17, pregnant, abortion?

[heather91]

Think really carefully about this. I'm 17 and pregnant too, my boyfriend is 20 and it's not ideal but there is never a right time for a baby! You'll never be able to afford one so I wouldn't wait for that. It's entirely up to you, but if you're not 100% definite that you want to have an abortion then wait until you've decided for sure.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Think really carefully about this. I'm 17 and pregnant too, my boyfriend is 20 and it's not ideal but there is never a right time for a baby! You'll never be able to afford one so I wouldn't wait for that. It's entirely up to you, but if you're not 100% definite that you want to have an abortion then wait until you've decided for sure.

Are you coping? Like with money and everything? And do you regret anything?

 

[clare1990]

I'm 17, I've been with my boyfriend who's 20 just over 10 months and it's serious, we're mad about eachother and obviously sleeping together. I did a home pregnancy test last night and it showed up positive, I told my boyfriend straight away n we went to the doctors this morning. The first thing we decided was to have an abortion because of our situation. If I told my mum I was pregnant, I'll get kicked out without a doubt and have no family support at all, my boyfriend is off to University next month, I'm only in a part time job earning £140-£220 a month and also about to start my last year of college. My boyfriend doesn't want this to ruin us and we made the choice to have an abortion so I'm just waiting for the right time to made that phone call to book it... but at the moment, I'm having serious doubts and don't know what to do, I don't want to ruin our lives and I know we won't be able to give it the life it needs but please help!!! xxx​

hiya im 17 too my boyfreind has just turned 23, im now 13+2 the pregnancy was completely unplanned and me and my partner were unsure at first but are now really happy, i was really worried about telling my parents as from the age of 15 they've told me if i ever get pregnant before im married and settled in a house and stuff the would completely disown me, but when i told them my mom was slightly dissapointed and my step dad was awful about it but that was 3 weeks ago and now after seeing the scan pictures and stuff they are completely fine about it, my mom has even offerd to take me and my oh shopping for baby stuff closer to the time. so dont worry about what other people will think, its your life and your baby, and the most important thing about having a baby is that you will giv it loads ov love thats all u really need.
sorry for rambling but you do need to seriously consider this, its a big life changing descision
clare
xxxx

 

[heather91]

The money situation isn't too bad. My parents have let me live at home with my boyfriend which is a really big help. We'll qualify for qorking tax credit to help with the money situation and I've decided to go to college because I'll get loads of support with creches and working around the baby etc. If you do decide to keep the baby you'll be put in touch with professionals that are there to help young mums, eg I'm going on a course to learn about parenting, childbirth etc!

As far as money is concerned, things will be tight, but I'm sure we'll cope, the government can do a lot to help and if your mom doesn't take it well and kicks you out then you're likely to qualify for a council house anyway.

I don't regret a thing. I can't wait for the baby to be born. At first I was scared and confused and didn't know if I wanted it, but now I couldn't bear the thought of not having my LO inside me! You feel love for them even when they're not born! Luckily my boyfriend is really really supportive and said he would have stood by me either way, but is delighted I've kept it.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

I don't think I've got a doubt about having this baby now, I can't have my baby aborted, to be honest, I can't believe I even considered it. I'm going to talk to my boyfriend tonight and discuss everything. Once that's sorted, it's gonna be down to telling my mum and hearing what she's got to say (or shout) but like you've all said... my baby, my body, my dicision. Everything will work out, it'll be hard but well worth it

 

[heather91]

I hope all goes well for you I'm sure your mom will react better than you think! I was absolutely shocked by my moms reaction! It's really too serious to shout and argue about so you'll probably find she won't. And yeah it will be hard but definitely worth it! Keep us updated Good luck!

 

[6lilpigs]

I don't think I've got a doubt about having this baby now, I can't have my baby aborted, to be honest, I can't believe I even considered it. I'm going to talk to my boyfriend tonight and discuss everything. Once that's sorted, it's gonna be down to telling my mum and hearing what she's got to say (or shout) but like you've all said... my baby, my body, my dicision. Everything will work out, it'll be hard but well worth it

I'm so pleased to see you writing thisThe next ?many months you've got may be a bit of a challenging time but once you are handed your little one its as if everything suddenly becomes clear and obviuos. Money, phah who needs it lol, you have the rest of your life to get money, careers and whatever but your lil one has chosen now to turn up so start getting excited and enjoy it. Congratulations, hope to see you over in first tri soon.

