13 week old - fussing while feeding!

[Shabby]

Hi all,

Newbie here

Just wondering if anyone else's LOs are doing what my little boy is doing. For the last few days, he'll feed 3-4 ozs but then push the bottle away. I assume it's to be burped (he used to be fine being burped only at the end of a feed) so I burp him fine but when I go to feed him again, he starts fussing, hitting the bottle, turning his head away and whinge-crying. I give him a dummy which he'll take and happily suck for a few mins. He'll then start whinge crying with the dummy after about 5-10 mins and he'll then want more milk (so I know he's not full as he wouldn't want any more). This happens 2-3 times during each feed and each feed us now taking almost an hour! I usually feed him every 3 hours but recently he's been going almost 4 hours between feeds.

Does anyone else's LO do this or did this? Could it be a phase? I did wonder if he was teething but surely sucking on a dummy would hurt the same as sucking on a dummy?

We use the medela bottles & calma teats and we haven't changed his formula..

Please help! Any thoughts/suggestions?

 

[MaybBaby]

dom does this and hes just coming up to 12 weeks, most times its because he purely wants to nod off but is so god damned nosey he just won't calm down, when dom takes his dummy and its more teething he actually makes the dummy 'click' so instead of a silent suck you can hear the rubber popping apart as he's squeezed it together lol! i was using dentinox teeth gel on him,only he's developed a taste for it and bloody licks it off! dom has also started 'squealing' during a feed as if he is in pain,only to take the bottle away from him, burp him,but it isnt that BUMP!!!!!!

 

[fairy3853]

My lo is 6 weeks & does this quite regular, hes got reflux & colic so i burp him every oz which he hates as he just wants his bottle, so sometimes when i give it him back he does the same as your lo so i just re wind him again, it takes his mind off his tantrum, this normaly works, i never give his dummy as i dont want him soothed, i want him eating. I also change his bum during a feed when hes fussy, this works every time

 

[Sarah27]

I thought my LO was crazy but obviously not! She does this a lot and sometimes it takes ages for her to calm down and get the teat in her mouth and her drinking her milk. It sounds quite common tho, I too did wonder about teeth hmmm

 

[Lady_Bee]

Mine does this and was just diagnosed with silent reflux. Haven't figured out a good strategy yet but giving infant gaviscon a go...

 

[MaybBaby]

so far doms has been a mixture of just wanting to gnaw, tiredness and wanting to soothe asleep BUT NOT WANT DUMMY!!! bah! and needing a nice fat burp halfway through feed (the minor issues) the main one is being distracted he is just way too nosey and should the bottle dare get in his line of sight he will shove the bottle away getting angry. My prime example was my trip to asda, he normally drinks 3-4oz when im at home, i went to asda and the two feeds he had he only took 1 n half oz's each feed because he just wanted to see everything, same goes when im visiting family, it stresses me out when he doesn't feed properly but just going to a silent place helps.....just not in asda...not possible HAHA!.

 

[princess2406]

My lo has been like this for the 4-5days now and I'm finding it so stressful! So much so I actually burst into tears whilst trying to feed him today

He has 8oz bottles and after the first 3-4oz I burp him and then he normally finishes the rest of the bottle within 10mins. But latley after he's burpepd he pushes his bottle away and gets frustrated and whingy and it can take upto an hour to get him to have the rest of his milk, and sometimes he wont even finish it. He's not got reflux and we use tommee tippee bottles after I bf for the first 2weeks which he's never struggled with the teats or the formula we use

The only thing I can put it down to is teething as he constantly licks his gums and when I felt a few days ago he had a nobbly bit which is where is is rubbing his tongue.

I'm going to see how he goes over next couple of days and then probably see my hv if he gets no better.

 

[Sarah27]

Well I think its cos my LO is beginning to teeth! She just screams and screams! She did have really bad reflux but that has calmed down since she has been on comfort milk....

Have tried giving LO some baby bonjela and the odd dose of baby calpol and she is like a different baby. Can't believe she is starting so young! DH had a feel in her mouth and said he could feel little nobbles on her gums also!

 

[MaybBaby]

ok,i have a new progression on the fuss thing, dom now mid feed will just stop feeding and literally start bawling on the feed but wants to feed, i noticed as he had a poo today it was dry and..'slightly' tough, alot tougher than normal, he had pushed and pushed and it was err...still hanging (sorry to be grim with details!) to which my mother thinks he is constipated, but yesterday we had a muddy poo, so it confuses me, ive given him some water to try flush him but he fusses on water like mad, im lucky to have gotten 2oz down him today. i tried the next size teat it seems to make no difference what so ever, and put some teeth gel on him but that hasn't helped, i dont want to give calpol if theres no issue.....im worried it'll harm him if all is well im at a loss and i have a very upset bubba help!!!

