17, pregnant, abortion?

[enigma]

Well do expect a bit of disapointment, this is a situation most young mums have to deal with (i was 18 with my first and my mum first reaction was, right your going to the clinic in the morning, i was like, no im not!!!).
Just be prepard for it. When its sunk in, they will support you, but they find it a bit shocking at first.
You seam to have your head screwed on and you know what to expect, just dont let anyones opinion get to you, the main thing is, you are prepared for it.

Good luck hun, i hope it goes as smoothly as it possibly can.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Well do expect a bit of disapointment, this is a situation most young mums have to deal with (i was 18 with my first and my mum first reaction was, right your going to the clinic in the morning, i was like, no im not!!!).
Just be prepard for it. When its sunk in, they will support you, but they find it a bit shocking at first.
You seam to have your head screwed on and you know what to expect, just dont let anyones opinion get to you, the main thing is, you are prepared for it.

Good luck hun, i hope it goes as smoothly as it possibly can.

Thanx for that hun,
sound like something my mum is going to say and I know it's something I can't let get to me.
How long did it take your mum to come to terms with the Granny idea? lol
xxx

 

[shadowsilk]

I was pregnant at 17 too, I think having an abortion might make a negative impact on both of you as well. Because you gotta remember Abortion isn't just a quick way out, it may even take you two years of counselling or support or anitdepressants just to get through the pain of losing a child, whether wanted or not. Adoption on the other hand, may be easier for you. You should consider it if you aren't ready for a baby. I had to consider this too. I wish you the best of luck with whatever the decision is.

 

[enigma]

Well do expect a bit of disapointment, this is a situation most young mums have to deal with (i was 18 with my first and my mum first reaction was, right your going to the clinic in the morning, i was like, no im not!!!).
Just be prepard for it. When its sunk in, they will support you, but they find it a bit shocking at first.
You seam to have your head screwed on and you know what to expect, just dont let anyones opinion get to you, the main thing is, you are prepared for it.

Good luck hun, i hope it goes as smoothly as it possibly can.

Thanx for that hun,
sound like something my mum is going to say and I know it's something I can't let get to me.
How long did it take your mum to come to terms with the Granny idea? lol
xxx

Well im her youngest and she already had 5 grankids, she just liked to think she could still think for me, but ive always been independant and done what i wanted to do anyway.
She soon came round, it just had to sink in that i wasent a baby anymore.
I amagine your mum will be much the same, if she starts having a go, just let in one and out the other, after all, we all say things we dont mean when are shocked and angry, she will soon calm down and when she does, hopfully you will be able to have a good chat to her about your intentions.
Once she sees you have thought about it and you know what to expect, she will probably just let you get on with it.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Well im her youngest and she already had 5 grankids, she just liked to think she could still think for me, but ive always been independant and done what i wanted to do anyway.
She soon came round, it just had to sink in that i wasent a baby anymore.
I amagine your mum will be much the same, if she starts having a go, just let in one and out the other, after all, we all say things we dont mean when are shocked and angry, she will soon calm down and when she does, hopfully you will be able to have a good chat to her about your intentions.
Once she sees you have thought about it and you know what to expect, she will probably just let you get on with it.

Thanks, that helped a lot, your mum seems a bit like mine. I'm the youngest and she's always thinking she can run my life because the other two didn't want to know. I'm 18 in 6 weeks and I still get spoken to like an 8 year old. I try my hardest to show her respect, have an adult conversation but still no success.
We have never got on too well for that reason, she drinks far too much aswell, it may only be a bottle of red wine (usually more) a night and it may not seem much but it's the way she acts, she can't handle her drink and she doesn't know when to stop. She just gets really horrible and ends up kicking off with me and my dad all the time and she's already told me that she'd choose a bottle of wine over my feelings any day. Both me and my dad have tried sitting her down (together and individually), telling her how if effects us, and honestly it has ruined my life. I can't have friends round (in fact she's barely met any of my friends) because she's such an imbarrasment when she's drunk and just becomes aggressive to anyone. My boyfriend hates coming round because he hates the way she treats me and he's also tried speaking to her.
Hopefully once the baby's born she may calm down with the drink knowing I want to do my best with or without her help.
I just find it hard at times and I want to do everything for this baby, be the mum it seemed like I never had, be there for my child when he/she needs me and just be a friend aswell as a mother

 

[KaidensMummy]

Your only 5 weeks, you can have an abortion up until 24 weeks so you have alot longer to decide than your doctors saying! obviously its less traumatic if you make ur decision earlier. Do not let anyone else influence you.. if you know in your heart you want this baby an abortion will ruin your life!! but if its not what you want dont beat yourself up about it...but just make sure you can justify it to yourself or youll regret it forever !! xx

 

[enigma]

Well i think you'll be fine hun, she might come round to the idea, or she might not (its hard to tell when they drink(no offence intended))
You have your head screwed on and you sound very much like you can do it to me.
Just be strong and prepared for whatever might happen.
If you ever want to chat about anything, pm me, im usually about the board somewhere, lol.

