MrsMandBump
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Hi ladies,
Apologies if you've seen this thread before, I first posted it in WTT but actually think it is better placed in here
I had a natural MC at 11 weeks on 7 December 2010.
At the time my husband was very supportive. There when I needed him through 5 days of initial bleeding, the MC itself on the Tuesday and over a week afterwards at home.
He did the right things, said the right things and was my rock.
Now however he's become very distant. My theory is now that I've stopped bleeding he's anxious about having sex again, 1) because of associating my 'area' with massive bleeding and pain 2) because the implication of having unprotected sex means that I could get pregnant again and have another MC which would be going through the physical and emotional pain all over again.
I'm also nervous about having sex again for both of the reasons above but I'm getting more and more ready to try as each day passes and I understand and accept that there was nothing to suggest in my first MC that there is an increased chance of it happening again.
I've tried talking to him and saying things like 'what are your goals for 2011' and he says 'making sure I keep my job and don't get made redundant', he didn't mention making/having a baby at all. My friend thinks he's covering up his real feelings by focussing on work. We both work in the public sector so there is a chance we'll be made redundant but neither of us are in imminent danger.
When I say 'are you nervous about having sex again?' he says 'maybe'. When I say 'are you worried about me having another MC?' he says 'maybe'. I keep getting 'maybe' answers or avoidance answers and I'm starting to get frustrated although I've hidden this from him.
Just needed somewhere to get it all out.
Has anyone here gone through a similar thing? xxxx
Apologies if you've seen this thread before, I first posted it in WTT but actually think it is better placed in here
I had a natural MC at 11 weeks on 7 December 2010.
At the time my husband was very supportive. There when I needed him through 5 days of initial bleeding, the MC itself on the Tuesday and over a week afterwards at home.
He did the right things, said the right things and was my rock.
Now however he's become very distant. My theory is now that I've stopped bleeding he's anxious about having sex again, 1) because of associating my 'area' with massive bleeding and pain 2) because the implication of having unprotected sex means that I could get pregnant again and have another MC which would be going through the physical and emotional pain all over again.
I'm also nervous about having sex again for both of the reasons above but I'm getting more and more ready to try as each day passes and I understand and accept that there was nothing to suggest in my first MC that there is an increased chance of it happening again.
I've tried talking to him and saying things like 'what are your goals for 2011' and he says 'making sure I keep my job and don't get made redundant', he didn't mention making/having a baby at all. My friend thinks he's covering up his real feelings by focussing on work. We both work in the public sector so there is a chance we'll be made redundant but neither of us are in imminent danger.
When I say 'are you nervous about having sex again?' he says 'maybe'. When I say 'are you worried about me having another MC?' he says 'maybe'. I keep getting 'maybe' answers or avoidance answers and I'm starting to get frustrated although I've hidden this from him.
Just needed somewhere to get it all out.
Has anyone here gone through a similar thing? xxxx