Hi everyone,
I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant and found out on Sunday that it is a little boy. I already have a daughter who is almost 3 and all I keep getting from everyone is 'oh one of each, you must be delighted!' So why am I not?! I know that 1 of each is probably a dream for most people but not for me.
I never cared growing up whether I was going to have boys or girls but all I knew is that I wanted 2 of the same gender. I wanted them to grow up being best friends and passing down clothes/toys etc to each other and now that I know that will never happen I feel completely lost.
I feel so disconnected with the baby now and I am absolutely terrified I won't be able to bond with him when he's here or that I will end up with post natal depression. I feel so angry and disgusted with myself for thinking these things and I wish I could flip a switch to make it all ok but I just can't get these horrible thoughts out of my head.
I can't talk to my husband about this because he is over the moon we are having a boy and I would hate to say anything that would take that away from him. I just feel like I have been robbed of the life I always dreamt I would have and I can't imagine how it is going to be now. I feel like the worst mum in the world for thinking these things and I just wish I could fast forward to him being here so that I will hopefully be able to create a bond with him that right now I just can't imagine x
I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant and found out on Sunday that it is a little boy. I already have a daughter who is almost 3 and all I keep getting from everyone is 'oh one of each, you must be delighted!' So why am I not?! I know that 1 of each is probably a dream for most people but not for me.
I never cared growing up whether I was going to have boys or girls but all I knew is that I wanted 2 of the same gender. I wanted them to grow up being best friends and passing down clothes/toys etc to each other and now that I know that will never happen I feel completely lost.
I feel so disconnected with the baby now and I am absolutely terrified I won't be able to bond with him when he's here or that I will end up with post natal depression. I feel so angry and disgusted with myself for thinking these things and I wish I could flip a switch to make it all ok but I just can't get these horrible thoughts out of my head.
I can't talk to my husband about this because he is over the moon we are having a boy and I would hate to say anything that would take that away from him. I just feel like I have been robbed of the life I always dreamt I would have and I can't imagine how it is going to be now. I feel like the worst mum in the world for thinking these things and I just wish I could fast forward to him being here so that I will hopefully be able to create a bond with him that right now I just can't imagine x