3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[ttcbaby117]

yeah I know exactly what you are saying...I feel the same way. I do think that is what happened with my failed previous cycles. Hopefully that is another thing IVF can fix. We might have some immature ones but hopefully some will be mature!

 

[Sunshine24]

Jlh-- I've been thinking about you as I know you are in the 2ww?? When do you find out?? How are you feeling?

 

[Jlh1980]

Honestly I'm feeling like I am starting to get my usaul PMS symptoms I'm due for it on thurs next week and I'm convinced I'm going to get it. On a good note I made an appointment for a consult at a new RE clinic, they have better statistics, its closer to my house, we are in network (for US's and bloodwork), they take EVENING consults,and several of my husband's co workers have gotten pregnant there (ALL GOOD SIGNS). I feel bad leaving but I realize after reading everyone's messages I really need to ask more questions. I have no idea what any of my hormone levels were, she just always told me they were good so I didn't question it. Now that it has come to IVF, I need to take things a little more serious. Sunshine I made your burrito thing last night . If I get my AF our appointment at the new clinic will be on 4/3 so its still good timing and early enough to get things going soon.

It seems like everyone on here that took the IVF route had success, so I'm feeling optimistic. Plus I'm going to a wedding this weekend, while there will be no rockstar moments, I do have a friend going that has had 3 rounds of IVF and 3 beautiful children to show for it, so I'm trying to keep my head up.

BMA/Stayhopeful I hope financially you guys can get the funds, I have friends that their parents chipped in and others that just put in on the credit card. I know we all want to get this show on the road, first of many financial crises that children will cause us

Sunshine I can't wait to hear your beta results every few days, will be thinking about you all the way until your 12 week visit!

TTC keep the stats coming, I'm taking notes and sending positive energy your way

Sorry I always feel like I want to write to everyone because everyone of you are giving me strength

Last but not least, the one who started this thread, Sash how's the pregnancy going, do you know what you are having, your delivery is right around the corner!!!

the end sorry to write so much

 

[ttcbaby117]

Jlh - if you would like to request your test results from your current dr. You will need to do that anyway when you go the new clinic. I would get them from your current dr and have them for your April 3rd appt. It will cut out a lot of the preliminary stuff because you have had most or at least some of the tests done. You will get much further in that first appt also!

Good luck and please run things by us if you have any questions. That's what we are here for!

 

[Jlh1980]

oh I am after seeing how informed you guys are, I'm stepping up my game! Although I don't want to go get my records because I feel like a traitor so I'm making my husband do it I'm such a baby!

 

[Sunshine24]

JLh-- sorry you feel like this IUI wasnt a success but I'm so happy you have a plan to move forward immediately after. I feel it's so much easier to deal with anything when there is a plan in place, ya know? And I know I've said it before, but IVF is really so, so manageable and not as scary as it may sound. You can do it! Enjoy the wedding this weekend.

I'm so glad we are all on this thread---it was/is such a huge support to me. Sashimi was the happy ending I wanted when I joined this thread and her story helped me stay positive--I truly believe that is what helped me be successful this time. Let's all keep helping each other.....we'll all get there!

 

[ttcbaby117]

JLH - that is ok as long as you get them....LOL!

 

[Bma11]

Jlh- I'd feel like a traitor too!!! But you have to do what's right in your heart and head! Have a good weekend!

 

[Jlh1980]

I'm so glad I have you guys, I can't say it enough! Sadly this has become my new Facebook, since I can't take going on there anymore and seeing all the pics of everyone's children........ I hate being this way I wonder if my new re will recommend a lap, my last one did not but it seems like most of yours did. Ttc did they recommend one for you before ivf, I've convinced myself that I have endo just bc it seems like everyone who has had 3 failed iui s did and didn't have any symptoms.

 

[ttcbaby117]

No I was not recommended a lap because I had open fibroid survey in 2010 and the drs looked then and didn't see any endo. If your Dr doesn't recommend the lap, I would insist on it before you do IVF just to ensure there is none. The worse thing that can happen is that you have it and your Ivf fails because you didn't check it out. Now most endo can be bypassed by Ivf but some cannot. Speak to your Dr and see what they say. Remember you don't have to have symptoms to have endo...many women do not.

I understand what you mean about FB it does get to be to much, but I always this k when I have my lil line that I will want to constantly post things about her...so I try my best to tolerate it.

 

[Bma11]

I'm so glad I have you guys, I can't say it enough! Sadly this has become my new Facebook, since I can't take going on there anymore and seeing all the pics of everyone's children........ I hate being this way I wonder if my new re will recommend a lap, my last one did not but it seems like most of yours did. Ttc did they recommend one for you before ivf, I've convinced myself that I have endo just bc it seems like everyone who has had 3 failed iui s did and didn't have any symptoms.

Does your mom have endometriosis? Do you have any sisters with it? Or do they have bad periods? Women who's mothers and sisters have endo have a 11% more chance of having it as well.

My ONLY endo symptom was when I was on my period and I had to go number 2, it hurt! And it wasn't like it had been like that forever, just several months. The endo was spreading. And like you say, not everyone has symptoms. I definelty think you should ask for an lap. I did, my RE did not bring it up to me, I brought it up to him. I wanted to know if I was truly unexplained or if there was something going on. I didn't want to do IVF without knowing, if everything was okay or not.

As for Facebook: I know how you feel, I just scroll through or hide the feed. I'm happy for them, don't get me wrong, but some people post all day everyday. Gag me! and it's only to the people whom I know got pregnant first or second try. It's a mix of emotions, I don't want anyone to suffer from infertility, but geez I wanted to get pregnant easy too.

