WTT with a view to TTC in Sept/Oct/Nov - looking for a TTC buddy!

[Emz1982_in_uk]

Congratulations Miss B. Reuben is beautiful and so is his name. I like biblical boys names. How are you feeling x

Sorry you got a BFN miss sunshine. May have been a chemical as I definitely saw a line. I have everything crossed for you x

Almost, wishing you all the best with the next analysis. I hope you get your BFP soon x

I think this baby girl is fully engaged now. Lots of pressure low down and I constantly *cough cough* feel damp down there. She was 4/5ths engaged at my 38 week appt. Next appt is Friday. I was 6 days late with my son, hopefully won't have to wait that long this time around x

 

[PreshFest]

Congrats Miss Broody!!!!! You should post a birth story when you get a chance! I love those

 

[MissBroody]

Thanks for the messages of congrats ladies Presh I will most definitely be writing up a birth story when I get chance - it's nice to look back on and yyou forget so much as time goes on don't ou?! I still sometimes go back and read Harrison's birth story I wrote on here. The birth itself went well but I became really ill afterwards. I should write it whilst I still have the maternity notes, before the midwife takes them away...

How is everyone else doing? Emz - I bet you'll go early this time!

Almost - no reason at all why you won't get your 3 babies doesn't IVF have a high rate of multiples?! you may have 3 all in one go!!

xx

 

[almosthere]

yes it does-at this point I will take two in one pop!! haha spotting today brown/pink....but I always spot so assuming af is on her way early :/

on a bright note, dh's motility went from 15% to 40%-still not the 50% they would like, but man do I like the numbers anyway!

his sperm count was 23mil instead of 11 mil too so made my day, but still need to follow up with FS..

 

[Jembug]

Hi Ladies. Sorry sunshine, the body is just so cruel! Next month....

Almost those numbers are good? So there Is still a good chance you will fall pregnant naturally! You never know, with that spotting..

Emz, what do you do for work? You did well to work up to your due date!! I did 38 weeks with my first but it was tough.

Presh, our babies could even end up being on the same day! Ha ha!

Hope your doing ok Sonia.

Ahh miss broody, he is a beaut! Defo need a birth story though
Hope your feeling better after your blood.

Hope all you other pregnant ladies are doing well
Xxx

 

[Soniamillie01]

Almosthere - those figures sound promising, when will you have you next appointment? I so hope you fall before then, I bet hubby is pleased with the test results?

All good with me, finally started to feel 'normal' again, apart from yesterday when I had ms again but generally much better. Next apt is 1 August with a pregnancy dietician, should be fun! Then August 22 for scan, I'm still leaning heavily towards team blue x

 

[miss malteser]

Miss Broody - congratulations again but where has everyone seen the photos?? I want to see some photos of little Reuben too!

Almost - glad the numbers have improved. When do you hope to start with the ivf?

Emz - any sign of your little girl yet??

I´ve now only got 6 weeks to go and can´t wait! I´m going to start taking raspberry leaf tea capsules today as I´ve heard that they can really help speed up labour and get everything back to normal down there after the birth.

We had lunch with DHs family on Saturday and his extremely truthful grandma told us that she hated the name we´ve chosen and his mum was telling us how one of her friends takes her 1 year old grandaughter to the swimming pool everyday in summer and that she´ll be doing the same next year! When I asked why my daughter wouldn´t be with me (we don´t even live in the same town as my MIL!) she said that I would have found a job by then and that she was going to look after Emma everyday! It´s nice to know that she would be willing to look after her if needs be but it´s a bit worrying that she´s already convinced that she will look after her everyday. Things might not turn out like that, I might not have a job, may work part time, etc...and I´ve a feeling that she´s going to end up very disappointed.

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

Almost - I'm really pleased you had better news this time. Hopefully good news will continue.

Sonia - will you be finding out gender of the baby?

