16 week midwife appointment: heartbeat!!?!

[janey1975]

Milf2be, You did offend me slightly by your tone and I think this is because you think sharing our bad (and good) experiences of midwifes is about YOU when it is not. In my profession we get attacked a great deal but I don't take it personally as I know there is good and bad in every profession. I have a great deal of respect for midwifes in general and really like my midwife but I have had very bad experiences with sonographers and other midwifes.

We just want to share our stories and you need to not take it to heart. I know it can be difficult as you are obviously a sensitive soul but a thicker skin may help you in your career (I know you said you were training).

I don't think you should leave the forum, just try detach yourself a little and try not to think you have to stand up for all midwifes. You obviously care a great deal about your profession (I do too), but unlike you I know there is a variability in the service provided and I won't defend those in my profession when they do things incorrectly.

Again, that is just my opinion and I hope you will see what I have said in a constructive and positive way as that is truly my intention.

 

[milf2be]

Milf2be, You did offend me slightly by your tone and I think this is because you think sharing our bad (and good) experiences of midwifes is about YOU when it is not. In my profession we get attacked a great deal but I don't take it personally as I know there is good and bad in every profession. I have a great deal of respect for midwifes in general and really like my midwife but I have had very bad experiences with sonographers and other midwifes.

We just want to share our stories and you need to not take it to heart. I know it can be difficult as you are obviously a sensitive soul but a thicker skin may help you in your career (I know you said you were training).

I don't think you should leave the forum, just try detach yourself a little and try not to think you have to stand up for all midwifes. You obviously care a great deal about your profession (I do too), but unlike you I know there is a variability in the service provided and I won't defend those in my profession when they do things incorrectly.

Again, that is just my opinion and I hope you will see what I have said in a constructive and positive way as that is truly my intention.

i think its quite hard to discuss these things over the internet because its very easy for people to get the wrong impression etc. im sorry i came over that way and i hope you dont think everything i said was aimed at you because it really wasnt

 

[JosieM]

Milf2b I hope your nan is ok, what a terrible thing to have happened

 

[milf2be]

shes ok just really shook up. shes had 9 stitches in her head and she says it hasnt stopped bleeding yet, so will have a look when i go round later, and shes quite badly bruised everywhere but no broken bones so she was really lucky!! x

 

[tjw]

Personally I've had 5 pregnancies including this one, and out of over a dozen midwives that I have dealt with, only ONE has actually been able to do her job. Thankfully she is the one I have now, and she is fantastic. She went through all my notes before meeting me and could see how often I had been mismanaged. She knew I'd had 3 losses and that myself and my daughter we're both hours away from death when the obstetrician stepped in and saved our lives. She promised me right from the start this time that I could count on her and that she would take personal care of me, which she has done. She also got the obstetrician on board who saved my life and my daughter's life, as she knew that she was the only person in the profession I had any reason to trust.

Nobody on this thread has 'tarnished all midwives with the same brush' however it should be taken into account that this thread was started due to a negative experience with a midwife and as such others who have had a negative experience are more likely to respond to it. After all, how crass would it be to respond to a negative experience with how positive yours has been? (not than anyone has done that, as it would be downright rude). However, people should be considering the scematics of a conversation/thread before taking offence of it.

I suggest all ladies here calm down and make peace with eachother xx

Ps: Milf2be, hope your nan is okay xx

 

[nickyXjayno]

poor nan hope she is okies.

Hormones have a lot to answer for, mine are running riot today and have been upset really easy.
Keep crossing between wanting hugs and wishing people would leave me alone ha.

 

[JosieM]

At the end of the day we're all in the same boat here and should be supporting each other and not let disagreements get blown out of proportion.

Milf2b glad to hear your nan isn't badly hurt, she must've got an awful shock