wtf SHES A BITCH! update page 3.

Discussion in 'Pregnancy - Third Trimester' started by livebychance, Nov 16, 2011.

  1. livebychance

    livebychance Well-Known Member

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    heres my rant.

    so i am having a c section. i was at the hospital this past weekend for contractions but the hospital wound up stopping them- we told my MIL to stay home and if by chance i would deliver we would call her. 2 seconds after me and hubby left for hospital shes calling all the family saying i am gonna have a baby, wakes up my 18 month old son and drops him off at the neighbors and heads to the hospital. UGH! well needless to say i told you so. so i told her today that when i do go into labor and have my c section that if its during the day- i dont want any visitors for at least 4-5 hours after surgery so me and DH can bond with baby and i can relax and get my feeling back in my legs and stuff, or if i deliver at night that me and DH wont want any visitors until the next morning- that way since its at night, we can sleep.

    well she started balling her eyes out saying that how can i be so rude and ignore other people feelings, and that this was her grand kid and she has every right to see him right when he comes out, and that its not fair that me and DH are requesting alone time with no visitors, and how dare we.....mind you last night she told my husband right in front of my face oh you can always get a new wife and baby..... wtf after that why the hell would i want her there anyway. but she thinks my delivery should be all about her, and heaven forbid i am having a major abdominal surgery but that doesnt matter. well i spoke with my doctor today and he even said that he would block off any visitors for at least 12 hours after surgery because last year my c section i hemorrhaged and wound up getting an infection a few hours after which he is trying to avoid , so i told my MIL that its doctors orders for no visitors and she was like we will see about that. i tell you what if that bitch tries to make my delivery all about her, shes got another thing comming.
     
  2. sarahloulou

    sarahloulou mumma to dougie 14th feb

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    I don't know how you put up with it! Hope it all goes well for you and MIL is nowhere in sight xx
     
  3. marie1112

    marie1112 Well-Known Member

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    Wow, I'll never understand how some family members think their rights to your child are more important than your own rights to YOUR child. That's just obnoxious. :dohh:
     
  4. BrokenfoREVer

    BrokenfoREVer Goth Mummy (:

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    What a total cow! At least the Dr is on your side

    Also....I absolutly love the name you've chosen!
     
  5. scaredmmy2b

    scaredmmy2b Mommy to a perfect son!

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    Tell the hospital not to have you in there directory and dont call her when you go into labor ...thats what i would do. Good luck.
     
  6. AveryATL

    AveryATL Well-Known Member

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    I am sorry, she sounds awful. I hope your DH said something to her when she said something! I would come up with a standard line to use with her, and not let her goad you into any further discussion. Something along the way of "I am sorry that you are upset, but this isn't about you". Or "I can see that you are upset, but my labor and delivery isn't about your needs". You are never, ever going to be able to get her to be rational, so don't try. I would just give her a line (even better if it is the same line that you and DH both use) that I would repeat ad naseum if necessary until she stops trying to convince you either through guilt, harassment or other emotional manipulation.
     
  7. overcomer79

    overcomer79 LT-TTC success 3.5yrs

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    My inlaws came in LDR!!! OMG!!! I was livid. I had DH and another friend who has a degree in pharmacy so she could speak up as she was highly educated in the area. After my inlaws came in, she went to the nurses station to get them kicked out :haha:. They had me drugged to help my blood pressure so that was used as the excuse to get them to leave LOL
     
  8. livebychance

    livebychance Well-Known Member

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    thanks ladies it just pisses me off, its kinda hard not to tell her when i am going into labor as of right now me and DH live with her. but luckily my DH is on my side with this one, and when he gets home from work in 20 mins and we all sit down he still better be on my side or he isnt invited to the delivery either lol.
     
  9. FM_DJ

    FM_DJ Expecting baby #2!

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    Wow. She sounds like a total cow. Sorry but glad Dr is siding with you!
     
  10. EffyM

    EffyM Well-Known Member

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    no one has any rights to your child or you but YOU and well your OH of course LOL

    he needs to step up tell his mother how its going to be
     
  11. _jellybean_

    _jellybean_ Well-Known Member

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    The hospital really will be able to keep her away. Call security if you need to. I can't believe that you live with her. Is she mean with her comments frequently? Can you maybe find a small apartment or something? Sounds like a crazy situation TBH:( Hope things work out.
     
  12. _jellybean_

    _jellybean_ Well-Known Member

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    Want to add...if anyone I knew said anything like that, I'd probably just stop talking to them. Don't need people in my life who cause me stress. I know it's his mother, but I'd just avoid her at all costs (which is why I asked if you can move).

    That said, I wish that more of my family were going to come to the hospital right away, and were that excited about my little one. It would mean so much to me! But I wouldn't want a crazy relative there, lol! She sounds a bit out of her mind.
     
  13. Stephannie

    Stephannie Well-Known Member

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    What a complete cow! Sorry but thats horrid! Im so glad DH & DR are on your side x
     
  14. KNWilson

    KNWilson Well-Known Member

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    That is crazy!! She sounds like a very selfish person I don't blame you for putting her in her place. That was a good idea to give your doctor a heads up they'll be sure and keep visitors away until you say it's ok. Best of luck with everything I can't wait to see some pics and read your birth story!!
     
  15. chobette

    chobette Mom to 2

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    :dohh: So sorry you have to deal with her. I told my MIL I don't want anyone there until we say so, luckily she can't drive on her own. Unfortunately, she lives with us. I told her she wasn't coming with us and needed her own ride.

    Sorry, but your MIL sounds like a real bitch. Make sure you let all the hospital staff of your requests and if need be, have security escort them out if she persists. It's YOUR baby, YOUR body, and hon ... YOUR choice. Screw her and her guilt tactics.

    :hugs:
     
  16. chobette

    chobette Mom to 2

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    Just saw your comment how you live with her, dear God :dohh: Bless your heart :hugs:
     
  17. K2785

    K2785 Mummy to Lilli and Maisy

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    She needs a kick up the ass big stylee!!!!! Put your foot down Hun xxx
     
  18. BoBo

    BoBo Mummy to 2. 14mths apart

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    Wow, she does sound like a bitch! What about your feelings!!
     
  19. thelistkeeper

    thelistkeeper Well-Known Member

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    That is completely ridiculous and sounds similar to the demands my MIL is making... I am so sorry you are going through this, hopefully your hubby will stand up with you against her!
     
  20. heaven

    heaven Mommy of 2 Beautiful Girl

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    I'd just not let her upset you. You should practicly ignore her.Kill her w/kindness instead. That will really make her feel like an a**.
     

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