3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[PinkPeony]

Chris great number!!

You are so lucky your clinic does sonograms so early on, mine will not do an ultrasound until i am at least 6.5 weeks so I have to go in next Friday. Seems sooo far away. After the initial two betas you just wish you could keep going for them until the ultrasound. Its like you need to know you are still pregnant. I think after trying for so long its shocking to finally have a BFP!

What I've found from my experience is that as annoying as it is, it's not a bad policy to have to wait a bit longer for the ultrasound. In the 5 week zone it's still so early, you can get kind of a vague result. The heart starts to beat around the 6 week mark so by 6.5 weeks you can see it. Anyway... try your best not to worry. I know the feeling. Even until a couple weeks ago I would get this feeling of doubt that I was actually pregnant. Now that I'm starting to get a bump that helps. In the beginning I felt like everyday I would wake up and go - Ok I made it another day, let's do it again.

 

[Strawberry13]

I'm so excited for all the great news on here! And can't wait to see pics of the first sono for both babywish and Chris 😄😄. Babywish I had to wait till 7 weeks to do my sono, those 2 weeks in between the last beta and the sono we're rough bc you just wonder if you're numbers are rising or what. But it'll be here before you know it, and it'll be worth it when you hear that nice strong heartbeat.

AFM I'm 13 weeks and going for the screening tests today. I'm excited and also a little nervous. After going through IF and IVF I think everything seems like a hurdle!

Mav have you started getting lots of dresses and hair bows and stuff yet? Pink when do you find out the sexes?

 

[Maverick007]

I'm so excited for all the great news on here! And can't wait to see pics of the first sono for both babywish and Chris 😄😄. Babywish I had to wait till 7 weeks to do my sono, those 2 weeks in between the last beta and the sono we're rough bc you just wonder if you're numbers are rising or what. But it'll be here before you know it, and it'll be worth it when you hear that nice strong heartbeat.

AFM I'm 13 weeks and going for the screening tests today. I'm excited and also a little nervous. After going through IF and IVF I think everything seems like a hurdle!

Mav have you started getting lots of dresses and hair bows and stuff yet? Pink when do you find out the sexes?

Hey girl, yay for reaching the 2nd trimester!! So awesome. It's going by quickly isn't it??

I haven't actually bought anything for the baby yet except a crib, but have received some cute receiving blankets and tons of hand-me-down girly clothes from my sister. I want to start buying some cute stuff soon though!

 

[PinkPeony]

I'm so excited for all the great news on here! And can't wait to see pics of the first sono for both babywish and Chris 😄😄. Babywish I had to wait till 7 weeks to do my sono, those 2 weeks in between the last beta and the sono we're rough bc you just wonder if you're numbers are rising or what. But it'll be here before you know it, and it'll be worth it when you hear that nice strong heartbeat.

AFM I'm 13 weeks and going for the screening tests today. I'm excited and also a little nervous. After going through IF and IVF I think everything seems like a hurdle!

Mav have you started getting lots of dresses and hair bows and stuff yet? Pink when do you find out the sexes?

I'll be finding out in a couple weeks or so I guess. I'll be at the doctor tomorrow for my monthly checkup so I'm going to see about booking the next scan. Would love to have it before xmas so we can save it and find out xmas day.

That screening test is a big milestone! Let us know how it goes!

 

[Strawberry13]

Aww I love the idea of finding out on christmas pink! Too cute.

The scan went well yesterday, they said everything looks normal so far and it was great seeing the little guy/girl bounce around in there!

 

[PinkPeony]

Amazing isn't it? It's such a big leap at that scan. Baby actually looks like a baby instead of a little blob. So cool.

 

[PinkPeony]

Anatomy scan booked for Dec 16!!! It's gonna be a fun Christmas!!

Had my prenatal today and got to hear both hb's on the doppler! I think bc I've be spreading my news around a lot lately I've been a little extra paranoid so that was really reassuring.

 

[Strawberry13]

Yay that's so soon! You guys must be so pumped. I hear ya on being paranoid I just told all my coworkers last night cause I wasn't drinking at my Xmas party. It's a little scary but what can you do except take it one day at a time ya know?

 

[amazingLife]

Congrats all preggos..
My 3rd iui failed ..i am finding hard to gather strength..ivf in jan 2014 ..

 

[Maverick007]

Amazinglife, you are in my prayers girl...i'm so sorry about your IUI. I really have hope that IVF will be the answer for you as it has been for a lot of us. Keep hoping!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Amazinglife, so sorry to hear about your failed IUI. I know that initially, it was very hard for me emotionally to take that step and move on to IVF, but once I made up my mind to do it I really looked forward to it. And it did the trick! There's quite a few other women on here who were in the same boat, too. IVF gives the doctors so much more insight into what's happening with your body.

Strawberry and Pink, it's definitely nervewracking to start sharing your news! I know that when I started telling people, I kept feeling like I was jinxing it, even though I was past that 12 week mark. I don't know that we ever stop worrying.

 

[Sunshine24]

Hi Ladies-

It's been a bit since I have posted but I was posting a lot a few months ago, and especially last year at this exact time when I was in the depths of despair over 5 failed IUIs......surgery.....an endo diagnosis.....and much sadness and frustration.

