17, pregnant, abortion?

[Carley]

You all asked me to keep you updated... so thought I'd let you know, I've managed to tell my fella that I'm deffo keeping our baby. He's not too sure about it n said he needs to get his head around it.
Anyways, we'll see what happens... he could suprise me haha I hope so anyways
xxxx

He could have reacted a lot worse...I'm glad he is going to stand by you

 

[aurora32]

Hi hunn,

just read your post, so glad you have got a happy outcome to this,
you will be a great mum and no matter how much money you do or dont have love can never compete with that and you seem to have that in abundace for your LO.
hope you have a happy healthy pg and that your parents are with you if not you will be great all the same......
good luck for your scan

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Thanks so much everyone. I'm so excited it's unbelievable!
Coming onto B&B and reading all your posts makes it feel so real and actually makes me think that I can do this which is an awesome feeling
Knowing I'm not the only one going through pregnancy at a young age and hearing your experiences just makes everything seem so much easier
Thanks again everyone xxx S.J xxx

 

[Lil_Gem_1989]

Hi Sarah-Jane,
I'm also 12 weeks (today) and have my scan on thurs!
I was in the same situation as u, as me and my OH wernt trying wen i got pregnant. Big shock. But i'm so glad i decided to keep it
So, wen r u due? xx

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Hi Sarah-Jane,
I'm also 12 weeks (today) and have my scan on thurs!
I was in the same situation as u, as me and my OH wernt trying wen i got pregnant. Big shock. But i'm so glad i decided to keep it
So, wen r u due? xx

Hey
I'm due on the 10th of March... according to my last period, we'll find out for definite on Monday.
When are you due hun?
I'm so excited now it's sunk in more, suppose it will seem more real for both of us when we see our little ones in our belly's lol
xxx S.J xxx

 

[Lil_Gem_1989]

yeh thats true, i dont feel pregnant atm (apart from the sickness) lol and i havent started to show at all yet. I'm due 9th March! But our due dates may change wen we have our scans.
xxx

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Wow, a day before me We'll have to keep each other updated through our pregnancy's hehe.
I'm not showing either... but my jeans feel tight and I just look like I've eaten too many cookies because of how bloated I feel haha apart from that... no pregnancy belly lol.
Hope everything goes OK with your scan today and get the pic up here when you're back so I can see your little bean
xxx S.J xxx

 

[charliesam]

before 8 weeks an abortion is alot nicer (if u can say that ) than afterwards but u can still can have one after that. i was 17 wen i found out i was pregnant and everyone told me to get rid of her, my mum said i was making the biggest mistake of my life and my stepdad kicked me out.i was in an impossible situation, but i wanted my baby and she is due tomorrow, and the baby is all my mum and stepdad talks about! u have to let your heart decide, good luck xx

 

[Tiff]

You have to do what's best for you, not what everyone else thinks is best for you. I'm pro-choice, as I find it's easy for everyone else to sit and preach about how "awful" abortion is and whatnot, yet they arn't going to be the ones with you and supporting you once the baby is here.

That being said, there is always adoption as an option as well.

Glad to hear you're going to try and make it work. Pregnancy (in my opinion, not always what everyone else thinks!) should be a happy time, and I'm glad to see you're excited about the baby. Maybe you can research programs around your area to see if they have any programs for younger expectant mothers. Around here, there's walk in clinics that provide information for new/expectant mothers, food and milk, social assistance programs, etc etc etc.

Congrats on the pregnancy! It's an exciting time!

 

[hellotasha]

All that matters is what you want, nobody else x

 

[Lil_Gem_1989]

Hi Sarah, been for my scan. n got a pic uploaded it on a new thread if u wanna check it out. Turns out i'm only 11 wks 3 days so my new edd is 16th march.
Gem xx

 

[Cymrukelz]

Hi hun, i really do feel for you as i went through this when i was 16 myself.....
i knew i couldnt cope with a baby at that point i was way too immature..
i understand you say you and your mother dont get on- i would say- see if there is another adult in your family you can talk to first about it all- they really do have some answers or just might suprise you and be really understanding.
i hope you do what is best for you x

 

[Sarah-Jane]