 

[Elli21]

Congratulations!!

Btw, love the name Ellie-Rose...
My name is Elli and my daughter is Leigha-Rose so to me...you have good taste lol

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Congratulations!!

Btw, love the name Ellie-Rose...
My name is Elli and my daughter is Leigha-Rose so to me...you have good taste lol

Aww hehe, think we've decided on Kaitlyn-Rose now for a girl, I love the name Ellie but my OH's little cousin's called Ellie and she visits quite alot so I suppose it would get confusing haha.
We're going to call a little boy Shaun David I think, my OH's a massive City fan and he wants to call his son after Shaun Goater haha and I really like the name too.
I can't believe how excited I am now
Thanks everyone for all your help and support, you've all been great

 

[shadowsilk]

I wish you luck again sweetie!

 

[17 and scared]

I'm 17, I've been with my boyfriend who's 20 just over 10 months and it's serious, we're mad about eachother and obviously sleeping together. I did a home pregnancy test last night and it showed up positive, I told my boyfriend straight away n we went to the doctors this morning. The first thing we decided was to have an abortion because of our situation. If I told my mum I was pregnant, I'll get kicked out without a doubt and have no family support at all, my boyfriend is off to University next month, I'm only in a part time job earning £140-£220 a month and also about to start my last year of college. My boyfriend doesn't want this to ruin us and we made the choice to have an abortion so I'm just waiting for the right time to made that phone call to book it... but at the moment, I'm having serious doubts and don't know what to do, I don't want to ruin our lives and I know we won't be able to give it the life it needs but please help!!! xxx​

im in the same sitchuation as uu only my pregancy hasnt been confirmed yet. ur only yung nd evn tho u dnt wana start ur ife with a baby u sertainly dnt want 2 start ur life with an abortion. abortions can lead 2 comnplicity wen tryig forbirths later on in life also

my advice is dnt do sumfink u dnt wannt to do and no matter wot keep ur head up high

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Was just wondering how old baby's have to be before you can take them swimming?
Me and my OH was wondering because we went to the local baths today and there was a little boy there with his mummy and daddy and he looked no older than 3months old lol just wasn't sure x

 

[Ema]

My mum took me swimming when i was 6 weeks old After me first set of injections..i think. But this was 21 years ago lol. So im not to sure. your midwife would be able to tell you tho XxX

 

[baby D]

Was told it was safe to take my son swimming once he'd recieved his first set of vacinations - mind you that was nearly 9 years ago, so may have changed now x Your MW should be able to tell you when is safe xx

 

[xxxjacxxx]

Hi Hun
Ive just read through the whole of this thread and oh what a lovely outcome!!
Im so happy for you and you made the right decsion to keep the baby
I can relate to your situation alot, I was 17 when I first got pg...Id already moved out of home because of a bad family situation so already had a flat. I didnt work at the time, but my oh at the time did....we did consider abortion but in the end couldnt do it! Money was tight, things were stressfull at time, but when I held my little boy in my arms nothing else mattered!

Congratulations and you'l make a great teen mummy!!

 

[lorrilou]

just read through this thread and congrats hun.

having a baby is tough but so worth it. dont worry about money and stuff you'll cope.

im sure your mum will come round to the idea of being a granny and if she doesnt well its her thats gonna lose out in the end.

hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy hun.

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Aww thanks alot Jacqui and Lorrilou, always means alot reading them sort of posts, makes me feel proud of being a mum-to-be hehe.
I know it will be hard, but like you both said, everything will work out.
Thanks again xxx

 

[Marg_27]

Hi Sarah-Jane, I just wanted to say I'm so glad u've decided to keep your baby!
I got pregnant at 17 with my 1st, Abbie, who's now 5 and I cant imagine life without her! She is the most beautiful, smartest, brightest little girl I hav ever met!! I am so proud of what she achieves from day to day!
I was also really worried bout telling my mum but she has been amazing! I dont kno wot I'd hav done without her! We lived with my parents for a while until we managed to get our own place.
We're now expecting no.2 and we're all thrilled about it, even then grand parents, who actually encouraged us to hav another (as a playmate for Abbie)
I just wanted to tell u my little story to let u kno that things do work out well!!
Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy, and a wonderful future!

 

[colesmom]

I agree with the last few posts.......I had my son when I was 16 and now he is 10 and I have been married to his dad for 5 years and were now ttc #2. Even though it was hard the outcome is so worth it. All the amazing memories we wouldnt have had other wise.

 

[destiny27]

I've just been reading this, glad you decided to keep your baby it was a brave decision, I had my eldest son at 17 and yes it was hard but we got there in the end, still gets hard now and he's 9 but soooo worth it