WTT and new

[sarahfh]

Hi all, just wanted to say hi and talk to people who can understand how I'm feeling. Most of my friends aren't in the same place in life as I am so I can't really talk to them.
So, I've been broody pretty much all my life, but then I met OH and it's defintely become more intense. Everywhere I look there are pregnant women and prams and children! I get so envious sometimes and just wish it were me. At the moment me and OH aren't really in the right place to TTC, I can think of so many reasons why not, yet I can pretty much counteract all of those.

Things like, we're renting not in our own house. But we rent from my Mum so it's not an unsecure tennancy and we can decorate and all that.
My OH is a chef so works some very long hours (around 8.30am-11.30pm 5 days a week) for not as much money as he deserves. But he only wants to stay in that particular hotel/restaurant for another 6 or so months then go somewhere with better pay and fewer hours.
And on and on.

OH knows just how broody I am and he is pretty broody too, so we agreed we will see how things are looking in another 6-12 months. It just seems so far away, even though I know it's not.
I had my implant taken out this week because of a few problems with it, and am back on Cerazette, and as bad as it sounds, I'm kind of hoping for a happy accident. I would never purposefully forget pills or anything like that just to get pregnant, but surely someone knows what I mean?
I'm sorry this got so long!
Thanks for reading, I have to say I feel a lot better for getting all this out.
Sarah

 

[dontworry]

Welcome to BabyandBump, and welcome to the Waiting To Try section!

So many of us feel exactly as you do. We know we have to be responsible and wait, but it doesn't mean we have to like it. We all wish for happy accidents (and we know you'd never intentionally do that). We are all pretty broody and all of us can't help but see how many pregnant people are walking around with what we want sooo badly! I hope being here helps you like it does me (and so many others) by letting you vent and whine and cry and dream about babies. Our time will come!

So once again, welcome! And I'm Jess. Nice to meet you and hope you stick around (but not for too long ).

 

[LollyZ]

Well said, Jess! Couldn't have put it better.
Welcome to bnb and hope you find the support I did. It's a wondeful community and I think you'll like the opportunity to talk, think and dream about babies and bumps!

 

[OliviaRae]

Always hoping for a happy accident! haha

 

[RosesOfTin]

Hello and welcome!!!!

6-12 months will fly along. I promise you. You have to stop thinking about that date and just live for the moment. Plan your career and your pregnancy out. Start looking at the smaller nit picky details such as finances etc. I know it's hard, but it helps. Maybe even diet and get into the best shape of your life over that time so you can have a super happy and healthy pregnancy! I've taken up yoga again and it comes high recommended as a way to unwind and channel all of that energy forward. Keep positive. It'll all work out in the end

 

[electrokitty]

See, told you it was a nice little place.

You and T are going to be awesome, and while your waiting, there are hundreds of lovely ladies on here always happy to listen.

And me of course! :3

Love! x

 

[sarahfh]

Nice to meet you all and thanks for the replys.
I have thought about trying to get myself healthier, although I am sat here with a full blown cold so maybe a little more health focussed than normal! I feel like I should put some weight on first as I worry being so small (5'7" and a size 6-8) will make it harder to get pregnant, but I eat healthily and although work means I eat at odd times, I do eat. I work in a hotel usually on split shifts so I'm always on my feet and busy, although I have good genes I think too.

I really want to save up money first, but that's slowly happening just hard to save at the moment as the house seems to be falling apart a bit.

Oh and Lu, thank you OT but hoping to pop down to see the new house in the next month x

 

[Dimples81]

welcome, and yes IKWYM. Happy venting x

 

[everdreaming]

welcome to BnB WTT!! We're all in the same boat as you, although some of us have super long waiting times. You're certainly not alone in hoping for a happy accident - and I'm sure some of our OH's feel the same way!

Enjoy your time here

 

[gflady]

I completely agree, Jess.

Sarah, I know what you mean. I'm for and against TTC now. We're waiting 6-12 months and it feels like forever away! Sometimes I feel a little crazy. For example, I'm considering wandering to Mother Care this avo to buy baby stuff and start a little baby collection.

 

[RosesOfTin]

5'7" and size 6 or 8 (US) isn't too bad. If you're a 6-8 AUS or European styles then that'd make you 4-6 American and yeah maybe a little on the small side. Good news? The holidays and winter are fast approaching and you'll wind up plumper pretty quick. Lord only knows I have the polar opposite problem. Losing weight is my goal. I'm a heavier gal but very very healthy with great BP. I am suffering from spinal stenosis thanks to an idiot driving on their cellphone who rear ended me at a stop light.

