3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Maverick007]

Maverick- do in your heart what is right. Just remember the statistics of IUI vs IVF. MUCH HIGHER!!! Also, my clinic offers nothing like that. However, I pay the ivf(icsi & assisted hatching included) and if it doesn't work the next cycles are automatically waived if physician fees! That knocks off like 6 grand!! And FET's are like a little over 3k.

Strawberry- glad things are looking up! I also hear going to the chiropractor is really great for fertility!! My friend had a miscarriage and has PCOS and decided to go to the chiropractor and ended up pregnant. So she swears by it!! And I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does the whole license plate thing!!! I do it too!

My embryo transfer was great. Nothing to it. My RE let my mom and best friend in the room. My DH is sick and has to sleep because he is working nights. I am on prednisone which suppresses my immune system so I'd rather stay away from anyone who is sick!!
I'm already itching to POAS!

woohoo! so glad that everything went perfectly...i laughed at your wanting to already poas...too funny! but i know i would want to also. can't wait to hear the results.

and yes, it gives me a lot of comfort to know the success rates are much higher, i'm already feeling excited about it.

 

[Strawberry13]

Bma congrats on being PUPO!!! Try to keep yourself very busy these next few weeks, I will be trying to do the same!

Breanne welcome! You're on the same schedule as a few of us so we'll all be testing at the same time. Best of luck on this cycle!

Maverick keep us posted on how it goes and what you guys decide in terms of timing. I hope you guys can start quickly!

Stay hopeful so glad that they're allowing you to start your stims that must have been a huge relief!

 

[PinkPeony]

Yay!! Hope we can be cycle buddies!

I understand what you mean now. I wouldn't be able to afford that either and have no intention of doing that many IVF's. I haven't discussed with DH or anything but in my mind I would do 2 fresh IVF's - if I have any frosties btwn those I'll have a go at a FET as well, but beyond that I think I'd move on. There's the money factor which is huge but also I worry about long term health consequences of doing so many IVF cycles.

 

[PinkPeony]

Glad to hear your FET was a breeze BMA!!

Welcome Breanne!

 

[BreanneB55]

Thanks ladies!! So happy to have aplace where I can relate to people going through the same things I am! Gives me renewed sense of hope

 

[Sunshine24]

Breanne--you definitely found your place! This board kept me sane and I'm convinced helped me get to me BFP by making me calm and feel supported!

 

[Strawberry13]

Good morning ladies! How's everyone feeling? Bma any symptoms yet? Do u know when ur gonna test?

Cjohnson how about you any symptoms? None here unfortunately

Maverick did you guys come to any conclusions? Is ivf definitely on for the summer?

 

[Strawberry13]

Good morning ladies! How's everyone feeling? Bma any symptoms yet? Do u know when ur gonna test?

Maverick did you guys come to any conclusions? Is ivf definitely on for the summer?

 

[Bma11]

Good morning!!!

I did POAS this morning knowing it would be too soon, and hopefully and most likely it is!! Lol but I couldn't help it!
Around 12 am I had pressure in my abdomen area as if maybe AF was coming but it wasn't cramps, like crumpling, rolling cramps. I will take that as a good sign though!!

How are you strawberry? And everyone else?

Thanks for the well wishes ladies!

 

[Maverick007]

Hey ladies! Hope everyone had a good weekend...it's definitely Monday though.

Bma, Strawberry, and everyone else in the TWW, I am continuing to feel very hopeful for you all! Someone will get some good news this month, I just know it.

I got AF sometime in the middle of the night last night so at least I can definitely be sure now that the last cycle was a bust. Talked to DH this morning and we are definitely moving forward with IVF as soon as we can.

I left a msg with the IVF coordinator at my RE's office to let her know it was CD1 and to let me know of any remaining diagnostic testing I need to complete. So the ball is rolling!

 

[Bma11]

Maverick- sorry it was definitely a bust but I am super happy you are moving on with ivf! The chances are much greater!

And thanks I want this bfp so bad & to stick.

 

[Strawberry13]

Ohh bma yes it's def too early try to hold out a few more days! The stretching feeling def sounds like a good sign so fingers crossed for you!

Maverick sorry AF came its never fun to see her but glad you're moving forward and hopefully you can begin ivf sooner rather than later!

I'm feeling the same, have a few symptoms like tiredness late in the day and very high temps, but I'm 99% sure that's from the prometrium my dr has me on so nothing to read into.

