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I feel like I'm posting a lot... sorry...
It's just that my daughter has changed SO much over the past month and I'm learning to adjust with her. She's become too smart for her own good, and is talking and close to walking and I'm just...
Anyways, since 6 months old she has been a dream at bedtime. Weird, really. I mean... I would just rock her for a minute or two, put her down, and.... lights out!
But the past two nights, the second I start lowering her down, she screams and has the most terrible, heart wrenching cry. It sounds like I've hurt her in every way possible and she is heartbroken. I usually walk out of the room after saying goodnight, only to return 60 seconds later to calm her down.
Tonight, I did this about 6 times. Each time, she cried terribly and violently when I started to put her down. Nothing is wrong... she doesn't seem ill, and honestly, she hardly ever cries like this unless she's scared or hurt (emotionally).
Finally, the 6th time I went in, I rocked her until I felt her "release" as if she had fallen asleep, and then I put her down, and she started crying immediately, trying to hold on to me.
I told her I loved her and said goodnight, and then came out. I decided this time, I would force myself to wait longer than 60 seconds. I waited for about 2 minutes, and she started to calm down, and by 3 minutes she was silent. She's still asleep now.
I really don't like the idea of CIO for me, it just breaks my heart. And so I feel bad even letting her cry for the 3 minutes that she did!
Any suggestions? Anything I can do better to help her feel more secure? Do you think it's separation anxiety or fear of the dark? (My gut says separation anxiety, but we haven't dealt with it until just now, isn't that weird??)
Thanks so much
It's just that my daughter has changed SO much over the past month and I'm learning to adjust with her. She's become too smart for her own good, and is talking and close to walking and I'm just...
Anyways, since 6 months old she has been a dream at bedtime. Weird, really. I mean... I would just rock her for a minute or two, put her down, and.... lights out!
But the past two nights, the second I start lowering her down, she screams and has the most terrible, heart wrenching cry. It sounds like I've hurt her in every way possible and she is heartbroken. I usually walk out of the room after saying goodnight, only to return 60 seconds later to calm her down.
Tonight, I did this about 6 times. Each time, she cried terribly and violently when I started to put her down. Nothing is wrong... she doesn't seem ill, and honestly, she hardly ever cries like this unless she's scared or hurt (emotionally).
Finally, the 6th time I went in, I rocked her until I felt her "release" as if she had fallen asleep, and then I put her down, and she started crying immediately, trying to hold on to me.
I told her I loved her and said goodnight, and then came out. I decided this time, I would force myself to wait longer than 60 seconds. I waited for about 2 minutes, and she started to calm down, and by 3 minutes she was silent. She's still asleep now.
I really don't like the idea of CIO for me, it just breaks my heart. And so I feel bad even letting her cry for the 3 minutes that she did!
Any suggestions? Anything I can do better to help her feel more secure? Do you think it's separation anxiety or fear of the dark? (My gut says separation anxiety, but we haven't dealt with it until just now, isn't that weird??)
Thanks so much