3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

So glad everyone's scans are going well!

Baby.wish, my RE did scans at 6,8, and 10 weeks and then released me to my regular OB for my 12 week appointment. We did do the nuchal translucency ultrasound and bloodwork, it wasn't bad at all. Those tests came back normal so we didn't do any in-depth screening. We'd also actually done genetic testing on both DH and me before IVF because I'm adopted, so we already knew that we weren't carriers for CF or anything.

 

[Luciola]

Hi Everyone, I haven't been posting here for a while but I came regularly to get your guys' news. Really happy for all the mommies and mommies-to-be. but I also feel down because it seems that I am the only person left here not-expecting... After putting my snowbabies aside due to unavailability of the RE, I plan to start my FET only end Jan. While sometimes I am less focus on "getting pregnant", the waiting time seems never ending.

 

[moni77]

Luciola - I am still here with you - but of course I only joined recently! You have all been a great inspiration.

AFM - currently awaiting AF to move on to IUI cycle #2 after cancellation last month due to high estrogen (cysts). BFN today at DPO 14.

 

[NsLb32]

I was married for 7yrs and was not able TC. Now I have a new partner, 3yrs, and again...nothing. We just did a IUI cycle and sadly things don't look good. I don't want to go through the sadness again, but my partner says he wants me to try. Any advice?? Thank you. Ohhh and his sperm is horribly awful and my ovarian function/egg reserve is even worse.....

 

[Luciola]

Luciola - I am still here with you - but of course I only joined recently! You have all been a great inspiration.

AFM - currently awaiting AF to move on to IUI cycle #2 after cancellation last month due to high estrogen (cysts). BFN today at DPO 14.

Hi moni Thank you... I know I have been a grumpy whiny cat. Sashimi started this topic long time ago so it is only normal there have been a lot of BFPs since! I really like the ladies here but sometimes, I feel so left behind

Good luck in your very next cycle!

 

[PinkPeony]

Hang in there Luci. You're half-way there, just gotta have your transfer. Going through fertility treatments always just feels like time just draaaags and your just waiting and waiting while everyone else's life carries on without you. It doesn't feel like it, but end of Jan will be here soon enough.

Moni - sorry about the BFN

NsLb - if your partner's sperm is really horribly awful you may want to skip IUI's and go straight to ivf with ICSI if you can. Do you know what his numbers were like after the wash?

 

[StayHopeful]

Hang in there, luciola! I agree, it's hard to watch everyone else get their bfps and feel left behind. But we're all rooting for you and can't wait to celebrate with you! The end of Jan is just around the corner.

Moni, sorry about the bfn! Fx for your next IUI cycle!

NsLb, I agree with pink. If DH has sperm issues, Icsi might be your best option. Have you discussed IVF with your RE?

 

[Luciola]

Pink and Stay, thank you so much for your messages. I pray it is my turn to announce a BFP soon...! I am really trying to relax but feel bitter from time to time. I have a lot of hope though for 2014... I ll be so happy to join you in the expecting team! And Pink, only 3 days to find out babies' sexes, I am so excited for you!

Nslb - the day we decided to go for Ivf, it was the day we felt tired of cycle after cycle s injections and nothing could even tell why we failed so many times. But it was not an easy decision we made it almost very impulsively (or we would never make it). I am not in the IVF success batch yet so hard to give any convincible advice, but IVF may be the best way to increase significantly the chance.

 

[StayHopeful]

Nslb, deciding to do IVF was a very difficult decision for DH and I, both financially and emotionally. But once we decided that we were going to do it, it was like a weight off my shoulders. And it obviously did the trick! One advantage to IVF is that it can give your RE so much more insight into what might be going wrong in the process. So even if it doesn't work the first time (though I have every confidence it will), they can learn from each cycle and change how they go forward. It's a lot more informative than IVF.

 

[PinkPeony]

The verdict is in ladies....

2 girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Luciola]

The verdict is in ladies....

2 girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS Pink!!
Now it is Pink times 3 !

 

[Strawberry13]

Yay pink congrats!! 2 girls that's gonna be pretty fun to shop for 😄😄

Luci- hang in there sweetie I felt the exact same way about everyone getting their bfps before me but when you do get yours you will forget all about that. When does your FET cycle start again?

 

[StayHopeful]

Congrats, Pink!!!

 

[moni77]

Congrats pink!!!

AFM - still waitinfg for AF - had a blood test on MOnday that came back negative but confirmed ovulation...not sure what is going on. Ugh!

 

[StayHopeful]

Sorry about the bfn, moni. I hope that you're able to get some answers soon!

 

[Maverick007]

How's everyone doing? It's been quiet so thought I'd check in.

Moni and Luc, thinking of you...

 

[StayHopeful]

It's definitely been quiet lately, I hope everybody's doing okay!

The doctor called today and I failed my 1-hour glucose test, so I have to go back in next week for the 3-hour. I know it happens, but I can't help but worry.

 

[Strawberry13]

Hey girlies!!

Stay sorry you failed the gtt but I heard lots do. And even if you fail the next one I heard it's not so bad, just more monitoring. Don't worry gal your babe is fine. And btw congrats on making it to the third tri!!!

Maverick how have you been doing? You have your nursery all girled out yet?

Good luck to all you ivfers and iuiers out there... Give us updates if you're still hanging around!

AFM I'm anxiously awaiting my anatomy scan at the end of the month then we're doing a gender reveal a few days later. Can't wait

 

[PinkPeony]

Yay! How fun Strawberry!! That was the best time for me. I feel so much more bonded with my babes since that scan and knowing the genders.

AFM, not much to report. Something a tad concerning showed up on my anatomy scan having to do with Baby A's cord. Baby is OK, could just make for a more complicated pregnancy and delivery. I won't lie, I did too much googling about it and had a serious meltdown, but I spoke to my nurse and she made me feel a lot better. I'm seeing a high risk/twin specialist OB in a couple weeks and my doctor has asked for her to look at it. Knowing I have this kick ass OB on the case makes me feel much more secure. I have 2 more scans this month and then once a month after that plus doctor's appts every 2 weeks from now on. Kinda crazy eh?

 

[StayHopeful]

Pink, FX for you! Sounds like your doctor is very much on top of things and even if it does mean complications, they'll do whatever it takes to take care of you and your little girls!

Strawberry, how exciting! My gender reveal was absolutely one of my favorite moments of pregnancy. And I definitely agree with Pink, I feel so much closer to him now!