MissB - The only thing I really hope for is going naturally at some point without induction

Jem - I work for Herts Police in a civilian admin role. I really enjoy my job and it's office based so didn't mind working right up until the end this time

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

No signs yet Hun

Ooooooh the in laws. Gotta love them. DH's great aunt refuses to call Kai by his first name and insists on calling him Jack which is his middle name. She is 92 mind so I just let her lol

My MIL assumes things too sometimes but I think it's just with the intention of being helpful. Tbh my in laws do look after Kai 3 times a week and save us a fortune in childcare thank goodness. But to assume before baby is even here is a bit premature IMO. Maybe you could just say when you next see her that you really don't know what your plans will be until nearer the time x

 

[Soniamillie01]

Yes, we are going to find out the gender. I am convinced we are having a boy, hubby and I don't mind either way but know he would like a boy first, and I would like a girl, at some point, so if this one is a boy we would have another, well in my mind we will, not sure Steve will agree mind!

I think I am starting to feel the early flutters. Had them yesterday after eating lunch and thought that they were either flutters or I was in for some wind Well this morning I have been having them again so hoping these are early flutters.

We have now got our cot and linen for it, pic below. We are going for quite a neutral room regardless of gender so will decorate walls in a light grey to match linen and will be getting a wall transfer as below

 

[almosthere]

Morning ladies

W are glad the numbers were better-but was not told how many out of my sperm count was alive...the first analysis I was told dh had 11 million but only 2mil were alive....

As far as IVF I want to start ASAP as it is a two month process per cycle-b.c I would have to go back on the horrid bcps for a month then start the process....so I would love for next month, but at the latest, September....So FX I am preg. by October with first transfer!!!

 

[PreshFest]

YAY Almost! It'll happen frist try for you. You're young with a healthy uterus, so you're in good shape for a lil embryo to snuggle into!!

I am wondering something, though, and I hope it's ok to ask... Does insurance cover IVF or how to people afford it? I'm not sure how much it is, but I'm guessing terribly expensive!

 

[almosthere]

Well I need to look into it further, but my insurance covers up to 3 IVF procedures although I think only by 80% or it is like considered a surgery so we would have to pay 2,500.....which is why we are considering asking for my parents help with our condo fees so we can pay for the ivf....it sickens me that we have to pay to get pregnant, but I know it will be worth it. DH and I are paying for our college on our own plus we each have car payments and other bills- so it makes it very hard as I have not worked full time ever....but will at end of August thank goodness....

 

[Jembug]

I was wandering that too.... I'm sure here in the uk it's something like 5 thousand each time- although I'm sure that's wrong? And you only get the first cycle free if you don't have any children, ect!

First flutters.... Amazing! I gelt Isla at 16 ish weeks and Demi at 14 ish weeks so I'm hoping I will feel this one I'm the next couple of weeks?

Funny how family get! My husband orinally wanted me to go back 52 hours a week without my baby- so two days with mil and the three days with childcare! He was an arse back then though and didn't have a clue what a baby would mean to you! Ive always worked three days and somehow managed to only miss out on two days a week with my girls I'm very lucky! Although I did miss out on Demi's first steps and missed Isla's first tooth

Hope your all coping in the heat? I've slept all day after a night shift amazingly! Off to pick the girls up for tea in the garden. Two more nights to go and the weeks is mine xxx

 

[PreshFest]

Almost, that is GREAT that your insurance covers that!! And in the grand scheme of things 2500 is not all that much. I know the insurance we have does not cover IVF at all, so I know a few people that have had to pay for it all out of pocket. Pricy. So my one friend was totally lucky to get twins out of the deal!

 

[Soniamillie01]

I think in the uk it is a bit of a postcode lottery, some get the first attempt for free others have to pay all dependant on your postcode which is so wrong!
Hope your insurance does cover it x

 

[mazndave]

Already said it on facebook, but congrats again MissBroody!! Reuben is such a handsome little chap and making me so excited for my Seth arriving!!

Emz, not long for you at all now, and well done you for working right up. All that extra time afterwards to spend with your family will be so worth it. My friend left at 29 weeks and really regretted it. I'm working til 37 weeks but I'm fed up already, it's way to hot in our office, and my replacement started 5 weeks ago so I've essentially got nothing to do from weeks 25-37!! Bored out of my mind. I could leave earlier but I won't, it's not my fault they got someone in too soon!