Hey
The scan went great yesterday, was amazing our LO was waving at us and jumping around and everything
Anyways... we broke the news to my OH's parents last night...
We told his Step-Dad first (as he was the first one in from work) he took it quite well and said "I'm not going to say congratulations but I'll support you both without a doubt" he also offered to tell my OH's Mum too as it could be easier but we wanted her to here it from us.
We gave her the scan picture after tea and the first thing she said was "I'd already guessed that" she said she'd support us because he's her son but we're not getting any money because she hasn't got it (we didn't want any money, just her support) she went really quiet and we could tell how disappointed she was which was quite upsetting although we expected it, we went to the shop about half an hour later and we came in and completely blanked us.
We then went to his Dads... completely shitting it because of how his Mum reacted. Took us about an hour of being there to finally tell them as we were so nervous. We gave him the scan picture and he said "I'm too young to be a Grandad" and he started laughing! He seemed really happy and was giving us loads of advice which was great, I don't know what we worried about lol. His Step-Mum then clicked on with the 'Grandad' comment and grabbed the scan picture and hit the roof with excitement shouting "WOO I'M GOING TO BE A GRAN!" haha she was so happy lol she's 43 and she feels too old to have another baby herself and claimed to her friends that she has been waiting for Grandchildren for a few months now as she wanted a baby in the family... well she took the news great and has already started looking in the loft for baby stuff haha!
We're telling my parents this weekend as my Dad is working in the Isle of Man at the moment and I don't want my Mum to know before him.
Thanks for your support everyone
xxx S.J xxx

 

[princess_x0]

Hey
The scan went great yesterday, was amazing our LO was waving at us and jumping around and everything
Anyways... we broke the news to my OH's parents last night...
We told his Step-Dad first (as he was the first one in from work) he took it quite well and said "I'm not going to say congratulations but I'll support you both without a doubt" he also offered to tell my OH's Mum too as it could be easier but we wanted her to here it from us.
We gave her the scan picture after tea and the first thing she said was "I'd already guessed that" she said she'd support us because he's her son but we're not getting any money because she hasn't got it (we didn't want any money, just her support) she went really quiet and we could tell how disappointed she was which was quite upsetting although we expected it, we went to the shop about half an hour later and we came in and completely blanked us.
We then went to his Dads... completely shitting it because of how his Mum reacted. Took us about an hour of being there to finally tell them as we were so nervous. We gave him the scan picture and he said "I'm too young to be a Grandad" and he started laughing! He seemed really happy and was giving us loads of advice which was great, I don't know what we worried about lol. His Step-Mum then clicked on with the 'Grandad' comment and grabbed the scan picture and hit the roof with excitement shouting "WOO I'M GOING TO BE A GRAN!" haha she was so happy lol she's 43 and she feels too old to have another baby herself and claimed to her friends that she has been waiting for Grandchildren for a few months now as she wanted a baby in the family... well she took the news great and has already started looking in the loft for baby stuff haha!
We're telling my parents this weekend as my Dad is working in the Isle of Man at the moment and I don't want my Mum to know before him.
Thanks for your support everyone
xxx S.J xxx

aww thats so good
xxx

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

Thats really good news SJ, good luck with your parents x

 

[helen1234]

hi good luck on telling your parents,
i've been in your position 14 yrs ago now seems so long ago, and have a great teenage daughter, i was 17 when i got prgenant with rosie and its crap how sometime teens get pigeon holed, people are so tunnel visioned at times.
my mum went mad when i told her, but she soon came round think it was the initial shock and she was disapointed but it isnt an issue now and no-one looks at me in the street as though 'look at her with that teenage girl' lol like they looked at me with a baby, having a baby gave me an extra reason to go down the right path in life and while my mates were off taking god knows what at weekends i pushed my way through college then onto uni and got myself a fab job.
so its not all grim and things really do get better, your going to be a great mum and dad i'm sure just like i was. i'm now i'm going to have my second baby, i feel more daunted i think than i did when i was younger lol
take care.

 

[Totally Mommy]

Have you thought about adoption? That way you'll still be able to give this child life and a better life all at the same time. I'm not against abortion but wouldn't be able to do it myself and maybe it's not something you could do either. I just know that if you do this without having your whole heart into it then you're going to regret it and you won't be able to live with yourself. Take the time and think it over and look at all the options before just deciding on this. Just be 100% sure first.

Sorry just read more of this post. I'm so glad things are working out for you.

 

[NickyT75]

Good luck telling your parents sweetie xx

 

[Sarah-Jane]

My parents found out on Tuesday... my mum hit the roof!!! But last night we were getting on so well (and we've never got on since I was like 5!) so I think she's coming to terms with it now and is honestly being amazing! Talking about having a 3D scan... anyone know how I can have one and how much? She was wondering if I was going to find out the sex and giving me loads of advice
My dad was disappointed but he said there are worse things in the world, he's just glad me and baby are healthy
They have offered to help me decorate the spare room as a nursery, so excited hehe.
My OH's dad and step-mum have really warmed to the idea and are being so supportive, it's awesome
His mum on the other hand is being awful! She's pressuring my OH into persuading me to have an abortion! It's putting me and my OH through hell and he's heartbroken knowing he's not got his mum's support, he feels like he's gotta choose between me and his mum and I can't let him do that, it's tearing him apart
xxx S.J xxx

 

[NickyT75]

Thats great news about your parents hun, try not to let OH's mum get on top of you she is the only one being negative & it sounds like you will get plenty of support from everyone else around you so hopefully she'll come round too xx