2014 January Rainbows

[Young414]

Megan- Glad you are back!!!!! yes, no news is good news.

Lucy- I would count to the induced date. Simply because that is the day you get to hold your LO. So I would go off that.

 

[Lucy529]

That means I have at the most 86 days thats to 38 weeks but my drs nurse, she's the go between all the drs involved in my care (I have a small army LOL) and bc she's doing all my u/s and is known for how good she is doesn't think well get to that she thinks it might be 36 weeks I'll make sure to have everything set up for him and my hospital bag ready by the beginning of Dec. just to be safe

 

[Young414]

Lucy- I'm kind of jealous! You get to hold your LO SO soon!!!! chances are that Violet will be late. She's measuring slightly large, but the doctor said she'll probably be a late baby (I don't know how they can tell that right now....but whatever lol) I would DEF have your bag packed just in case! better safe than sorry!

 

[Lucy529]

Young it feels like a long time from now but with all the nursery things still not ordered and the space cleaned I think I'm going to be one busy mommy soon but I ordered the wall decals so at least that's on the way LOL

We're waiting on hubby to get paid to order the crib and the important things he still has dresser to paint which we're getting done soon well he is I think once I get the room cleaned up to make room for everything it will be tons better but I've been procrastinating

You never know maybe Violet will surprise everyone and show up early

 

[xxemmyxx]

Hi ladies! Glad you all are well. Quick update from me:


So I had my 25 week midwife appt and I had a male midwife this time! It was so good! He made me feel so much better. I cried and told him all about the horrible sonographer who said I needed extra scans to check I'm not taking all the food from the baby. He said that the reasons they scan women with raised bmi is too check the baby is growing as sometimes measuring the fundal height can be inaccurate and also feeling the position of the baby through the stomach can be more difficult in a larger lady. These reasons make complete sense to me as if you had a lot of fat around your stomach it would be misleading and harder to feel baby. He measured my bump though and said it was perfect, found the heartbeat immediately and said it was perfect and felt the baby through my stomach and said he had no problems and that the woman was wrong and if I see her again I should refuse to be scanned by her. So now I feel better and I can go and enjoy my extra scans a bit more, knowing that I'm not stealing all the food from my baby!

 

[Lyndzo]

That's great news Emmy. Glad he could make you feel more at ease

 

[Lucy529]

Emmy Yay!!! Glad he was nice and he was able to explain things to you

I'm a little pissed off so I told you guys I have to have extra u/s and the stress test beginning at 32 weeks the financial dept. from my OB called on Wed. to tell me they needed 1000 dollars up front to cover that and I could pay the rest in payments. I get a call today saying they were waiting for me to stop by and give the deposit

Seriously do they think I'm sitting on a pile of freakin money !! Two days and then I even told her I needed time to get it together she said it was fine as long as I had it before my apt on the 29th which I had to borrow from my boss but she's going on vacation until the 17th which she said she would get for me at that payday. I'm so upset I mean they know I'm paying the specialist out of pocket then the prenatal visits and now this. I have a headache I'm so mad

 

[xxemmyxx]

So in the US if you need extra care for medical reasons you have to pay all the extra money for it?

If someone asked me for a grand for the extra scans I'm having I would laugh and say no chance, I wouldn't be able pay that! What happens if you can't pay?

So do you get a bill for your labour? If you need more intervention the bill must be bigger?

Sorry for the questions it's just so different to the NHS, there are pros and cons to both! If they make a mistake do you get a refund?

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Emmy- glad you had a good appointment, it makes such a difference being treated by nice encouraging people- I've never seen a male midwife- midman/midhusband!!!
Lucy- the money side is stressful, I don't envy you and I would struggle to come up with a grand at the moment
Megan- welcome back, hope you had a lovely holiday. I'm going to Norway for a week soon- I'll be 30 weeks- my family is stressing about the flight but it's only 90 minutes and by doctors have assured me it's totally safe. I'm pretty laid back about it but we fly there all the time so it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that will be the last trip until the baby is born though.
Speaking of my little monkey I had to be put on the monitor yesterday because he was very very quiet. I knew he was alive just not moving much. Of course as soon as he went on the monitor he went mad dancing around he hates the Doppler I think! At least it woke him up!!
I'm having a lazy weekend, might go and look at cots tomorrow, I've not bought anything for a while and feeling withdrawal symptoms!!

