3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Strawberry13]

Nicedips sounds like that's probably the best option.. Gl trying to convince your DH. If you look at the facts and stats I'm sure you can show him why you and your dr feel this way! Sending hugs.

Bma I'm feeling the same, no symptoms so starting to accept that I'm out for the month. How about you?? Did you test??

Maverick and stay hopeful how are you 2 feeling? Excited hopefully?

 

[Bma11]

Strawberry- I did test & I'm pregnant! It's still so early but my test is strong! I go in tomorrow to do my beta.

Nice dips- good luck! Of course I would say this now but sincerely wish I'd just went straight to ivf.

 

[Strawberry13]

Yayyyy congrats!! Maybe there's 2 little beans in there??

 

[PinkPeony]

woohoo!!! Congrats BMA!!

 

[Maverick007]

oh my goodness, congratulations!!!!! i was wondering this morning if you had gotten a positive yet! YAY! Congrats

 

[Maverick007]

It's starting to get hard to keep track of everyone here, wow So happy for bma this morning!! Truly made this terrible morning much better! We are going through a tropical storm so it's pretty gross and depressing outside.

Strawberry, don't count yourself out yet! I hear about so many people that said they had no symptoms early on and were still pg, so try to keep up your spirits until you know for sure! Fingers still crossed big time for you though!!

Nicedips, I know it's such a hard decision but I wish you the best. Lately I just go with whatever I feel like I have the most peace about. In our case that meant doing four IUIs first, which all failed, but I know at the time that was the right decision. For me, I knew if I went straight to IVF I'd probably always wonder if the IUIs would have worked. Now I will not ever wonder, but that's just me.

I am feeling overwhelmed this morning because I just spoke to the IVF coordinator in more detail and the price tag is starting to scare me off! She's telling me that just the single cycle, with meds and ICSI, would be worst case right around $16k. Ouch. All this time I'd been thinking 12 - 13K which is not that much less, but it's still sticker shock. We are going to borrow the money so it's definitely making me a little uncomfortable. She also told me about a new program Attain came up w/ that is 2 fresh/2 frozen cycles...so I'm letting her apply for it and hope to hear soon what the price tag would be for that and whether it would make any more sense than doing all those cycles separately.

 

[Bma11]

Strawberry- I don't feel any symptoms either still with a positive test, so don't worry yet! You are not out.

Maverick- I couldn't agree more with your advice to nice dips. I could t go on to ivf without trying iui's because I was so scared of ivf at the time. Then I couldn't move on to ivf without doing a laparoscopy. Ill never wonder either but heck I could have saved $7 grand on 3 failed iui's and the meds. U know? Arh! Why would it be so expensive? Is that with the cost of meds? Does insurance cover anything? My RE wrote me the script and I was able to get the prices of the meds before I did anything.

 

[Maverick007]

Strawberry- I don't feel any symptoms either still with a positive test, so don't worry yet! You are not out.

Maverick- I couldn't agree more with your advice to nice dips. I could t go on to ivf without trying iui's because I was so scared of ivf at the time. Then I couldn't move on to ivf without doing a laparoscopy. Ill never wonder either but heck I could have saved $7 grand on 3 failed iui's and the meds. U know? Arh! Why would it be so expensive? Is that with the cost of meds? Does insurance cover anything? My RE wrote me the script and I was able to get the prices of the meds before I did anything.

Yeah that is with the meds which she estimates at between 4-5K and with the cost of freezing any potential remaining embryos for 1 year. She says base price is $9,200 + meds (4-5K) plus ICSI would be $1,120. So I could end up paying less, esp if ICSI is not needed, but I wouldn't know until after I borrowed all the money. Luckily you can pre-pay the loan back w/ no penalty, but still, I'd possibly end up paying extra interest unnecessarily. Bah. My insurance only covers IUIs and diagnostic testing (which I already completed) so no coverage exists for IVF. Oh well. Obviously, this is so much more worthwhile than borrowing money for a car or something, so why am I worrying, I don't know. It's just a little overwhelming I guess!

 

[Bma11]

The money is overwhelming no matter how you spin it. So don't worry for worrying about it. It's natural and you'll get over it as well. That's a good price. Mine was 11,850 with icsi & assisted hatching and storage for a year. Then I would have had to pay out of pocket for meds and luckily my insurance paid a huge portion of that. So, actually I just did the math and we are paying about the same if my insurance didnt cover meds.
It's well worth it! I'm excited for you!!

 

[Maverick007]

Thanks, it really helps to hear another person's perspective that's been through it. I am actually hoping my insurance will also help w/ the meds b/c supposedly my plan covers prescriptions (and it says something like "including for infertility"). So that would be AWESOME. I should call them before I do anything further w/ the loan application. Did your insurance company make you get pre-authorization for all the med coverage?

Also, how excited are you?? I always think when I finally get a positive, it will be too surreal for me to actually believe it.

 

[Bma11]

Yes I had to get pre authorization. The doctor gave me my prescription of everything I would need and I called or they called me (can't remember) and they gave me a total.

