3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Strawberry13]

I know the feeling it's like the only time during these last few years I actually wanted my period to come sooner!

 

[StayHopeful]

I think I ended up paying about 15k too.

 

[Maverick007]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

Any news or updates this week?

I go in for my next OB appt. on 10/16 and the time is dragging by...my mom is chomping at the bit to be able to announce something on FB and I just can't let her until I know things are OK at that appt. I'll be 12w5d by then.

 

[Strawberry13]

Omg I can't believe you're gonna be 12 weeks! Time really flies. Keep us posted... Are you guys gonna find out the sex when the time comes?

I'm feeling ok, not too many symptoms except sore boobs and being tired lot. I have my second beta tomorrow and am already freaking out that my numbers aren't gonna be good but I keep telling myself that I've done everything I can and it's all out of my control now.

 

[baby.wish]

Wow Maverick already 12 weeks! Thats crazy how time flies and you will be entering your second trimester soon!

Strawberry fingers crossed the beta doubles as it should.

Nicedips, almost time for stims...

As for me I decided I want to try again. We have two embryos on ice, they aren't the greatest quality but worth a shot. I'm going away for the weekend and according to my calculation I should be starting AF this weekend so if thats the case I won't be able to go into the clinic for my baseline ultrasound and will have to wait until November. However if I get it next week instead then we will start this month. Im really praying for the FET to work.

 

[Maverick007]

Strawberry, wow, 7 days in between your betas, you must be going crazy! I'm sure it will be a nice high number though...thinking happy thoughts for you and those little guys!

Babywish, I'm sooo happy to hear you're going to go ahead w/ the FET!! I will definitely pray for success and can't wait to hear of your bfp!

12 weeks on Friday, I know it has really snuck up on me. I've been feeling so much less nauseous the past few weeks, which is both awesome and also makes me a little nervous! I just can't wait till the 16th. Strawberry, we do intend to find out the sex when the time comes.

 

[StayHopeful]

Woohoo Mav, almost to 12 weeks! That's so exciting! I can't wait to hear how your next ultrasound goes. Glad to hear that your nausea is getting better too!

Strawberry, good luck with your beta tomorrow! It's normal to be nervous about it, but I know that everything will be great. I don't think us IVF ladies ever stop worrying. Once we pass one milestone, we just start worrying about the next one

Baby.wish, massive good luck with your FET! Those have great success rates too and I'm praying for your success too!

AFM, everything's still holding steady. It's been an adjustment going from the frequent monitoring during my first trimester to the normal pregnancy monitoring schedule, I haven't been to the doctor in 2 weeks and don't go again until a week from Thursday. Then it's just to see the doctor, no ultrasound until Halloween. I'm starting to get a tiny bit of my energy back but I'm still on the nausea medicine. To the people who know, I'm starting to show, but if you didn't know I was pregnant you'd think I've just put on quite a few pounds. At least I've gained back all the weight that morning sickness made me lose (and then a few more pounds on top of that)!

 

[Maverick007]

Aww, so glad to hear everything is great Stay Hopeful!! That's awesome that you are starting to feel a bit better too...before you know it you will be obviously showing! Probably just another week or two. I know the feeling though, I just have a pooch that is slightly more bloated some days, but definitely don't look pregnant yet!

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks guys! I'm going nuts here waiting on my beta results....

Babywish I'm so happy you're doing the FET also. One thing my doc explained to me was that embryo quality is really only partially correlated to success- it also depends on your lining, your age, and how well the embie grows once its in its natural home. So maybe a natural FET will have better results since you won't be on as many drugs.

Stay- glad you're feeling so much better. You really got the worst of the ms, huh? But now you're heading into the home stretch! I'm jealous of you and mav's almost baby bumps

So I've had some of the oddest symptoms (if you can even call them symptoms) - one thing is that I go to bed super early but then I have a really really hard time falling back to sleep after I get up to pee in the middle of the night. That never used to happen to me I could always sleep well into the mornings! And also I feel like I'm getting a cold/flu- sniffly but not too bad but also a little achy and off. I'm soooo hoping it's not the actual flu as I haven't had my shot yet!!

 

[Maverick007]

strawberry, i have been experiencing the exact same things!! arg. it's the worst. i rarely go a night without having to get up to pee and normally i can go right back to sleep but not since i've been pregnant. it takes me forever to fall back asleep! and my nose is so stuffy and annoying!

can't wait to hear about the beta!!