So I need everyone's advice on something- I'm supposed to go for a beta and progesterone test on thurs and to be honest I really don't want to go bc it's gonna ruin my weekend assuminh its neg. I would much rather just wait for AF to arrive next week and only test if its late. But I think my dr may want me to test bc assuming its neg they'll take me off prometrium right away. Do u think I should be a bad patient and just not get the test till Saturday, then I'll find out Monday and it won't completely ruin by weekend??

 

[Maverick007]

Ohh bma yes it's def too early try to hold out a few more days! The stretching feeling def sounds like a good sign so fingers crossed for you!

Maverick sorry AF came its never fun to see her but glad you're moving forward and hopefully you can begin ivf sooner rather than later!

I'm feeling the same, have a few symptoms like tiredness late in the day and very high temps, but I'm 99% sure that's from the prometrium my dr has me on so nothing to read into.

So I need everyone's advice on something- I'm supposed to go for a beta and progesterone test on thurs and to be honest I really don't want to go bc it's gonna ruin my weekend assuminh its neg. I would much rather just wait for AF to arrive next week and only test if its late. But I think my dr may want me to test bc assuming its neg they'll take me off prometrium right away. Do u think I should be a bad patient and just not get the test till Saturday, then I'll find out Monday and it won't completely ruin by weekend??

Thanks I'm glad to be moving forward!

I have no idea re: your question because I'm not familiar with the prometrium or what the impact of taking it is if you're pregnant. I would probably call the nurse and get an understanding of that and if it's not that big a deal health-wise, don't feel pressured to go test if you're not comfortable with it and would rather just wait.

 

[Bma11]

Strawberry- Are you just not wanting to get the test because if its negative you'll be upset the whole weekend?

I don't know about you but when I was doing iui's I couldn't wait to know the outcome and when it was negative I'd be able to drink a beer or something to calm me down. Not that drinking is anything special but for me it relaxes me. Personally I'd get the test done, obviously!! I'm only 4 days post 5 day transfer and already testing! Lol

 

[Strawberry13]

Strawberry- Are you just not wanting to get the test because if its negative you'll be upset the whole weekend?

Yes exactly I don't want my weekend to be ruined by a bfn I'd rather find out on Monday and be depressed at work ( I also have a baby shower this weekend so a neg would make that upsetting to go to also). I guess everyone handles it differently though. And yes I think you're def way too early to test so try to hold out a little more!

I'll probably just ask my nurse this wk if I can push off the test a few days. Hopefully she says its ok!

 

[Bma11]

Ohhhh baby shower ... I get it.. I honestly do!! See what they say & let us know!!

 

[PinkPeony]

I just don't go to baby showers anymore. They mess me up emotionally and it's just not worth it. If the person doesn't understand then I don't care to have them as a friend.

If you have enough prometrium to last you at least till Monday when you get your test result then no big deal I think. I actually never test as a rule. Even when I was doing IUI's, I just told my doc it's easier for me emotionally to wait for AF. The only times I went in for the test was when I was on progesterone bc they never give me enough to hold me over in case I was preg. So I'd need to find out. I have issues with my progesterone so I'd def need to supplement during early pregnancy.

Anyway.. that's just me. Clearly, when I have a rough time with TTC I can really get into a funk so I try to plan ahead a bit. That's just me trying to cope - which it sounds like you're doing by avoiding the test before the weekend. Do what's best for your emotional well being.

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks guys! So nice to have people who understand. I feel like I'm not nuts cause sometimes I'm not too sure lol

Yeah showers are hard. This one is for a good friend of mine who went through a lot to get pg (she got pg through ivf). She knows what I'm going through and is a huge support for me and even told me not to come if I'm not up for it. So yeah I def want to be there for her and I am truly very happy for her. But even so getting a negative the day before def will NOT help matters at all. Lol

 

[PinkPeony]

Aw that's not so bad. Maybe I could handle that one too. Good for her!

It's tough when it's an oopsie pregnancy and the woman just sits there complaining while ppl pile gifts on her.... not that I'm speaking from experience or anything...

Also I can't deal with all the older ladies who think it's perfectly Ok to pry about when I'm going to have kids. "So you're neeeeexxt!!" or "you're married? why don't you have kids?" Like I just eff-ing met you lady do you want to know the results of my last pap smear too? It's a little personal!

sorry for the vent lol

 

[barbikins]

hey ladies, im new to this thread
i just went through my third IUI & at 12dpo yesterday I had some sharp cramps & slightly later after started spotting. Brown light spotting. Have a tiny bit of it today too at 13dpo. I am not scheduled until Wed to go in for bloods but what can we say - I'm out. LOL
Damn. I am waiting for this to be over & onto IUI#4. Damn.