 

[Lucy529]

Emmy I only qualified for some assistance since am not considered a US citizen bc I only have a visa it pisses me off bc I've legally paid my taxes since 16 and they won't consider me for more, but it does pay my delivery some prenatal and 2 scans anything else I pay we're paying at least 5 thousand out of pocket it's worth it for my baby but it made me mad that she called two days later
But yes if I don't pay they won't see me I go to a dif clinic to get my prenatal as well which is run by the county but the same drs I have an apt on Thursday and I'm going to tell the dr about it bc it upsets me especially since they know my situation I am going to pay it am just going to take my time getting to it and besides I won't get it till my boss returns

I don't have insurance since my boss only employs about 5 people they're not required to give us any I'm not even entitled to maternity leave but my bosses are giving me 3 weeks off with the option to bring him to work with me our system sucks bc I know women who are not legally here getting way more than me bc they know how to play the system might sound mean but it's the truth I've seen it time and time again

 

[xxemmyxx]

Oh yes it sucks! In the uk we have a different kind of using the system, benefits! I am not entitled to anything cus I work full time as a primary school teacher so apparently earn too much to qualify but if you don't go to work at all (like some of the parents of children I teach) u seem to be able to afford 10 children and holidays to st Lucia on benefits! I'm not bashing anyone on benefits at all, they are there for people who need them but some situations do seem really unfair!

So Rachel you said you had to go on the monitor? Did u go to hospital then? How much is not much moving? He has quiet days sometimes and they worry me but then just before I really start to panic he will go really crazy in there and kicks me loads.

 

[Lucy529]

Emmymy son is the same I start to pinic bc I haven't felt him and just then he kicks me istill use the Doppler for reassurance but it scares me too

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Emmy- the benefits system makes me really angry too!!
He had hardly moved at all. Two or three kicks all morning- even after full fat coke!! Not like him at all. I'm high risk anyway so my midwife wanted me to go to the hospital for a check. False alarm thankfully. He's back to being his usual busy self now!!

 

[xxemmyxx]

Oh thank goodness Rachel, well they do say any change in what your baby usually does you should report. But my baby just has really active days and really quiet days and some days when I'm at work I will only feel flutters then when I get home and sit down he kick boxes me.

 

[Lyndzo]

Don't you hate when they get so quiet? Quinn can go for a day with only a couple kicks, then the next she'll kick for hours. I think maybe they will get more consistent the further we get.

26 weeks today for me. Last week of the 2nd trimester, eek!

 

[Lucy529]

Looking good Lyndzo

 

[xxemmyxx]

Awwww you look lovely Lyndzo!

I read somewhere that 28 weeks is when you feel the most of their movement.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Omg!!! I just noticed I'm in double digits!!!!! 99 days to go!

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Yay Emmy!
Anyone getting Braxton hicks? I'm having them quite regularly- feels very odd!!

 

[Young414]

Emmy- Glad that you had a good appointment! and YAY for 99 days!

Lyndzo- such a cute picture!

Rachel- No braxton hicks for me, so I can't compare.

Lucy- Sorry you are having such a difficult time with money and stuff. That is a horrible situation!

AFM- Violet has quiet days and busy days. I find that she is quiet during work hours, and when I take the belly band off and just sit, she reminds me that she is there. I do worry. I can't help it. But I try to assure myself that we have come so far and in the end, I'll have a healthy baby girl. My belly is getting larger. I'll have to post a picture on Wednesday when we hit 28 weeks. I've only gained 4 pounds though, so I was concerned. The doctor said not to worry about it. Violet is on the larger end of average, so that's a good sign that she is doing just fine