Ok, I have little dilemma.....Yesterday lunch time after a dreadful nights "sleep" (courtesy of my son who is Autistic and going through another period of no sleep) I felt pretty crap, so I closed the window blinds to shade me and keep the lounge cool and lay on the sofa whilst OH played out the back with the kids.....after a while I got up and noticed some hand delivered post on the floor by the front door, so I picked it up and it was a wedding invite from my SIL and also a birthday card for me from her for me (I'm 36 on Monday....)... So I called SIL mobile to thank her and got no answer but left a voicemail, she responded in the evening with a text saying, "oh, we (her and OH) called at 1pm and your blinds were STILL down...why???, so we didn't knock but we wanted to visit you.... " Now, on reading this I get a bit peed off.....they know we as a couple hate unexpected visitors, we never impose ourselves on anybody without prior invitation or a phone call to confirm it's ok to drop by, so we expect the same level of courtesy back..... So I typed out a text back to say, " Thanks again for the card and invite. I had the blinds down as we'd had a terrible night with E.... and I was resting on the sofa , also shattered with the pregnancy...also as you know we prefer not to answer the door unless a visit is pre-arranged. I know that you may think is odd but kids especially fraught autistic kids and frazzled, sickly, preggy mums and impromptu visits don't mix!!"....I didn't send it, just saved it to my drafts file on phone...for now! I have certain routines that I have to follow with my boy and we hate imposing people on him when he's not at his best , he is autistic and also has severe mental delays and he is challenging and exhausting at times and when the visitors leave it's me and OH that deal with the hysterics and fall out from him... I just wish that after seven years of my son being with with us that they'd take this on board and have a bit of thought and respect for our wishes, but it seems to just go over their heads....also the Fiance of SIL is one of them guys that is loud and rough and grabs my son in a headlock that always ends in tears and I can do with him not being in my home causing disruption! Should I send the text? I'm thinking if she has it that reading it may sink in the thoughts that we have.....awwww, I just don't know!!!! Also when this new baby is here, I will be wanting P&Q so that my son (in particular) and daughter can get used to their new sibling without family fussing around....My side of the family are understanding and not invasive but there when needed, but SIL and MIL seem to have no sense of boundary and always overstay their welcome!!