16 weeks m/c - updated

[daopdesign]

Hey gals I just wanted to update this thread as I see a couple of you have also experienced something similar. Well, my tests actually came back as having no infection, they couldn't find anything apart from mentioning there were clots found on the placenta but they couldn't confirm if this was the cause.

So I guess I will never know but I do know that if I did have VB I would be taking them to the cleaners so ladies beware and be careful. - the end.

Never thought I'd be having to write this but here goes. I'll try to keep it as short as poss.

On Tuesday at 16 weeks 2 days I discovered my baby no longer had a heartbeat and had sadly passed away a couple of days before. There was fluid round the baby and no problems saw on the scan. They told me it was 'just one of those things'. I never had any symptoms something was wrong.

I was sent for a swab last Dec to test for infections whilst asking for fertility treatment again (I conceived my only son on Clomid). The results came back that I had VB (vaginal bacterosis) and that it was nothing to worry about, just mention this when you become pregnant.

Unexpectedly in Feb I discovered I was pregnant and had done so naturally. You can imagine how excited I was. Everything was going well but at around 8 weeks I started getting quite a thick snotty discharge and at my first midwife apt I told her about this and the results of the swab. She reassured me it was nothing to worry about but at 13 weeks after my dating scan (which was fine) I began lightly spotting. Sent to the hospital, had a scan, baby fine. Asked them again if this could be an infection and was basically sent home and told if it carries on come back for a swab. The spotting only lasted a few hours the day before so I carried on with my pregnancy thinking everything was OK.

On Tues, midwife couldn't find a heartbeat and the hospital scan showed my poor baby lying lifeless in a sac of fluid. My heart sank. I won't go on about my feelings but all I can tell you is that I am absolutely devastated. I have to go into hospital tomorrow to be induced.

I have since research this infection, VB and it appears that this is one of the reasons for a second trimester miscarriage. I saw a specialist midwife yesterday who said I should have been treated for it last year. As you can imagine I feel sick to think this loss could have been prevented.

When the results come back from the swab I did again yesterday and the placenta I'm pretty sure these will show the infection and this to be the cause. I don't expect the hospital to admit anything but I have been in touch with a solicitor this morning and he is confident that if the VB is still present that he can prove if it had been treated there is a chance that this could have been prevented.

I feel angry that the midwives constantly fobbed me off, reassuring me that everything was OK after raising my concerns. I encourage any of you to stand up and make them listen, demand tests if you suspect something is wrong as I'm proof that awful things can happen even at 16 weeks when the baby is fully formed.

 

[cindersmcphee]

Just wanted to say sorry for your loss. I lost my boy also at 16 week scan. Had like your angel died a short time before. He died though as had downs. Hope you get some answers.

 

[jojo23]

so sorry for your loss hun what an awful ordeal to go through. i lost my little girl at 22 weeks but no cause was found. the only thing was she was smaller than what she should have bn at my 20 weeks scan so it indicated slow growth etc. you were right to go to a soliciter hun i can only imagine how many women ignore things like this and thats why hospitals continue giving less than perfect treatment. stay strong hun and best of luck with everything xxx fingers crossed you get a sticky bean xxxxxxxxxx

 

[kiki04]

I am so sorry honey I just lost our baby last week on thursday at 16 weeks pg as well I too was shown no HB and saw my lifeless baby laying there, not moving... All the ladies in here know just how you are feeling and I assure you we will all be with you as you work through those feelings. I am having dreams of my others being taken, or not sleeping at all, anxiety over going out in public alone in case of seeing a baby/pg woman and having a breakdown etc etc etc Anytime you need to talk, we will all be here for you

 

[Khadijah-x]

Sorry huni Its disgusting to know docs are half soaked and it could have been prevented!!! Makes me so so angry

I just had 2nd miscarriage and im gona ask docs to run some blood tests because could be something simple like blood thickness and treated with tablets so im not going through another when it could be sorted now!

I hope things next time round are okai xx

 

[SassyLou]

Lots of so sorry for your loss.

xxx

 

[daopdesign]

Thank you for all your kind words. It doesn't make me feel any better knowing someone has gone through this also. It makes my heart go out to you all and I wish you peace and hope that one day you can look back on this terrible ordeal but be grateful for what you had.

I've just arranged the burial and memorial this afternoon, at least that's one thing out the way. When the results come back in the next week or so I will let you know their findings and if it was 'just one of those things' then I will accept that and move on. My little boy never got a chance but he will never be forgotten for giving me four joyful and excited months.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my Ava at 18 weeks and we buried her on March 11th, the hardest day of my life. She would have been with me in 8 weeks instead I am left her without her and totally empty I think of her every single day. I wish with all I have she was with me. I don't know how I am going to get through this, it's been 3 months today and I just miss her so much. I just hope at some point I get stronger.
XOXOXO

 

[ms.hope]

I am so sorry for your loss--I lost my twins at 22 weeks and it was all a shock as I was having no complications spotting or nothing sometimes I cant help but wonder if someone missed a crucial step in my prenatal care? did you ever test positive for BP in previous years?

 

[daopdesign]

Hi Ladies

Well I went in yesterday at 11am to be induced and our little angel came just after 11pm. He was soo tiny but perfectly formed. We just don't know why it happened but have accepted that maybe this is just natures way of saying it just wasn't meant to be. The midwives were fantastic and the support has helped me immensely.

He was wrapped in a little blue blanket and we spent an hour or so with him saying our goodbyes and on Tues we have the memorial burial. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do or cope with in my life but I am keeping it together for the sake of my son and family.

My heart goes out to you all who have lost your little ones xxxxx

ps: the swab from wed came back clear so we are waiting a few weeks for the other blood and placenta tests.

 

[pip7890]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Pip x

 

[kaz29]

wow that is sick, i cant believe that something could of been done to prevent this and it wasnt. I hope u are able to get justice i really do, i know it wont change anything but this is neglect !!!!

sorry for your loss, sending u an angel to watch over u all

 

[lindadonovan]

I am sorry about your loss. I just lost my baby at 16 weeks, no heartbeat.

I believe my OB did the swab test for bacterial vaginosis, but I will double check that now.

 

[babyfromgod]

I am so sorry for your loss hun

 

[daopdesign]

I am sorry about your loss. I just lost my baby at 16 weeks, no heartbeat.

I believe my OB did the swab test for bacterial vaginosis, but I will double check that now.

My swab came back clear last week for VB, they said it can just clear its self up, I don't know how true this is. Guess there was no reason

 

[kiki04]

I was checked for that (BV) in the beginning and it was negative but I wonder if I did develop it afterwards.. I ahve had it before so I know what to watch for That was actually one of my early thoughts of "wth happened?!"

 

[wish2bmum]

I'm so sorry for what you have had to go through, my heart goes out to you, thinking of you xx stay strong.

 

[daopdesign]

I was checked for that (BV) in the beginning and it was negative but I wonder if I did develop it afterwards.. I ahve had it before so I know what to watch for That was actually one of my early thoughts of "wth happened?!"

Have you had the test done then hun? As mine came back negative I can only wait now for the blood and placenta tests but tbh I've more of less just accepted that it wasn't meant to be. My boy must have had something not right and it was nature's way ending something that wasn't working out xx

 

[mommydreamer]

i'm so sorry for your losses honey.

 

[DueSeptember]

Sorry for your Loss....they kept telling me that I may have an infection that is why my water broke early but the whole time I was in the Hospital they said Nothing to me...I still dont know why exactly my water broke...it so sad because if this is something that could have been prevented someone is not doing their job! I just dont understand why they cant say anything and just tell us everything is fine...