2 possible fathers

[onetwo3]

I just found out i was pregnant about a week ago, I had my last period august 1st. had sex with my ex before my period and right after. then i had sex with my now bf august 14th. I would say it was my now bf but the thing is. that my ex ejaculated in me when we had sex both times. but my bf used the pull out method so i am sooooo confused, can anyone please helppp!!!!???

 

[DevilsAngel]

It sounds more likely that its your ex in all honesty. Id wait for your scan to work out dates a little more accurately.

Chin up and dont stress till you know more certainly

 

[sanbibi]

yea could be both, i would wait for dating scan but you will have to go out with the truth eventually, sucks but well you adult. good luck

 

[keepholdingon]

Your last menstrual period was Aug 1... that assumes ovulation on August 14. Of course, people do not always ovulate smack in the middle, but let's just assume...

That lines up more with your current boyfriend. The least likely time to get pregnant is right before and right after your period (although certainly not impossible).

Sperm can live up to a 5 days, I think, after ejaculation and you can still get pregnant though. What are the dates you had sex with your ex? Assuming you had a 4-5 day period and had sex, say on August 5th, the sperm could have lived until August 10th. If you ovulated early, it could be your ex's, but if you ovulated later than that, more likely your current boyfriends.

My guess would be it's not your ex's, but I'd wait until a dating scan to have a better idea

 

[doggylover]

I would say most likely it is your current boyfriend, again going on the fact that if you had your period on aug 1st and it lasted (for example) 5 days, then having sex just a day or two afterwards makes it unlikely you would have ovulated so early, and it's more likely you ovulated sometime around the 14th.

 

[michelleclare]

Hey
Ok so how close to your period did you have sex?
My period was on the 1st of aug personally I did not ovulate till cd27 and I am now 5weeks.
So how long are your cycles?
Also pull out method is not a method that should be used if you want to avoid pregnancy! As sperm comes out during intercourse!
When did you have sex with your current partner?
Sorry so many questions but all sorts must be going through your head!!!
Xx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I dont think you can really be 100%, might be a case of 'own up' inform both men that it's possible, and then go for a dna once it's born. Complicated and stressful, but it's only right you find out 100% and not make a guess, genuinly could be either.

 

[onetwo3]

I had sex a couple days before my period i got my period august 1st and i had sex around the 7th or 8th with my ex. He did ejaculate in me but i know it is almost impossible to get pregnant right before and after your period. my cycle is 31 days so i would have probley ovulated around the 18th but im not sure I never keep track of when I ovulate. and I had sex with my current bf the 14th or 15th. and he did pull out but i know its nott 100% effective. its just a big confusing mess but either way I will love my baby

 

[onetwo3]

I dont think you can really be 100%, might be a case of 'own up' inform both men that it's possible, and then go for a dna once it's born. Complicated and stressful, but it's only right you find out 100% and not make a guess, genuinly could be either.

yess I know, I already told my ex that I was pregnant and he knows I want a dna test when its born. but i still havent told my now boyfreind but I am going too. its just going to suck that im not going to have any support from either of them and im going to go through this whole pregnancy wondering who the father is.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I hope one or both of them do step up and support you through this. At least one of them helped create a life!

 

[CLH_X3]

I would say current bf ...

 

[dizzy65]

 

[Agiboma]

tbh it sounds like your current BF.

 

[Liztastic]

I would have to agree with the rest of the ladies and say it's most likely your current BF's. The pull out is far from reliable, especially depending on where his load actually fell. My second pregnancy I was using condoms or the pull out method and I really think I got pregnant during a pull out that didn't get pulled out far enough away from my lady parts. I'm sorry you have to go through this alone, I would call you doctor and try and get a dating scan as soon as possible to help determine who you feel should be the most supportive during your pregnancy - and hopefully they do. In the end it would sure make the proven father feel better if he was there for you.

 

[Crownjewelz]

I agree I would think by dates that it's your current BF baby. Either way i would still own up to your actions and tell both of them. One of them is going to have to support you and that baby eventually. One of them is a daddy!

 

[littlefishygg]

It definitely does sound like it is your current bf, but obviously a dna when baby is born is the only way to know for certain. I hope both of them support you through your pregnancy and that the father steps up when you find out. But as long as you love baby, I am sure you will have a beautiful happy baby. Try not to stress yourself too much, enjoy your pregnancy

 

[MightyMom]

I'll go against the grain and say it's probably your ex. I ovulate CD7, so I always get pregnant the day after my period ends. Unlikely that your current BF got you pregnant if he actually pulled out (as the name implies) all the way. The pull out method works when people actually pull all the way out. The reason most think it is unreliable is because men either lie about pulling out and still do it inside, or they pull out halfway.

 

[Mummy_to_be87]

this sounds like my problem with my dd, i was with my ex and had sex with him then we split up that weekend when i first met my oh we had a one night stand that turned into a relationship so i had 2 potential dads, it was only after dd was born and i got a dna test done i found out my ex is her dad. wait til your baby is here then get a dna done

 

[misspriss]

I am going to say that you will have to wait and get DNA tested. I would lean more towards the ex, but that is just because DH and I used the withdrawal method successfully for years (and it wasn't because we weren't fertile! We got pregnant our first month trying) But then, your current BF just might not be as good at it. I think that the problem with withdrawal is how good at it the guy is or not.

I hope it all works out for you!

 

[keepholdingon]

I'll go against the grain and say it's probably your ex. I ovulate CD7, so I always get pregnant the day after my period ends. Unlikely that your current BF got you pregnant if he actually pulled out (as the name implies) all the way. The pull out method works when people actually pull all the way out. The reason most think it is unreliable is because men either lie about pulling out and still do it inside, or they pull out halfway.

Respectfully, I disagree that the pull out method "works". I mean, it does in some respects as in not everyone who has a partner that pulls out gets pregnant, but sperm most certainly come out during sex even before ejaculation. You CAN get pregnant even if the man pulls out completely while/before fully ejaculating.