 

[clb1982]

Hi Sarah Jane

Ive just read your post and feel pleased that you have made your decision and congratulations btw

Im glad you have opted out of termination the pg as I had an abortion when I was 20, I was bullied into it by the guy I was with at the time who used to minipulate me and treat me like dirt. I have never forgiven myself as I never wanted to terminate and had doubts but i was made to feel like I did not have a choice.

The guilt is horrible and its such a heartbreaking thing to have to go throught.

I agree that your mum my surprise you. Good luck

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

all im going to say hunni. is im 16 and im preg and i really dont have alot of money but im going to try my damn hardest to provide for my baby. just really give it some thought hunni cos this is a huge descion. if you arnt sure about having an abortion then dont have one. like Toria said all babies want is love and im sure you could give lots of that. Good luck with your descion
xx

 

[Sarah-Jane]

So glad I joined on here today, you's have sorted me out and helped me make the right decision, whether my boyfriend wants to be involved or not, whether my mum goes mental or not, I've gotta realise that my baby comes first now. I would have more than likely gone through with the abortion if I hadn't come on here. Thanx everyone, loads n loads =] xxxxx

 

[Lyrah]

Heya hun

I have just read your post and I am so pleased that you made a decision

You are very courageous and brave and you should be so proud of yourself.

You will make a great mummy, you have been blessed with a beautiful gift

Congratulations and a very happy and healthy 9 months to you!

We are always here if you need to chat and you can always pm any of us.

Very best of luck to you for discussing this with your bf and telling your mum, I'm sure everything will be fine! Keep smiling.

 

[moomin_troll]

I don't think I've got a doubt about having this baby now, I can't have my baby aborted, to be honest, I can't believe I even considered it. I'm going to talk to my boyfriend tonight and discuss everything. Once that's sorted, it's gonna be down to telling my mum and hearing what she's got to say (or shout) but like you've all said... my baby, my body, my dicision. Everything will work out, it'll be hard but well worth it

I dont think it matters how old you are telling the parents is always going to be hard. I was 19 when i fell pregnant (now 20) and my partner is 24 and both our mums said they were dissapointed in us, now my mum is over the moon and is so happy for me she cried at the scan pics lol OH's mum hasnt really shown if shes happy or not!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

That's the thing, my boyfriend doesn't wanna keep it at all but I can't make my decision all about him, it's my baby at the end of the day, just wanted him there for support. I'll get through this... hopefully lol. When did you go for your first check up when you found out?

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

That's the thing, my boyfriend doesn't wanna keep it at all but I can't make my decision all about him, it's my baby at the end of the day, just wanted him there for support. I'll get through this... hopefully lol. When did you go for your first check up when you found out?

hey hun. well sounds like your going to be a teen mummy. im 16 so im a teen mummy too. if you ever need to talk just PM me
xx

 

[vicky]

hi hun, just read your post i'm so glad you changed your mind hun and that your keeping the baby.

 

[dizzy65]

just think about it and do what u want deep down inside...

 

[dizzy65]

congrats on wanting to keep your little miricle

 

[passengerrach]

congratulations on deciding to keep ur bub ur gna be a mummy now!!

 

[TashaAndBump]

Your first check up? It does vary from place to place. First thing you need to do is make an appoinment at your doctor, to confirm the pregnancy (to let them know you are pregnant). They will tell you where things go from there.

Where I am, I had my first midwife's appointment at 8 weeks, first scan at 12 weeks, and regular antenatals from about 16 weeks through to birth

Just wait 'till you see your little baba on the scanning moniter for the first time, and hear her little heartbeat ... yer making me all broody! lol

 

[nikky0907]

Hi,I'm glad you reached a decision that you are happy with.

I know that I considered abortion when I first found out.I always thought that if I fall pregnant I'd have one.

But I just like you couldn't go through with it.It's different when it's my baby.

And I can honestly tell you that it's one of the best decisions that I have made.I couldn't be more excited.

Good luck with your family and boyfriend and have a happy and healthy 9 months.