Happy accidents do occur. From what I'm reading you're VERY responsible. Who knows. Maybe you'll wind up jumping straight from WTT to First Term! That could be sweet! (alternatively we could all possibly wind up watching your story on "I Didn't Know I was Pregnant" )

... GFLADY; you and I are so in the same boat. I almost bought the most adorable cable knit shawl for 6-8mo. yesterday.

 

[sassykay]

Welcome to bnb Sarahfh! I agree with the other girls, it will go quicker than you think - but it still stings, I know! FX for your happy accident. Alas, I've no chance of one of those (unless I trip over a vial of donor sperm on my way to work) which is probably a good thing, because I would find it incredibly difficult to exert willpower if I myself was the only thing physically stopping me - I'd be terrible! 'Oh, let's not use any contraception today... I'm allergic...'

Lots of love

 

[dontworry]

I have a gigantic box of baby clothes, from newborn to 2T. I'm sick, I think, lmao!
You can't be too prepared, that's my excuse! Just gotta keep it hidden from the OH so he doesn't get freaked out. Haha!

 

[sarahfh]

I have a load of my old baby clothes at my Dad's house in a box, I've been saving them since I was about 10 for my own baby! They took a small bypass to dolls clothes for a few years, now they're waiting in the loft for a baby to fill them. I sometimes see little baby clothes in the shops and want so much to buy them but worry OH will think I'm crazy! Haha.

How does everyone else cope with the broodyiness and WTT?

 

[Medzi]

Welcome! Yep, know exactly how you feel This place is awesome and all the ladies are so supportive! 6 months will fly by!

 

[dontworry]

How does everyone else cope with the broodyiness and WTT?

The only way I'm coping is coming here every few days, at the least, lol. This place is my "sanctuary" and I have found so much support here since I joined in Jan 2010!
I also try to stay busy... thought haven't been too busy as of late. Just try to keep my mind on other things. It's hard when my OH talks about babies ALL THE TIME, though! Just today he was talking about how happy he was our house was coming together so we could make it a home "to fill with babies" lol. Of course I said, "Aww! I can't wait!" And he says, "I just meant grabbing babies... and filling it...". The brat!!

 

[adellademona]

I know what you mean. I can count at least 10 gals I know that have kids already, are pregnant, or just had a baby. Younger and older than me. Which is frustrating because I'm 20. 0.0
*feels too young to have a baby*
I wouldn't complain about a happy accident, but my responsible side says "nononononon! You must finish school first and be married to OH and have a job and a car"

 

[sarahfh]

I'm 20 too so don't worry, you're not alone there! I just feel off mentioning it incase someone comes up with the lovely line of "oh you have ages to think about all that, you're still SO young". It annoys me, all I've ever wanted is to be a mum and I know I'm young, but I'm also much more mature mentally etc than 20, we have a home which although is rented, is rented from my mum, so a secure tennancy. I have my own car and work full time, I earn a good wage and although me and OH are not yet engaged, we both know that's where things are heading, its something we talk about.

I daren't tell many friends my plans as I feel they will judge me simply by my age, which is unfair and inaccurate.

It's so nice to come on here when I can say how i feel without being judged or people thinking I'm stupid or something. And reading posts and realising I'm not the only one feeli g like this.

Apologies for length, one of those days today. Hope there aren't too many typos as I'm on my phone. The joys of changing internet providers!

 

[everdreaming]

Oooh I know what you mean.

"ooh you're just 21? You're just a baby yourself!!! You've got years to live before you tie yourself down, awww, little thing aren't you?" << That was the response from my mentor on placement when she asked my age. Until I told her that she was so polite and respectful - turned out from my looks and behaviour she thought I was much older, 26/27.. So what, my maturity count for nothing, just physical age?!

You've got all of us to talk to about it, at least we understand how it feels! Some people don't get it, that babies occurred to us earlier than them, and we want our lives to be different. Especially if you're already settled into a job and a home, it just feels like the next step regardless of physical age!

 

[sarahfh]

Exactly! I can't even explain how much relief I have right now that people are in the same mindframe as me! Made my day I have to say. There are far too many prams walking around today