mumsince2010
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well... i'm not sure who to talk to, my family is so help. so im sorry for turning my post into a whinge...
Sigh... i made the decision to leave OH, We have been fighting almost everyday, since before i even knew i was pregnant (pregnancy was unplanned). we are just too different people who want too many different things. He isnt very affectionate towards me, and he thinks cleaning the house, driving me to our antenatal appointments/scans, sleeping in the same bed and having sex, proves how much he cares for me. i disagree. because he does these things "for himself" he likes the house bleached clean, and he drives because he wants to be at the appointment. sleeping in the same bed, well i co sleep with friends and family if theres no spare beds and the sex... well he guilts me into having sex with him anyway, im not even supposed to be having sex (drs orders) and you can have sex with people and its meaningless.
Ive been thinking about it for weeks now, so im positive its not hormones... i just... i dont love him anymore, and i havent for a while now. The thing thats bothering me, is he didnt even try to fight for me, to try and give me a reason why we should make it work or anything. He asked me not to give up, and then he just said ok, and he'll pack his stuff up tomorrow and move out...
i just cant cope with the non stop fighting, everything is always my fault! i never do what he wants me to do and im not the Woman he wants me to be. i feel like ive made the right choice. infact i havent even cried... so to me thats a sure thing that this is right for me. We arent meant for eachother, and saying "i love you" is only words. there is no romance anymore, infact there never was any from him in the first place. i was a matter of convenience at the beginning.
ive sacrificed my family for him, my friends... and it simply just isnt working between us! im miserable! i never feel wanted, only used! i feel like a piece of trash when im around him and i pay for EVERYTHING... the house, the bills... EVERYTHING! i dont know what he does with his money and when i ask he says bills ... WHAT BLOODY BILLS!!?? He messages other woman also, fair enough he doesnt physically sleep with them, but the contents of the messages IMO is still cheating. im emotionally exhausted, and im scared of being a single mother to two but what else can i do? remain miserable for the rest of my life and have it affect my children? He told me there is no future for us anyway, that what we have now is how it will be forever... meaning he wont ever propose to me.... sigh
Do any of you think ive over reacted or that it is hormones? my family and friends arent being very supportive :-/
Sigh... i made the decision to leave OH, We have been fighting almost everyday, since before i even knew i was pregnant (pregnancy was unplanned). we are just too different people who want too many different things. He isnt very affectionate towards me, and he thinks cleaning the house, driving me to our antenatal appointments/scans, sleeping in the same bed and having sex, proves how much he cares for me. i disagree. because he does these things "for himself" he likes the house bleached clean, and he drives because he wants to be at the appointment. sleeping in the same bed, well i co sleep with friends and family if theres no spare beds and the sex... well he guilts me into having sex with him anyway, im not even supposed to be having sex (drs orders) and you can have sex with people and its meaningless.
Ive been thinking about it for weeks now, so im positive its not hormones... i just... i dont love him anymore, and i havent for a while now. The thing thats bothering me, is he didnt even try to fight for me, to try and give me a reason why we should make it work or anything. He asked me not to give up, and then he just said ok, and he'll pack his stuff up tomorrow and move out...
i just cant cope with the non stop fighting, everything is always my fault! i never do what he wants me to do and im not the Woman he wants me to be. i feel like ive made the right choice. infact i havent even cried... so to me thats a sure thing that this is right for me. We arent meant for eachother, and saying "i love you" is only words. there is no romance anymore, infact there never was any from him in the first place. i was a matter of convenience at the beginning.
ive sacrificed my family for him, my friends... and it simply just isnt working between us! im miserable! i never feel wanted, only used! i feel like a piece of trash when im around him and i pay for EVERYTHING... the house, the bills... EVERYTHING! i dont know what he does with his money and when i ask he says bills ... WHAT BLOODY BILLS!!?? He messages other woman also, fair enough he doesnt physically sleep with them, but the contents of the messages IMO is still cheating. im emotionally exhausted, and im scared of being a single mother to two but what else can i do? remain miserable for the rest of my life and have it affect my children? He told me there is no future for us anyway, that what we have now is how it will be forever... meaning he wont ever propose to me.... sigh
Do any of you think ive over reacted or that it is hormones? my family and friends arent being very supportive :-/
i am soo sorry your in such a hard situation and things are soo rough, you have to be strong and sure and stand your grounds in situation like this
i was 19weeks yesterday now 19weeks 1 day can't believe it only 20weeks 6 days till my due date wonder how long baby will hold out
Feeling light kicks atm, cannot wait for DF to feel him too 
hope all goes well. 
first one ever - decided to have the filling as don't want to leave it and not sure we have dental cover in the US. Visited my old workplace yesterday- first time in 4 months since I left - was nice to see everyone and Ben had fun playing ball with my old colleagues as well as picking up all the bits off the floor in the various offices we visited - the cleaners will have an easy job on Monday. Also met up with all my post-natal friends and their children- was lovely to catch up with them but also sad to say good-bye to them. Then been a busy bee doing dump runs, dropping off stuff to charity shops and doing more form filling today. Also our car sold at the auction yesterday but for a pretty crap price - rubbish 