Almost, it sounds promising that his sa was better this time. I may be wrong but I'm sure I've heard that certain factors can temporarily reduce the number of viable sperm, but it can regenerate within 3 months if those factors change? Maybe this could be happening? Whatever the case, I'm sure that if IVF IS the end outcome, it will be very succesful for you, you're a healthy young woman so the odds should be greatly in your favour. Fingers crossed that insurance will cover the cost for you, or at least the majority. It's a terrible expense.

Miss M, families and their opinions and ideas can be awfully annoying sometimes!! I'm glad that ours know better than to give me their unwanted ones - I think they know what response they'd get!! That being said, I'd love it if someone could offer to have Seth for me when I go back to work. The nursery fees are looking at being £500per month for 3 days a week, with no help towards it. I can see why a lot of people choose to not go back.

Sonia - I think you're having a girl!! Not that long to wait until you find out either, how exciting. Love the little wall quote for your nursery. We've got the tree decal in Seth's room, but then in ours over the crib we're having 'first we had each other, then we had you, now we have everything'

Sunshine, sorry that you've been messed around by tests this month. TTC can be a cruel process sometimes, but it WILL be your turn soon.

Can't believe I have less than 10 weeks left now! Going so quickly. August is shaping up to be a busy month for us too, so will prob go even quicker. Looking at getting a new car at the beginning of the month, then I'm having a bump shoot sometime around the 16th, and have my antenatel classes on the 18th, 19th, 25th and 26th. Looking forward to these as I feel like as organised as I am with buying things, I'm clueless about actually taking care of a newborn! It scares me a little to think it won't be long until a precious life is in my hands. Although this isn't stopping me from thinking about how soon we could start trying for a second! This may change once Seth is here and the reality of a baby puts me off for a bit though!!

xx

 

[Soniamillie01]

Ah that is so cute, I love the transfers, they save completely decorating and can be changed. I secretly am hoping for a girl but honestly do not mind either way, I know if we have a boy we will, at my desire, have another, if it's a girl I think that will be it. I think dh would like a boy as it's nice for man to have a son first but know how much he absolutely adores our nieces and vice versa.

Can't believe you have ten weeks, that will fly by!

I'm technically working till my due date although our office closes dec 24 for Christmas so I have the added bonus of the two weeks off paid without having to take leave. They keep two days from our annual allowance to cover the two weeks off, bonus I think! I'm then going to take my leave as cannot carry it over so will finish dec 7 but not on maternity which will give me extra time afterwards. Also work have agreed that if baby comes late I can take leave for the days until baby does arrive so either way it will be from date of arrival! At the moment, realistically I think I'll be back after three months on a part time basis. I HATE THE THOUGHT ALREADY but don't really have an alternative. It does mean I can go part time to work around child care etc so costs won't be too high and still keep most of my salary, actually losing less than what I would if they pro rota'd down to the 30 hrs but luckily they're not doing that that's the worse case but we are trying to save so I can have 6 months off. Would also do half in office half at home. X

 

[PreshFest]

Going on leave at 29 weeks!? That is crazy! I'm a little jealous of it, but if it means you miss out on time with baby afterwards, then I would never do it. We only get 12 weeks leave here, so I worked until 41 weeks!! Luckily I had her 2 days after that . But I plan on doing the same this time. I hope to work until I go into labor and then just head straight to the hospital!

I actually had a dream the other night that I had the baby in my office at work! And it's middle name was '19' since I'm on the 19th floor lmao.

 

[Jembug]

Ha ha Presh!
I actually went at 29 weeks with my second!! Ha ha
My reasons were because I hated my nanny job and I wanted to spend as much with Isla as I possibly could. I felt so guilty having another. My day of my leave I came down with the flu... So did my husband. We were both bed ridden for five days and I lost a stone in weight and at 30 weeks being that sick was very scary!
I don't ever want to be that poorly again! Has anyone had the flu jab yet?

This time round my contract ends 16th Jan and Ive still got three weeks holiday so I'm hoping that I will start leave just about when the baby arrives?

Sonia, do you not get an extra from your company, salary wise? I think the statutory maternity pay has just increased so I think it's gone up to £129 a week. I'm hoping I just about qualify for the enhanced maternity package with the NHS but I'm not sure?
Xx