I'm so excited and so nervous. This morning I freaked a little more because the line was really there. It is very surreal. I will be on pins and needles until 1pm tomorrow... They'll call with my beta results!!

 

[Nicedips]

Appreciate all ur responses and happy atleast some body is with me but guess i would have to wait on IVF decision.

I called my insurance company and they have pre-req to get qualified for IVF coverage. I need to go through 3 injectible IUIs before IVF . I am attending IVF orientation anyway on 19th, I will get pricing sheet. I guess I will have to wait few more days to have a clear path of what I am going to do.

I also scheduled appt with another RE. My current RE is good, but want to get second opinion if my RE missed any tests I should have got done. I dont know if its needed, thought i would go for it.

 

[Maverick007]

Nicedips, I think it sounds like you are being smart about it and don't feel rushed to make a decision...sometimes you just need a break to regroup and get a different outlook. I hope this new RE has some new ideas! Will your insurance cover IVF if you do the IUIs first? If so, that is pretty amazing.

 

[StayHopeful]

Woohoo, congrats BMA!!! GL with your beta tomorrow!

Maverick, we're doing a 50% refund cycle and it was about $10,800, plus about $3500 for the meds (that was with 50% off the cetrotide and gonal f). Our last IUI was in November and we've been saving since then. We had to put the meds on our credit card and we set up a payment plan with our RE's clinic for the last 25% of the IVF contract cost, but it includes ICSI and assisted hatching if they feel like our embryos need it and it also includes storage for one year, plus unlimited FETs if the fresh cycle doesn't work.

Strawberry, I'm getting so nervous and excited! Today was the last day of school (I'm a teacher) and I've been so busy with all of our end-of-the-year stuff that I haven't really had a chance to think about it. But now that the school year is ending and I take my last progesterone tomorrow night, it's all I can think about! Part of me is really hopeful and part of me is scared to be hopeful because I'll be devastated by another bfn. And I feel like so much more is riding on it because it seems like a much bigger deal, both in terms of cost and how much I'm actually putting my body through. But I know I can't think like that, I just have to go in being positive. Basically, I'm freaking out a little bit...

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful- thank you!! its totally normal, the feelings youre having. But I swear once you actually get going the worry and anxiety isn't as bad because the whole IVF process is not as scary when actually doing it

Yay for summer, I swear I wish I was able to be a teacher! Would be the best work set up ever! I can't believe school lasts this long... Our districts last day was today as well but my step kids who live in tx too just west got out last Thursday. Weird.

 

[Maverick007]

StayHopeful, that sounds like a great program they offer! I really don't think I want to do 2 fresh/2 frozen, but at the same time, if this attempt at a 1st fresh cycle did not work, it would be awhile before we could do another fresh cycle so the hope would be we'd have some left to freeze.

How is everyone else doing? Pinkpeony how are you? Are you getting close to your next appt to talk about ivf and timelines and all that? I hope our cycles end up being close together!

 

[PinkPeony]

Yes! Close!! It's on Tuesday! I'll let you know how it goes.

GL BMA!! How are you feeling btw?

 

[Bma11]

Good luck pink. I actually feel fine in terms of symptoms. Have a bad sinus headache and this mornin has a nausea but all good now.

My beta is 191. I go back Monday for another test

 

[Maverick007]

Good luck pink. I actually feel fine in terms of symptoms. Have a bad sinus headache and this mornin has a nausea but all good now.

My beta is 191. I go back Monday for another test

that is awesome!!

 

[Sunshine24]

Woohoo, congrats BMA!!! GL with your beta tomorrow!

Maverick, we're doing a 50% refund cycle and it was about $10,800, plus about $3500 for the meds (that was with 50% off the cetrotide and gonal f). Our last IUI was in November and we've been saving since then. We had to put the meds on our credit card and we set up a payment plan with our RE's clinic for the last 25% of the IVF contract cost, but it includes ICSI and assisted hatching if they feel like our embryos need it and it also includes storage for one year, plus unlimited FETs if the fresh cycle doesn't work.

Strawberry, I'm getting so nervous and excited! Today was the last day of school (I'm a teacher) and I've been so busy with all of our end-of-the-year stuff that I haven't really had a chance to think about it. But now that the school year is ending and I take my last progesterone tomorrow night, it's all I can think about! Part of me is really hopeful and part of me is scared to be hopeful because I'll be devastated by another bfn. And I feel like so much more is riding on it because it seems like a much bigger deal, both in terms of cost and how much I'm actually putting my body through. But I know I can't think like that, I just have to go in being positive. Basically, I'm freaking out a little bit...

I was very nervous when I began IVF and when I started to get hopeful, I would get MORE nervous because I didnt want my hopes to be dashed. But like BMA said, it's actually not as nerve wracking once you start the process. It will go fast for you and you will be surprised how good you feel!! And if you have any questions there are several of us on here that have gone through IVF and would be happy to support you.

Like your BnB name says " StayHopeful "