cant b trusted(im17 hes 20).
i wanna just walk away and be like f*ck it, but i love him so much...one of his friends just called and asked 'wat happened dammit?' and i told him and he said he'll talk to him when he sees him today. i dunno wat to do...i kno witout trust theres nothing, but i dont kno how to make him see that he CAN trust me....

 

[Jenny]

I don't know hon, you two definitely have to sit down and have a long chat about it. Tell him point blank that if he can't trust you then whats the point of being together? He'll just make you miserable if he's always accusing you of other guys.
Maybe you both should not try for a baby just yet? You two need to work things out first before bringing a baby into the mix. If you both were in a hurtful relationship before, then you both have some scarred memories that need healing. For him especially by the way he's reacting. I hope things work out for you both

 

[socophoenix]

thanks jenny. the argument came out of nowhere last night, and my periods already a few days late. but even if we do get back together, it'll be awhile before we start TTC'ing again. i cant bring a baby into a difficult relationship, and i cant share something like that with some one who doesnt trust me. ill kepp u guys posted on the witches arrival, thanks for all ur help, really.

 

[Always&4ever]

He doesn't deserve you hun, if he can believe his mates over you...

 

[socophoenix]

thx guys.
his friend jus called sayin he tried to talk t him for me and he spazzed out sayin he didnt need his girl, his brothers, that he didnt need anyone but himself.

a little dramatic i kno but a part of me believes this is stress since hes sober. this is his drunken night out behavior and im guesing its the stress of his past few months getting to him. i kno i cant bank on that tho. if AF doesnt come i guess i better b preparing myself to be a single mommy!!! it hurts like hell but its a possibility i hafta accept now.