WTT - August 2015

[Sakura15]

Oh, forgot to add my own update. Got Mirena out 2 days ago
At the previous appointment, the nurse couldn't find the strings so they had me all scheduled to have an ultrasound and all these special instruments on hand, anticipating having a hard time finding it again this time and all that, but as I suspected - no problem at all. I tried to schedule it soon after my period so my cervix would be a bit more open, and once I 'opened sesame', there she was, and OUT she came!! So I had slight cramping but nothing to write home about, unfortunately now today I'm bleeding. I don't know if it's the 'withdrawal' bleed people talk about after bcp, if my poor little cervix was irritated by the whole thing or what. I'm stuck between happiness for being at this stage, and grumpiness that my cycle will obviously be unpredictable for a little bit.

Anyway! Another thing checked off the WTT list!!

 

[MollyMalone]

THE TESTS ARE HERE!! haha. The only thing though, I got offered a position as a senior nurse in the UK. GREAT package, still have to negociate the salary but if I were to take it I would possibly have to postpone TTC, not sure though. Even so, I don't think I'll take it this year because I would have to enrol in another college for next year.. etc and it would be too much hassle.

Hahaha, congrats on the arrival of the tests, Molly!!

Congrats on the offer! What else besides enrolling in college makes you doubtful about taking the position? Would you not be able to take your maternity leave? How likely is it that you will have it offered again if you don't take it now? Are you guaranteed to have the chance again in another couple of years?

The main, and probably only cons I see it the fact that I don't see feasible starting year 2 of the MSc in September if I was to move to the UK within the next few months. I mean, I found had to think of a question for my thesis for my current job because I only started here in January. I'm doing my final assignment at the moment, but the second I finish I need to start with a proposal letter for the Director of my service because I need aproval by July and should have the lit review and the paperwork done for the ethics committee by august. So yep, definitely not happening this year if I move.

The other con is TTC. I would need to delay the start if I want to get any maternity leave (have to be employed for a year by the time I start taking time off), it would only be a few more months though. However, in this job I get my full salary for 6 months of maternity leave (then I can get a few more week unpaid if I want to). Overthere I think I get 8 weeks with full salary and 18 with only half, then the optional weeks as well. But as fas as I know the father is entitled to 2 weeks paternity leave (unlike here).

The thing is if I want to continue with college, and can't realistically start this year..I will have to wait probably over a year to start TTCing. So I'm pregnant during the course but don't deliver until I'm finished (like I plan to do now, only delaying it at least for another year). I hope it makes sense because its a bit of a mess.

Now, I probably will be able to get as good of an offer next year. The shortage of nurses in Ireland and the UK is unbelievable. I get phone calls and emails a few times a week asking me if I want to move jobs, and I'm not even applying to places. They send me a contract on friday and an offer with it. It was a lot more than I earn now (I took a huge paycut when I changed jobs in January, but it meant better hours and closer to home). I declined because the basic salary was slightly less than my previous jobs (I told them I was looking for something higher than that), when the allowances the hospital gives are included it was quite a bit more but I wasnt convinced.

DH is all for it now, but I need an offer that motivates me haha. It'd be a big hassle to move now and very unexpected. So I emailed them saying exactly that... now I'll have to wait to see if they make another offer. I'd say they will but I'm kinda hoping they don't so I don't have to think about all of this until next year as planned.

I fail to mention, but this all started when my sister and DH convinced me to meet with the 2 reps to get a information package for next year. They thought I was going in for an interiew. Once the mistake was cleared they asked to do the interview anyway (to get the job its meant to be a long process with a few interviews). Since I was already there I accepted, I didnt prepare and wasnt even dressed appropriately but at the end of it they said they wanted me on the team and here we are.

 

[MollyMalone]

I forgot!!! Congrats on the new step towards TTC!!

 

[cupcake.]

Hi ladies, how's everyone doing?

It's only 3 more months! It feels kind of surreal right now that we're actually starting to ttc in just 3 months

OH and me went out for some ice cream today and he was like "have there always been so many pregnant women around? It's like everywhere you look a woman's pregnant!" and I was like "you only think that because you're more aware of pregnancy right now"
It was actually quite cute haha

 

[ja14]

Three months away seems so very close!
I've been meaning to call and make my first appointment with a midwife (for a yearly exam, and to mention ttc this year) , and I finally made the call a couple days ago. I was told they are scheduling for June now, but didn't have the template yet so they would have to call me back when they did to schedule. That was kind of disappointing to me, but at least I'm closer to getting it!

 

[cupcake.]

Three months away seems so very close!
I've been meaning to call and make my first appointment with a midwife (for a yearly exam, and to mention ttc this year) , and I finally made the call a couple days ago. I was told they are scheduling for June now, but didn't have the template yet so they would have to call me back when they did to schedule. That was kind of disappointing to me, but at least I'm closer to getting it!

