Hi ladies,
Thought I would post on this board to introduce myself and share my thoughts with you for some much needed female support!
Sadly my DH and I suffered a miscarriage last week with my 2nd pregnancy. We already have a DS who is 18 months. We weren't planning for a second so early so the BFP took us by surprise to say the least. I had been thinking and feeling quite strongly about a second since Christmas but was willing to wait until after we got married in Feb to discuss it. As you can imagine I was thrilled when this took us by surprise and we both came round to the idea of a second.
Unfortunately now though I'm desperate for another, especially considering that I had fallen pregnant and carried until 10+5weeks, we started planning and getting excited, and have now had that taken away from us, but DH doesn't feel quite the same.
We've had a chat about the future and DH wants to wait a while. I know he is very anxious about me falling again so soon and us going through a miscarriage again and I think although there is that risk at any time, he would hate for me to go through it again so soon after this one. He's also thinking a little straighter on the financial side of things, like waiting until DS is 3 so he can be in school and we don't need to worry about extra childcare costs.
I know that waiting is the right thing to do for the family but damn these womanly mothering yearnings for babies! It's so awful to try and explain to OH's because you know they just can't comprehend that strength that we feel for wanting and needing babies!
So long and short, DH wants to start trying again this time next year. I had hoped we'd be trying again before Christmas but there has to be some compromise. I know time flies and this time next year would be here pretty quickly but my god it seems like an age away right now and I can't stop thinking about having another.
I am hoping that DH and I may be able to compromise at starting again around our 1st wedding anniversary in February - I think I could cope with that! Less than a year to wait doesn't sound so bad.
Is there anyone else waiting until Feb/March time next year?
Looking forward to getting to know some of you. Jen xx
Thought I would post on this board to introduce myself and share my thoughts with you for some much needed female support!
Sadly my DH and I suffered a miscarriage last week with my 2nd pregnancy. We already have a DS who is 18 months. We weren't planning for a second so early so the BFP took us by surprise to say the least. I had been thinking and feeling quite strongly about a second since Christmas but was willing to wait until after we got married in Feb to discuss it. As you can imagine I was thrilled when this took us by surprise and we both came round to the idea of a second.
Unfortunately now though I'm desperate for another, especially considering that I had fallen pregnant and carried until 10+5weeks, we started planning and getting excited, and have now had that taken away from us, but DH doesn't feel quite the same.
We've had a chat about the future and DH wants to wait a while. I know he is very anxious about me falling again so soon and us going through a miscarriage again and I think although there is that risk at any time, he would hate for me to go through it again so soon after this one. He's also thinking a little straighter on the financial side of things, like waiting until DS is 3 so he can be in school and we don't need to worry about extra childcare costs.
I know that waiting is the right thing to do for the family but damn these womanly mothering yearnings for babies! It's so awful to try and explain to OH's because you know they just can't comprehend that strength that we feel for wanting and needing babies!
So long and short, DH wants to start trying again this time next year. I had hoped we'd be trying again before Christmas but there has to be some compromise. I know time flies and this time next year would be here pretty quickly but my god it seems like an age away right now and I can't stop thinking about having another.
I am hoping that DH and I may be able to compromise at starting again around our 1st wedding anniversary in February - I think I could cope with that! Less than a year to wait doesn't sound so bad.
Is there anyone else waiting until Feb/March time next year?
Looking forward to getting to know some of you. Jen xx
had a D&C today cos i was 9 weeks... was a mess but i feel better now..
