17 pregnant and sick please help

[pvbpnthrs]

i found out i was pregnant in early december, about a week before my bf and i broke up...
(we didnt break up cus i was pregnant..... in oct he moved in with his ex gf and started dating her but told me he was moving in with his mom... they both live like 6 states away so i didnt find out until December…. he would still call me every night, tell me he loved me and all that stuff......)
i never told him i was pregnant because i knew he was with another girl.... i didnt want to complicate his life more he was sooo mean to me in the break up that I didn’t believe he would even be there for me.. I was sooo heart broken.. i also wouldnt ever want to take a chance of having that girl become a mother figure to my kid......... anyways i got really sick while supporting the baby & the doctors cant treat me with the kid there because the medicine will cause birth defects (I have a kidney infection and if I don’t treat it the infection may or may not spread into the uterus and kill the kid)... i lost 10 lbs instead of gaining any and the kid is developing slower than normal... because of the development issue i am still in my first trimester and the doctors want to induce a miscarriage so they can treat me and I would get better, there is a high chance that the kid will miscarriage naturally because I have gotten very weak..... but i actually wanted to keep the kid, i always told myself that if i was pregnant i would take responsibility for it but now im lost… in the past month the father and I have become friends and just today I got the guts to tell him even though he is still with the same girl… he wants me to go through with inducing a miscarriage… he doesn’t believe we are at a point in our lives where we can take care of the kid… I just don’t know what to do… his opinion doesn’t really matter too much to me but at the same time I just cant ignore it & there is also what the doctors say… somebody please help me out I just need opinions…

 

[Abblebubba]

In my opinion honey if it is going to happen either way it is best to let the doctors look after you.
If it is going to misscarry as you get weaker i think it is safer for your health.
Somethings arent meant to be honey i know it is hard
but we are all here for you
Take support in friends and family you'll need all the support to get through *hugs*

 

[Alexis]

hey hun. i just wanted to tell you that you can do whatever you set your mind to. God wouldn't give you anything you cant handle. Thats not to say it wont be hard, but if you feel you would make a terrific mom, then you will be reguardless of your age.

I have a friend who is pregnant right now, about 10 weeks i believe, and she has a kidney infection too. she is in the hospital and they are treating her for it and her baby is doing fine. i would suggest maybe talking to a different doctor? it is treatable. or my friend wouldnt still have her baby.

as for your ex. id say screw him. he moved in with another girl, while still being with you. how stupid, immature, rude, and obnoxious of him. he is NOT responsible for himself or you, he wont be for a child. this is YOUR decision and yours only. dont let him influence you. if you want to keep your baby then you keep it. everyone deserves a chance at life. you will make a terrific mom. and by you being so worried, that is how i can tell.

feel free to PM me anytime you need hun. take care and stay strong!!

 

[aidensmommy88]

You need to take care of yourself, so you can take care of that baby... eventually if you dont treat the kidney infection (Ive had numerous) your kidneys could possibly shut down... You do what you believe is best, Prayers are with you.

 

[nikky0907]

Well if this kidney infection is something dangerous and possibly fatal to your health you need to treat yourself first. You need a healthy body in which your child can grow normally.
I say you do whats best for you, it's such a rough situation but it seems to me like you have a choice to make.