 

[StayHopeful]

My doctor hasn't suggested a lap at all in any of our conversations. She told me she doubted I had endo (I'm adopted, so looking at my family history isn't an option). She did some bloodwork to check for it and I also did a hysterosonography (or something like that, it's where they shoot water into the uterus) and it looked normal. She said she didn't want to do any surgeries because I'm still young and she thinks I have a good shot with IVF. Should I be concerned?

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hey Stayhopeful, I wouldn't be concerned. I didn't do the lap either for the same reasons your doctor listed to you. It was also discovered that I have a low ovarian reserve and that a lap would be too risky. My RE also said that IVF bypasses endo so he wasn't concerned at all.

I think for each person it's different. For a lot of women it seems beneficial to have the surgery just to see if there is something wrong and for others it may not be the right answer. I admit I was terrified more than anything at the though of the lap and was relieved I didn't have to do it. The ladies here make it sound not that scary at all!!

 

[Jlh1980]

BMA, my sister may have endo but she is almost 40 and has never had or tried to have children for other reasons. Other than her I don't know of anyone in my family or anyone that had infertility issues either.

Stayhopeful, I honestly feel like it is 50/50. My doctor did not recommend one either and said that they used to do them all the time but now the trend has changed. It seems like the studies are mixed some say it improves your chances and others say that IVF is enough to overcome endo and doing the lap does not improve your chances that much. However on this thread it seems that most have had them and it was beneficial for them I personally don't want one if I don't need it only because that pushes everything back further, not too mention more time off from work.

I'm actually switching RE clinics next week, so we will see if the new doctor has the same feelings.

Just an update I'm due for my period this thurs, I feel like I've been stuck for so long. Every month I wait until tues or wed to test and so far they have all been negative. I still don't have any symptoms but I also don't feel any AF symptoms yet either which I thought I did earlier in the week. Maybe I'll test tues, but then I get so depressed when its negative.....I guess it will be upsetting whether its tues or thurs...........to wait or not to wait.......

 

[Bma11]

My doctor hasn't suggested a lap at all in any of our conversations. She told me she doubted I had endo (I'm adopted, so looking at my family history isn't an option). She did some bloodwork to check for it and I also did a hysterosonography (or something like that, it's where they shoot water into the uterus) and it looked normal. She said she didn't want to do any surgeries because I'm still young and she thinks I have a good shot with IVF. Should I be concerned?

I wouldn't be concerned either. Mine said the same thing though & I had stage 2-3 severe endo. The reason I pretty much demanded a lap is because I wanted to know if there was anything wrong. I couldn't at the time fathom spending 12k when everything was perfect. If everything was good I would have probably explored every other possible way to get pregnant naturally. But since I had endo everywhere I now know what my problem is & will always be. And that makes spending 12k a lot easier to swallow! And my RE said the same thing about IVF bypassing everything. I think the hystersonogrsphy would have shown something suspicious.

 

[Bma11]

BMA, my sister may have endo but she is almost 40 and has never had or tried to have children for other reasons. Other than her I don't know of anyone in my family or anyone that had infertility issues either.

Stayhopeful, I honestly feel like it is 50/50. My doctor did not recommend one either and said that they used to do them all the time but now the trend has changed. It seems like the studies are mixed some say it improves your chances and others say that IVF is enough to overcome endo and doing the lap does not improve your chances that much. However on this thread it seems that most have had them and it was beneficial for them I personally don't want one if I don't need it only because that pushes everything back further, not too mention more time off from work.

I'm actually switching RE clinics next week, so we will see if the new doctor has the same feelings.

Just an update I'm due for my period this thurs, I feel like I've been stuck for so long. Every month I wait until tues or wed to test and so far they have all been negative. I still don't have any symptoms but I also don't feel any AF symptoms yet either which I thought I did earlier in the week. Maybe I'll test tues, but then I get so depressed when its negative.....I guess it will be upsetting whether its tues or thurs...........to wait or not to wait.......

Well I do agree that it's 50/50. It's a personal choice to have one done. Like I said I couldn't proceed without knowing everything. Oh! I did have one symptom of endo... So I wanted to know. Glad I did it so if I ever get pregnant & have a girl, I will know the signs & can talk to her doctor about it & possibly have her on supplements to help with endo. Anyways... That's just me! Lol

Sounds like it could be good news with having symptoms & now not any let's hope & pray!!!! I'd be POAS already. I'm fighting the urge now & I'm only 8dpo!

 

[Jlh1980]

Ok guys I'm freaking out right now and need your help. I caved and took a test this am, I quickly glanced at the test and only saw one line then threw it in the drawer and went to work. When I got home I pulled it out and looked at it again, just to make sure since I didn't even give it a full minute earlier and I saw a very faint second line! Could this still be the trigger in my system, I never tested for that before, and does it even count if I looked at it about 9 hours after I took it????? I don't want to get my hopes up but this is the first time Ive ever seen a second line even though you have to squint to see it!

 

[Bma11]

Remind me when you did the trigger?

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hmm... What brand was it? I would look at the directions and see how long the results are valid. I know some of them say the results are only valid for te first 10-15 minutes or so. Can you remind me when you triggered? I seem to recall it takes 10 days to be out of your system.

 

[Jlh1980]

I took the trigger on 3/15 so its been exactly 10 days, ugh this is torture I knew I should have waited. It does say a negative result shouldn't be read after 10 minutes but because of my bad attitude I only gave it 20 seconds this am! Oh well I guess now I have to wait until tomorrow morning to do it again, or maybe wait until later in the week depending on when you guys think the trigger will be completely out of my system. I just figured since the test says "can detect 6 days before your missed period" I would check since I'm due thurs......