BUMP BUMP!!!!!!

EDIT: also he seems VERY tired today and has slept through most of it

 

[princess2406]

I'm not sure hun sorry I can't give you any advice maybe see your gp or hv and see what they suggest. Like you I wouldn't want to give calpol if he's not actually poorly x

 

[MaybBaby]

I'm not sure hun sorry I can't give you any advice maybe see your gp or hv and see what they suggest. Like you I wouldn't want to give calpol if he's not actually poorly x

tried contacting my HV's...all were busy so i left a message and got a call back saying they think its colic?!?? i thought colic started early, on evenings and babies drew their legs up to their stomachs? he's the opposite of that! well i tried booking into the docs and they were full so the doc phoned me and she said the same....and to try a diff colic relief,but ive been booked in tomorrow afternoon to give him a once over...somehow im not happy that its been labeled as colic being as he's been fine on SMA for over 7 weeks,and hes now 13 weeks (nearly) it just seems....odd.

 

[princess2406]

That does seem strange hunI thought it starTed early too and for most colic is over by 3months of age? I hope you get the right answer tomorrow, let us know how you get on. How has he been this afternoon btw? x

 

[MaybBaby]

That does seem strange hunI thought it starTed early too and for most colic is over by 3months of age? I hope you get the right answer tomorrow, let us know how you get on. How has he been this afternoon btw? x

see thats what i thought too, everything contradicts, why would it develop now?i think they just have no clue sometimes. He started off well in the morning, but soon went down from there, thing is its not even a full on cry, he does this low grizzle...and then starts to sound like chewbacca LOL but he goes red and his lip just goes really wide, grimacing i hope so too, he can't go on like that its unfair on him

 

[MaybBaby]

Update!!

Well after my phonecall diagnosis of 'colic' it seems our suspicions of that being crap were true, i had a diff doctor (this one has been dealing with my OH's chest issues and is the only one to say its not asthma but something is there) i explained all what was going on,then he read my notes,and the previous doctor had put 'phonecall diagnois colic,told to buy infacol' he went "this isnt colic...and you've got him on colic drops?"
i said "well yea hes always been a hard winder until now....this is just a whole different thing"
"its definately not colic, it seems like reflux to me, so what i shall do is prescribe some infant gaviscon, use half a sachet per daytime feed,if it still seems the same,use the whole thing, then i want to see you again in 10 days and we'll go from there" <---GOOD STUFF! so far he had 1 feed, with half a sachet,only took 2oz,im wondering if its too thick for the teat and proving hard for him to get at IFYKWIM? but heres hoping this helps. He did say 'i think you need something thicker for his stomach in which he can keep it down,then he wont be put off' so yea, im just glad i didn't have to go the argument stance! xxx

 

[princess2406]

It shows different drs different diagnoses! Glad you got the right one in the end hun. Are you going to get bigger size teat or just see how he goes? x

 

[MaybBaby]

It shows different drs different diagnoses! Glad you got the right one in the end hun. Are you going to get bigger size teat or just see how he goes? x

well ive gone from size 2 to size 3...and he's only taking 2oz of a 4oz feed hes still whining after 2oz the spitting up has reduced but his fussiness hasn't,i suppose im only two days in though - im considering whether i need variflow because he is getting drowsy on the gavi bottles and im wondering if thats because its so much effort for him to try draw it out? im just so confused and clueless atm its upsetting! xxxx

 

[princess2406]

Aww hun I feel for you. I would see how he is for a few days and then maybe try vari flow? Hope things work out soon x

 

[MaybBaby]

Aww hun I feel for you. I would see how he is for a few days and then maybe try vari flow? Hope things work out soon x

thanks chick i got some variflow but even the slowest notch is too fast for him...the normal teats 2 is too slow 3 is a lil too fast,i can't win it seems, its so depressing,and i can see he's hungry as he keeps chomping his fists, im moving up to a full sachet like the doc said, its awful, yesterday he was showing colic signs he kept drawing his legs up and whining, but thats all - he still is showing all reflux symptoms, he also puked this morning, a fair amount too its hard work! x