Anyway I wanted to report I had a healthy baby girl last week. She is perfect. And now I can see why the road that took us to her was so long and winding.....she was the exact baby we were meant to have! I'm not saying the waiting and failed treatments are easy, but now, on the other side, I can they say were all worth it. The darkest despair I felt last year had allowed me to reach the happiest feelings I have ever felt in my life. I appreciate her so much -- even the sleep deprivation.

When all of you get your BFPs---because you WILL, you will be better moms for it and love your little miracle more than anyone ever could because you know what a blessing it really is.

I continue to pray for all of you and think about you often.....I know it's not an easy road to travel but you are not alone.

You will make it. Stay strong, believe, and ALWAYS have hope.

xoxo

 

[baby.wish]

Sunshine thank you for that wonderful post. Made me smile while reading it!
I hope your delivery went well and you are enjoying being a MOM! Can you believe after everything you are a MOM! awww love it.

Hows everyone else doing? My first ultrasound is on Friday and im sooo nervous. I have been having cramping on and off the past few days.

Chris let us know how it goes today.

 

[PinkPeony]

Sunshine! been thinking about you. I had a feeling you were due very soon! Congratulations on your little girl! I'm so so happy for you. With xmas approaching, I've also been thinking a lot about where I was at last year at this time. In the midst of a bunch of failed IUI's. I remember feeling so down and I told my DH I didn't want to have a xmas tree in the house. It's amazing what can happen in a year.
I am so hopeful for the ladies on here that are in that spot I was last year. The holidays can be rough... keep your chins up.

Welcome AmazingLife. I know it seems like climbing a mountain right now, but just take things one step at a time. It'll be a new year, new beginnings for you. We're here for support and so many of us have done Ivf on here now, we can answer any questions you have.

 

[SashimiMimi]

Sunshine!!!! That's amazing, congrats! What you said is exactly how I feel about my son. I had to wait all that time, have the 3 failed iuis and had to do IVF to have that exact sperm and that exact egg, or it wouldn't have been him. As he turns into an older baby (almost 7 months!) I appreciate him more and more everyday. Hope you had a good birth experience! All the best to you and your baby girl!

Amazing life, hang in there. I was in the exact same position and it's why I started this thread. So many amazing women as you will see in here also were in the same position. The hardest part about infertility is not knowing when you will get that BFP! I was so scared to move on to IVF. It's emotionally physically and financially draining, but it worked. And I feel like I'm a more appreciative mom because of it.

This is a great place to talk about your fears. I found finding other women in the same situation is what really helped me get through it all.

 

[amazingLife]

Hi Ladies-

It's been a bit since I have posted but I was posting a lot a few months ago, and especially last year at this exact time when I was in the depths of despair over 5 failed IUIs......surgery.....an endo diagnosis.....and much sadness and frustration.

Anyway I wanted to report I had a healthy baby girl last week. She is perfect. And now I can see why the road that took us to her was so long and winding.....she was the exact baby we were meant to have! I'm not saying the waiting and failed treatments are easy, but now, on the other side, I can they say were all worth it. The darkest despair I felt last year had allowed me to reach the happiest feelings I have ever felt in my life. I appreciate her so much -- even the sleep deprivation.

When all of you get your BFPs---because you WILL, you will be better moms for it and love your little miracle more than anyone ever could because you know what a blessing it really is.

I continue to pray for all of you and think about you often.....I know it's not an easy road to travel but you are not alone.

You will make it. Stay strong, believe, and ALWAYS have hope.

xoxo

congrats to you

 

[amazingLife]

Thanks ladies you are a amazing support ..hope u all are enjoying mother hood

 

[baby.wish]

Chris how did your scan go??

 

[Chris_25]

Hi Ladies-

It's been a bit since I have posted but I was posting a lot a few months ago, and especially last year at this exact time when I was in the depths of despair over 5 failed IUIs......surgery.....an endo diagnosis.....and much sadness and frustration.

Anyway I wanted to report I had a healthy baby girl last week. She is perfect. And now I can see why the road that took us to her was so long and winding.....she was the exact baby we were meant to have! I'm not saying the waiting and failed treatments are easy, but now, on the other side, I can they say were all worth it. The darkest despair I felt last year had allowed me to reach the happiest feelings I have ever felt in my life. I appreciate her so much -- even the sleep deprivation.

When all of you get your BFPs---because you WILL, you will be better moms for it and love your little miracle more than anyone ever could because you know what a blessing it really is.

I continue to pray for all of you and think about you often.....I know it's not an easy road to travel but you are not alone.

You will make it. Stay strong, believe, and ALWAYS have hope.

xoxo

Ah congratulations! I can't believe how fast that went. I am so happy for you!

 

[Chris_25]

Chris how did your scan go??

I had my scan on Monday I was 5 weeks and 5 days. It went great we saw a fluttering which the doctor thinks was the heart. He told me there was a 50/50 chance of hearing it that day. We couldn't hear it, but i'm going back Monday for another ultrasound.

How are you? Updates?