1st visit to B&B since August 2012 - a little nervous

[Miss Mitch]

I posted this in the wrong forum - I apologise if I'm not allowed to move this over once I've already posted, but here goes.

Well, hello to those of you taking the time to read this

As the title says, I haven't logged on to this site since August 2012 - The site was amazing for me, but I lost my baby at almost 22 weeks in January 2012, after having a Crohn's disease flare up (didn't know I had it at the time, was diagnosed a few months later) and I think I became slightly 'obsessed' (in a non stalker or weird way) with finding threads or people on here that had been through similar to me or could reassure me.

I'm a little while down the line now, in a much happier place, and I am about to start TTC again - I look forward to getting to know you all and your journey's so far, and would love to hear from you with your background etc, even if its just a happy one!

xx

 

[Rebaby]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

I too have just come back to B&B after a long break. I had a miscarriage, which turned out to be a molar pregnancy in October 2013 and was diagnosed with a rare neurological condition (CIDP) at the same time (although that was unrelated to the loss, but it did feel like a double blow! )

Anyway, we're only just now feeling ready to even contemplate the idea of trying again, so I've begun lurking and even tentatively positing again...

Anyway, welcome back to B&B

 

[Miss Mitch]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

I too have just come back to B&B after a long break. I had a miscarriage, which turned out to be a molar pregnancy in October 2013 and was diagnosed with a rare neurological condition (CIDP) at the same time (although that was unrelated to the loss, but it did feel like a double blow! )

Anyway, we're only just now feeling ready to even contemplate the idea of trying again, so I've begun lurking and even tentatively positing again...

Anyway, welcome back to B&B

Hello Rebaby

Thank you for replying - It's a scary thought coming back isn't it? Sorry for your loss and what you have been through, it seems as though we have been through similar experience in regards to a loss and then being diagnosed with something. Sucks doesn't it! But, you've got to remain positive haven't you, or you just go in a downward spiral.

I am absolutely petrified of trying again - I have a docs appt Monday (was meant to be tomorrow but now been changed by surgery) but i'm already dreading it as I don't think they wil take me concerns/worries/questions seriously and just tell me to try again as i'm in a good place with my Crohn's and 'shouldn't let it stop me from trying for a family'

Anyway, its nice to have someone else who is a 'newbie' again xx

 

[Rebaby]

I see my neurologist at the end of March and my plan is to discuss the idea of TTC again with him. I imagine he will be very positive about it because I'm so well managed at the minute, but I also know he can't really give me what I want- which is a guarantee that everything will be fine and that I won't relapse either during pregnancy or afterwards.

I think coming to terms with a loss as well as a life-changing diagnosis is really hard in itself, and then deciding to try again after that is even harder

I hope your gp appointment goes well, and that your is not long away.

 

[Miss Mitch]

I see my neurologist at the end of March and my plan is to discuss the idea of TTC again with him. I imagine he will be very positive about it because I'm so well managed at the minute, but I also know he can't really give me what I want- which is a guarantee that everything will be fine and that I won't relapse either during pregnancy or afterwards.

I think coming to terms with a loss as well as a life-changing diagnosis is really hard in itself, and then deciding to try again after that is even harder

I hope your gp appointment goes well, and that your is not long away.

I think that's the problem isn't it, we want someone to guarantee everything will be ok, but no one can do that, so the worry is always there.

Thank you, I really hope so to, I just want him to listen and give me an answer after actually looking at my notes and not just giving me a generic answer that is for normal people xx