I totally have to do that too, i keep forgetting to make an appointment at my doctors

 

[Sakura15]

Molly: It's slightly complicated but I think I got it! Good on you for letting them know exactly what your position is, and I also understand your hope that they don't want to negotiate and that making it easier! Doesn't seem like there'd be a 'right' or 'wrong' on this if you have no health issues that might prevent you from conceiving a year later, and it seems like the job market for you is relatively secure as well. So all down to what you and OH truly want. There are certainly worse dilemmas Hope you and OH are able to make the choice you feel best about.

cupcake: 3 months is quite short! Technically, I think it's closer to 4 for me as I think I'll be starting towards the very end of August (unless I can sway OH to NTNP in July ) . But time has flown already just to get here! It's 3 months already since we decided on our TTC date, and time has just been ticking by which I love!

ja14: Every step closer counts! Now you know what the procedure is and can prepare accordingly.

I do need to schedule my regular yearly exam in the next couple of months too...And I also want to go to the dentist. Not directly TTC related, but I haven't been in ages. Just one less complication if I clear any dental work before August.

 

[ja14]

I do need to schedule my regular yearly exam in the next couple of months too...And I also want to go to the dentist. Not directly TTC related, but I haven't been in ages. Just one less complication if I clear any dental work before August.

Going to the dentist is big on my list too! I need to get my wisdom teeth removed, and I would really love to do that before I have a child to care for! lol. I attempted to make that appointment as well, but the oral surgeon I called didn't do evaluations on Fridays, which I'd have to do before scheduling surgery, and that's my only available time during their hours.
I'm at a new job, and we've been short handed on top of that, so I really do not want to ask off of work just yet.

 

[ja14]

Oh, something else I wanted to ask- Have any of you stopped the birth control pill recently? I stopped taking it months ago, either Septmember or October, and my cycle is still really weird! It's def something I'll be talking about at my midwife appointment, but I was wondering if any of you experienced something similar, and if your doctor gave you anything to help.

Just to clarify what I mean by weird, before I started bcp my cycles were probably 32-35 days long. During, they was 28 days. Since stopping It's been 45, 33, 48, 44, 48.

 

[Sakura15]

Good luck scheduling your dental work, ja14.

Will leave the other ladies to give you advice about coming off bcps. I came off last year but switched to the Mirena soon after so even though I still had no periods for a few months (I didn't have them at all on the pill), I'm sure the Mirena played some part in regularising them - when they did come back they were very light but like clockwork. Now this cycle seems to be going a bit whacko after Mirena removal - expected to be ovulating anytime now but OPKs are still negative...but I suppose this is why I got it out a few months ahead of time so I'm not worried about it.

Have you been charting or tracking your cycle other than noting the length?

 

[Fortune123]

Hi Ladies!

I just found this forum, and count me in please!~ additional member wtt in aug15! ^^

I am going to start the prenatal vitamins on 1st of may! Have been started to eat healthy lately by consuming pumpkin seeds, broccoli, cereals, soy milk etc hopefully my body will be prepared and ready in Aug15. How about your ladies?

In fact during these months of waiting, I am so afraid whether am I infertile etc. So I purchase the ovulation kit and chart my BBT so to try put me at ease while waiting.

This is the first time i am trying for a baby, have been married 2 years, currently staying in California but moving back to asia in Sep, so I wish to bring a surprise back home so so so much!

 

[dgirl]

We are aiming for July! Welcome and I hope it goes quickly for you!

 

[ja14]

Have you been charting or tracking your cycle other than noting the length?

I keep meaning to temp in the morning, but can't seem to remember when I wake up!

 

[MollyMalone]

Well, I decided to decline the job offer in the end. I did some extra research on the hospital and it did not suit me. I won't be talked into "getting information" for any other positions until I finish my masters. This means that TTC will go ahead in August .

I'm working on my last assignment also, which means that I will have a few weeks of enjoying my days off before getting stuck in the research proposal. Plus the monster in law is leaving on sunday. More reasons to be happy (We are gettin on better now though haha)

 

[Earthylove]

woohoo! glad you have some good news MollyMalone!

 

[busytulip]

Happy for you Molly! You must be relieved to have made a decision.

Welcome Fortune! :wave:

ja-I've never taken BCP in any form so I'm no help, sorry.

Sakura- I've been scheduling those types of appt. as well. I had my yearly last month and will see the dentist next week.

 

[ja14]

ja-I've never taken BCP in any form so I'm no help, sorry.

Yeah, I don't think I'll ever take a hormonal birth control again. It really effected my mood, and when I finally decided to stop it was because after missing a couple pills I spotted for over a month, and I had had enough! (After the spotting stopped, I did take it for an additional month to try not to get my hormones really outta whack)

The pasted six months I sort of hoped for an "oops", and that never happened lol so I don't think the bcp is crucial for me.

 

[Sakura15]

Hi ladies! How's everyone doing? Here I am procrastinating rather than writing my paper...

Welcome, Fortune 123! What part of Asia are you from? I'm in China. And try not to worry - stress is no good for our cycles. I have definitely found that charting puts my mind at ease too, though - I like having an idea of what's going on inside there!

Big decision, MollyMalone. Glad you're happy with it! And selfishly glad you'll still TTC in August too

 

[Fortune123]

Sakura15 - I'm from singapore So is this your first attempt for a baby in Aug as well?

I cant wait for Aug to come already!

3 months left,ladies! ^^

 

[busytulip]

I've just had a look ahead to my cycle prediction in FF and it looks like my fertile window won't be until the first week of September. That's if I continue to have long cycles. Has anyone else looked ahead?