 

[baby.wish]

Thanks guys! I'm going nuts here waiting on my beta results....

Babywish I'm so happy you're doing the FET also. One thing my doc explained to me was that embryo quality is really only partially correlated to success- it also depends on your lining, your age, and how well the embie grows once its in its natural home. So maybe a natural FET will have better results since you won't be on as many drugs.

Stay- glad you're feeling so much better. You really got the worst of the ms, huh? But now you're heading into the home stretch! I'm jealous of you and mav's almost baby bumps

So I've had some of the oddest symptoms (if you can even call them symptoms) - one thing is that I go to bed super early but then I have a really really hard time falling back to sleep after I get up to pee in the middle of the night. That never used to happen to me I could always sleep well into the mornings! And also I feel like I'm getting a cold/flu- sniffly but not too bad but also a little achy and off. I'm soooo hoping it's not the actual flu as I haven't had my shot yet!!

Hi strawberry, apparently runny nose, stuffy sore throat is a pretty common early pregnancy symptom. When my sister got pregnant she had a really bad cold thought it was just that a cold and her doc told her that can be a symptom. they even have a name for it called rhinitis something like that.
hope your beta numbers come back perfect!!

 

[PinkPeony]

Phewf ladies. I have had such a day. Finally can relax a bit and catch up.

Strawberry I am having the exact same sleep issues! I'm up at least twice to pee, after the second one that's it, I'm awake. Which is crazy bc I'm soooooo exhausted allllll the time.

Baby.wish - happy to hear you're going to be able to do a FET and so soon! It will be so much easier physically. I actually read about a clinic in Germany with very high success rates and all they do is FET cycles. The thinking is that it's easier on the body and more conducive to it sticking if you give your body a break after all the ivf drugs. My doctor also told me not to put too much stock in the stage or quality of the embryos. She said even if they look perfect there could be something irregular about them, and conversely if they look like they have imperfections or they're not blasts yet they can actually be totally fine genetically.

 

[Strawberry13]

So glad to hear I'm not the only one with these symptoms! It's funny everyone tells you how tired you'll be when you're in your first tri so I thought I was so weird for not being able to sleep.

My beta came back at 3105! Yay! They said I'm done with betas for now, I have to call tomorrow and see when the doc wants me in for a sono.

 

[Maverick007]

great beta!!

 

[Maverick007]

Ok I need a few opinions, if you guys don't mind. This is a really petty issue let me just acknowledge now! haha

My next OB appt. isn't until a week from today but all along my mom has had it in her mind that we would make the news "public" at the 12 week mark (Friday) so she could then tell everyone she knows (she is very bad at holding in secrets). I told her that made me nervous b/c I have not had an appt. in over 3 weeks so before I blab about this, I think it makes sense to wait until that next appt. to confirm all is well.

Do you think this is the way to go or am I being a bit paranoid?

 

[PinkPeony]

Ugh moms... The day after I told my mom my news she went and told the dental hygenist (who I also see and actually really dislike). Even told her we did ivf! Basically, if I have a mc I'm going to have to switch dentists now. Anyways that's my mom.... But I think she can wait a little longer till you're comfortable. It's your news. I dunno... I'm a pretty private person so I'm big on that.

 

[Maverick007]

oh dear...she had to tell the dental hygienist?? moms are something else. i totally understand. i keep worrying that my mom will tell everyone that we did IVF too which i really don't want anyone knowing unless i know them well and choose to tell them.

 

[PinkPeony]

Right?? I was like - wow it only took you one whole day to go blab to whoever would listen?? The funny thing is it turns out the hygienist had a baby through a surrogate like 10 years ago. You never know eh.

But I was like MOM! NO ONE ELSE!!

 

[Strawberry13]

Ugh I have a mom like this too!! I specially told her several times I didn't want her telling anyone we were doing fertility treatments then she went and told my grandparents! I was like, my grandparents don't need to know this, just let them be happy when they get a great grandchild!! I was so pissed off.

Anyway that's my rant but I agree with pink, only when you both are comfortable and ready, it's YOUR news so you decide who knows and when. I think the 12 week thing is a general guide but if everything looks great at 11 weeks and you're cool with it then why not?

 

[Maverick007]

Thanks guys...I know deep down I will feel more confident if the dr tells me things are still good. I just wish I had never learned about a missed miscarriage!! How is it fair that you can m/c, but not know it happens?? Anyway, I think I will just make her wait. Problem solved.