19 months on.... FF, bright, sociable, healthy boy

[alio]

I just felt compelled to write this down so I do hope you will allow me to get this off my chest.

19 months ago I gave birth to my first son with the intention of booby feeding. after a few weeks i threw in the towel with it and began to ff. i think back now to those days before i switched, how terribly guilty i felt, how i was doing the 'wrong' thing... i really felt disappointed in myself. here i am now, expecting my second son. finlay is now 19 months old. he is absolutely beautiful, thriving, very forward (not that that matters, but it's important to me) and i can't believe i worried so much about making the change.

i just wanted to put this in here.... so that any mums who come in here feeling the way i felt can see how it really is....

i just wanted to give a supportive word to us ff mummies, i mean no slight to anyone.....

feeling the love tonight (ha ha)

 

[Kimboowee]

A lovely post. I hope it puts any mums that are having to switch over from bf for any reason at ease

 

[alio]

A lovely post. I hope it puts any mums that are having to switch over from bf for any reason at ease

thanks love.

 

[jen1604]

Thank you for writing this Alio!

I've got a nearly 2 year old who was FF and is gorgeous clever and brilliant just like your Finlay! Just thought I'd add that in to add to your support for FF'ers xxx

 

[alio]

Thank you for writing this Alio!

I've got a nearly 2 year old who was FF and is gorgeous clever and brilliant just like your Finlay! Just thought I'd add that in to add to your support for FF'ers xxx

absolutely! i think once you've been doing it for a while and know the 'truth'! (ha ha) it's easy to forget about the support and how much undue pressure there is on some new mums.

 

[WW1]

Thank you. This is a lovely thread

 

[isil]

I remember replying to your post about how you were having trouble bfing and trying to make you see that formula isn't so bad and that you shouldn't feel guilty

I managed to mix bfing and ffing and it worked perfectly for me and my son. mostly worked for my sanity lol.

 

[alio]

I remember replying to your post about how you were having trouble bfing and trying to make you see that formula isn't so bad and that you shouldn't feel guilty

I managed to mix bfing and ffing and it worked perfectly for me and my son. mostly worked for my sanity lol.

Then you were in the right place at the right time! Thanks so much in restrospect! x

 

[bubbles123]

Lovely post! After all, it's impossible to tell who was BF and who was FF among adults and older children... they all grow and develop in exactly the same way and you can't tell the difference! Your health is largely a result of your genetics and lifestyle anyways. That's not to say BF is not a good thing, just that it's not the be all and end all that it's often made out to be and so many other factors can affect your children's health. One of the main problems with the breast is best campaign is that it has demonised formula - when even the very pro BF WHO agrees that it is a perfectly adequate and appropriate source of nutrition for babies!

 

[princess_bump]

lovely post ali! i too have a very happy bright ff little girl i switched at 3 days old due to no milk, and for us, best decision we ever made. i too remember feeling so guilty, but nearly 2 years on, she's wonderful and i wouldn't change my decision at all

 

[alio]

feeling the love ladies, feeling the love. xxx

 

[Nic1107]

Love this thread! My little bottle monster is happy, healthy and thriving as well. Thank you for posting!

 

[wannabewillow]

Thank you so much for this thread. I have a beautiful (almost) 6 month old who I, not only wanted to, but fully expected to exclusively BF until at least 6 months. Due to pre-eclampsia, an early emergency section, endometritis and other factors, BFing was so difficult that, had I continued, I would have almost certainly become the poster child for PND. We switched to FF at 3 days and then when my milk came in, I managed to combine BF and FF until 9 weeks. I still feel pangs of jealousy and guilt when I think about giving up BF, but when we look at my beautiful, thriving, healthy bubba, the guilt seems silly and selfish. You see, she knows no different. She's happy and so beautiful. How could I feel guilty for raising a happy, thriving baba? We all have beautiful, happy little children who we love and who love us. Much respect and love to all. (Apologies to all for the cheesy post).

 

[alio]

Thank you so much for this thread. I have a beautiful (almost) 6 month old who I, not only wanted to, but fully expected to exclusively BF until at least 6 months. Due to pre-eclampsia, an early emergency section, endometritis and other factors, BFing was so difficult that, had I continued, I would have almost certainly become the poster child for PND. We switched to FF at 3 days and then when my milk came in, I managed to combine BF and FF until 9 weeks. I still feel pangs of jealousy and guilt when I think about giving up BF, but when we look at my beautiful, thriving, healthy bubba, the guilt seems silly and selfish. You see, she knows no different. She's happy and so beautiful. How could I feel guilty for raising a happy, thriving baba? We all have beautiful, happy little children who we love and who love us. Much respect and love to all. (Apologies to all for the cheesy post).

Thats not cheesy... it's lovely. xx

 

[Jolinar]

It's a great post

I had BF issues in the beginning due to losing a lot of blood during my section, I went through hell and back with all the guilt about not BFing exclusively too. Looking back I lost some precious time with my LO fretting over it and sitting there feeling like a cow in a milking parlour with a pump. I found the BF "help" available dehumanising in many ways and wish I'd just not been so stubborn and gone with FF exclusively.

Formula, it's not so bad

 

[AnnaBanana9]

What a wonderful, supportive, and TRUE post

Although I BF Alyssa, I was fully prepared to happily FF her if things didn't work out, and I feel the same about any future babies we may have.

All that matters is that baby and mummy are safe, happy, healthy and thriving... which ALL our babies are, regardless.

Feeling the love too... and wanted to add my support.

xx

 

[coccyx]

As someone who BF my 4 children I say good for you! have to do what is right for you and baby. Your son is gorgeous, all best with baby number2

 

[alio]

lovely support ladies, bf and ff alike. see, we're not that different hey?! ha ha!

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Exactly!

 

[isil]

as long as you feed your baby, I don't care how you do it!