17, pregnant, abortion?

[Sarah-Jane]

Thanx for the comments everyone, you've been a great help, keep the advice coming! I haven't got a clue what to expect haha...
Well, you all asked me to keep you updated with everything and I'm willing to do so...
I had my first experience of morning sickness this morning, lovely huh? :-/ haha so my parents might be finding out sooner than planned.
Also... I've been hinting to my boyfriend that I want to keep it, but he's pretty much saying that he won't be able to stand by me because he'll never see the baby as he'll be at uni and also he thinks he'll be a crappy dad. Even if he doesn't stand by me throughout the pregnancy, when the baby's born, I'm sure seeing his son or daughter in his arms might put things into reality for him...

 

[Sarah88]

Sweetie, if you do end up keeping it and your bf doesn't stick by you, the he's definately not a man, and not the guy for you. If you want to keep this baby then do it, you may find that your parents might stick by you after all. Things have a way of working themselves out.

 

[Always&4ever]

Congratulations honey, I also agree with the other guys on here, we are all a supportive bunch and are here for you. Welcome to baby and bump x

 

[hollie3]

Hi just wanted to say that im so glad to see you believing in yourself and keeping your baby, im 18 and had an abortion when i was 17 i wasnt completely sure about it and felt pressured into having one and i also didnt believe in myself that i could have a baby. It makes me think that i wish i had come across this forum whilst i was pregnant i probably wouldnt of aborted. Congratulations im sure you will make a fabulous mummy and give your baby lots of love and an amazing life. X

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Hi just wanted to say that im so glad to see you believing in yourself and keeping your baby, im 18 and had an abortion when i was 17 i wasnt completely sure about it and felt pressured into having one and i also didnt believe in myself that i could have a baby. It makes me think that i wish i had come across this forum whilst i was pregnant i probably wouldnt of aborted. Congratulations im sure you will make a fabulous mummy and give your baby lots of love and an amazing life. X

You don't have to answer if it's awkward but do you regret the abortion Hollie?

I'm going seeing my boyfriend later on today and talking everything through with him. It's up to him if he wants to be involved but thanks to this forum... I've realised my baby has to come first now whether it's father wants to be a part of it's life or not

 

[mizzi]

Me and my mum don't really get on as it is and just don't think she would support me. I don't know what I want, I've never been so confused in my life

im sure your mum will give you all the help and support that you need once she has time to get used to the idea,

 

[hollie3]

Yeah i do regret the abortion however i try to not dwell on it because its too late however given the chance again i would keep my baby. I was and still am in a very stable relationship, i have 3 As at Alevel and ultimately im mature...i could have coped but my emotions and the pressure from everyone got the better of me. everyone tries to make you see the negative but at the end of the day its a beautiful child that is inside you and they dont deserve to be hurt. I was 12 weeks when i had my abortion and i think about it everyday. X

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Yeah i do regret the abortion however i try to not dwell on it because its too late however given the chance again i would keep my baby. I was and still am in a very stable relationship, i have 3 As at Alevel and ultimately im mature...i could have coped but my emotions and the pressure from everyone got the better of me. everyone tries to make you see the negative but at the end of the day its a beautiful child that is inside you and they dont deserve to be hurt. I was 12 weeks when i had my abortion and i think about it everyday. X

That's heartbreaking knowing you went through that. All my friends have said they'll stand by me no matter what but only two have said I should keep it but I'm so glad I'm listening to them. By the end of today I think me and my boyfriend are going to be over because he can't bare me having the baby, but my little one has got to come first

 

[hollie3]

My friends were very supportive and so was my boyfriend however i knew that he thought it was best if i aborted. At the end of the day it may seem scary but it is your decision and try to not let people influence you because this was the mistake that i made and i hate the thought that my first baby has gone . What do you parents say? X

 

[Sarah-Jane]

My friends were very supportive and so was my boyfriend however i knew that he thought it was best if i aborted. At the end of the day it may seem scary but it is your decision and try to not let people influence you because this was the mistake that i made and i hate the thought that my first baby has gone . What do you parents say? X

I darent tell them, I'll more than likely get kicked out. My sister fell pregnant at the age of 15, went for the abortion but couldn't go through with it, she gave birth at 16 n she said it was the best decision she has ever made. Mi dad was very disappointed in her at first but he came to terms with it and he was cool about my sister but on the other hand, she got kicked out and my mum pretty much disowned her when she found out she backed out of the abortion, my niece is now 8 and my mum and sister still don't talk. She's got another little boy now who's just over 1 and our mum has seen him once. I just don't want that happening to me. Me and my mum have never seen eye to eye but when I bring myself round to tell her, I've got to explain that this is what I want, but I'll need her to be supportive

 

[Sarah-Jane]

You all asked me to keep you updated... so thought I'd let you know, I've managed to tell my fella that I'm deffo keeping our baby. He's not too sure about it n said he needs to get his head around it.
Anyways, we'll see what happens... he could suprise me haha I hope so anyways
xxxx

 

[Serene123]

Good luck.

 

[lily24]

You all asked me to keep you updated... so thought I'd let you know, I've managed to tell my fella that I'm deffo keeping our baby. He's not too sure about it n said he needs to get his head around it.
Anyways, we'll see what happens... he could suprise me haha I hope so anyways
xxxx

It takes time. Good luck hun

 

[Munchkin]

I am so pleased you decided to keep baby. I know that it is going to be tough tough tough, but personally cannot stand the thought of abortion - I do think it is cruel and disrespectful to human life (but that's just my opinion).
I do hope things go well and I really respect you for your decision to keep the baby at your age. You won't regret it when you meet babs!
Here for support if you need any! And an ear if you need to bitch!

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Thanx again everyone, you've all been great =]
xx

 

[TT's]

Excellent decision! Wel done for standing up for what you want

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Sounds like my fella's sticking by me and our baby I'm so happy I phoned him before to tell him I'm definately keeping him/her no matter what (He's at a festival in Scotland and I couldn't wait til Tuesday to tell him) and he said "Are you sure? I need some time to sort my head out" and then he was doubting what our parents reactions would be...
But sounds like good news... he just text me tellin me about the festival and he put "I love you both so much" at the end good news right? lol
xxx thanks so much everyone xxx

 

[clb1982]

Ahh thats fantastic news

Im so pleased for you honey, you need all the support you can get and support from your oh is the most important,

Its so sweet how he has said he loves you both

 

[Munchkin]

SJ,
That is so awesome! I am so chuffed for you!
Keep us posted on how it goes with your folks - ok?
Look after yourself

 

[mBLACK]

Congratulations!