"You'll practically have twins!" ...

[MaisyMay]

This was the response of another member of staff at my school when she asked me how old my ds will be when this baby arrives. Maybe I'm just hormonal/ having a bad day, but it really annoyed me. I laughed and walked off, do I didn't say anything rude, I never would, I'm known for bring a doormat lol, but I walked off thinking wth? Ds will be exactly two when this little butterbean arrives and I don't think that's a tiny age gap, but I felt like she was judging me, with her comment and to be frank condescending look! Ugh just a bad day at work maybe!

 

[Sour_Skittle]

So according to her I will have triplets... Lol between my first two is 22 months and between my second and this one will be 26 months.

I personally don't think she meant to be mean by what she says but some people just don't think before they speak or think how someone may take it. I'm sure I've said my fair share of stupid without meaning to. Try not to let it get to you. it's your life, your decision screw what everyone else says or thinks.

 

[cupcaker]

Urgh whatever I thought two years was very standard?! I work with someone who has 5 children and she's timed those roughly 2 years, smallest gap being 18 months and her brood are all awesome. My son will be 18 months when new one arrives.

 

[george83]

That's a strange thing to have said for that age gap it is pretty standard. We were hoping for a 2 year age gap and sadly had a mc so we've ended up with 2 and a half years and I was worried that's too big!

 

[Yo_Yo]

People just don't think before they speak do they? The gap isn't that close-one of my friends has two 11 months apart!

 

[CaptainMummy]

Some people! There will be 13 months between my youngest daughter and the new baby

 

[notmommyyet]

2 years is a perfect age gap. I think if they are under a year apart aka Irish twins then that is super close. People are stupid lol

 

[Unexpected212]

People keep saying 'Your brave' in a really condescending knowing way like my life will be awful lol

Many people have asked if it was planned as well which upsets me because we had a miscarriage between them.

There will be a 22 month gap when she is born

 

[Spiffynoodles]

I will have three kids 2 and 1/2 and younger, so I guess I definitely qualify as triplets! Honestly, my oldest is a little over 2 now, and while she can be a pain some days, it's nothing like having a newborn. What a weird comment.

 

[NotNic]

My mil had three under 16mths (actual set of twins!). Thats brave! Realistically I've found people at work have no concept of how old my son is. They forget he was 11mths when I came back to work and I've been back more than a year. Perhaps your colleagues are the same? It would p me off though

 

[sprite30]

Honestly when a good friend of mine got pg when her Baby was only 3 months old I thought she was absolutely insane however...now that we know we have fertility issues we won't be going on any birth control once our baby is born and if we end up with Irish twins or 2 under 2 I would consider it a blessing. I think some people just don't understand why other people make the decisions they make. And at the end of the day they are yours to make not hers. I've probably said a whole bunch of things to my friend that I now wish I could take back but nevertheless she was def rude

2 years is very standard. My sister and I are 18 months apart and all of my cousins are around 2 years apart as well. Now my nieces and nephews in the other hand are 3 years apart which is probably more of a manageable age gap now a days but whatever ...it's none of her bees wax

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

i think its a strange comment as 2 years is a pretty standard gap.

i'm the same as spiffynoodles as my eldest will be 2 and a half when my third is born!

 

[MaisyMay]

People keep saying 'Your brave' in a really condescending knowing way like my life will be awful lol

Many people have asked if it was planned as well which upsets me because we had a miscarriage between them.

There will be a 22 month gap when she is born

I completely sympathise with this. Two colleagues have asked me if it was planned and we too had a miscarriage just a month before we fell with this lo.
I think the question is so rude and completely none of anyone's business anyway!

 

[MaisyMay]

Well congratulations to all the triplet mummies it really isn't any of anyone else's business is it? I've come to realise that pregnancy seems to be a green light for many people to ask overly personal questions and make personal and inappropriate comments. I agree that 18 months - two years seems a pretty standard/common age gap (in the crowds I know anyway) but each to their own. One if my friends got pregnant with her ds3 when her ds2 was just 3 weeks old! They're just under 9 months apart cos her ds3 came early! Now that was hard work! Mainly cos she found it so incredibly difficult being pregnant with a newborn and ds1 being a toddling three year old, but hey ho they're insanely happy now . Good luck to all us twin and triplet mummas lol

 

[SisterRose]

2 years sounds like a nice age gap! There will be 12 months between our youngest and new baby and we keep hearing the same things. I think people should just keep their thoughts to themselves and butt out personally

 

[LapinRose]

I also don't want more than a 2 year age gap, so I don't understand her weird comment either. A 2 years and a newborn is not like having twins at all...

 

[Zeri]

I agree 2 years is a good age gap - what is she talking about?

Anyway, I'd definitely suggest having a 'comeback' if you get a comment like this next time around...something like, "Actually, I think 2 years is a perfectly fine age gap" You'll feel a lot better for speaking up assertively. When I was preggo with my 1st, I got a lot of nosy and rude comments too...but because I didn't really know what I was doing, I took in the commemts...even though they really bothered me after. It's easier when it's your 2nd because you know what you're dealing with 2nd time around - so I would definitely speak up and let them know you know what you're doing and what you're about, thank you very much.

 

[Hoping4Four]

My first two are 2 years apart. Well, 2 years and 2 days to be precise! It's not like having twins at all. My oldest wanted to "help" with the baby and she absolutely loved having a little sister.. Not a hint of jealousy!

I found the age gap very easy... so much so that another 2 years and 2 months later I had number 3

 

[NotNic]

Half of my NCT group have recently had their second (20-24mth age gap) and apart from them not entirely understanding pregnancy, the gap has worked very well. 2yos, IMO are pretty easy.

My cousin has 11mths between her two. She hasnt enjoyed being pregnant for close to two years and finds it hard work, but reassures herself that its only easier from here and her Los will be at a similar stage from toddler onwards so it will be much easier. I also often have my niece (8mths between both children) and I can say from when the youngest was at the cruising stage, it was hardly much more work having both of them. Those of you with smaller gaps will be through the baby stage much quicker than me!

 

[MamaLa]

Pay it no mind. All of my siblings are about 2 years apart, it was nice growing up like that nice bond always had a live in friend, and if I needed help with homework, my siblings could help.