Skywalker
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Woo!
Okay, so I talked to yet another one of my friends, who made the very compelling argument that he cannot weasel out of legally enforced child support. I originally didn't know how I could get child support or IF I could with us being citizens of different countries and me going back to the States which is why I thought of continuing work for him. Turns out I can get child support through NZ government but only after she's born, so I still need his help in the meantime, but at least this is a silver lining for the rest of the years of her life!
I was totally braindead on whether to file in NZ or US, so I just called the Office of Internal Affairs and sorted it all out! Great news is that since ex-OH will be on the birth certificate, I can simply fill out an application for Citizenship by Descent for my baby once she is born. Once she is granted NZ Citizenship, I can then file with the NZ government for child support so that they can enforce it on my ex-OH and he will have to pay. So I'm doubly happy - I was so concerned that I couldn't get child support enforced being a US citizen and ex-OH being a NZ citizen, but it turns out I can!
In the meantime, I'm asking for him to do the honorable thing and keep to his agreement that he would help me through this pregnancy, which he may or may not do. I am thinking of telling him that if he does not, I really don't want him having anything to do with my child beyond the mandatory child support he will be required to pay once I file. And even if he tries to sell his company to exempt himself from child support, the proceeds from the sale of the company would still count as "taxable income" and would ironically just have the effect of making him pay me MORE in child support, and I was just told by my friend that if he defaults on payment, they can freeze his bank account, even seize property, and I don't have to chase him up at all. It's government enforced. I am so relieved.
But I at least know that if I can make it through this nine months until she is born, once she is born, I can file for the citizenship and child support. And I will do whatever it takes to provide for her and see to it that he does his share.
So it's a bit of a silver lining on a rough situation! Finally! Relief!
Okay, so I talked to yet another one of my friends, who made the very compelling argument that he cannot weasel out of legally enforced child support. I originally didn't know how I could get child support or IF I could with us being citizens of different countries and me going back to the States which is why I thought of continuing work for him. Turns out I can get child support through NZ government but only after she's born, so I still need his help in the meantime, but at least this is a silver lining for the rest of the years of her life!
I was totally braindead on whether to file in NZ or US, so I just called the Office of Internal Affairs and sorted it all out! Great news is that since ex-OH will be on the birth certificate, I can simply fill out an application for Citizenship by Descent for my baby once she is born. Once she is granted NZ Citizenship, I can then file with the NZ government for child support so that they can enforce it on my ex-OH and he will have to pay. So I'm doubly happy - I was so concerned that I couldn't get child support enforced being a US citizen and ex-OH being a NZ citizen, but it turns out I can!
In the meantime, I'm asking for him to do the honorable thing and keep to his agreement that he would help me through this pregnancy, which he may or may not do. I am thinking of telling him that if he does not, I really don't want him having anything to do with my child beyond the mandatory child support he will be required to pay once I file. And even if he tries to sell his company to exempt himself from child support, the proceeds from the sale of the company would still count as "taxable income" and would ironically just have the effect of making him pay me MORE in child support, and I was just told by my friend that if he defaults on payment, they can freeze his bank account, even seize property, and I don't have to chase him up at all. It's government enforced. I am so relieved.
But I at least know that if I can make it through this nine months until she is born, once she is born, I can file for the citizenship and child support. And I will do whatever it takes to provide for her and see to it that he does his share.
So it's a bit of a silver lining on a rough situation! Finally! Relief!