3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Ladies who have done IVF and gotten their BFP, what did you do after ET? Did you go back to your normal routine, or did you take it easy? If my cyst is gone at my ultrasound on Mon and we can move ahead, I'll be looking at ET sometime around July 15. I'm supposed to go to a convention July 21-24, but I'm worried about all of the walking around going to sessions and going to and from my hotel, which would also involve walking outside in the Texas summer heat quite a bit. I don't have to go if I don't want to, my boss is being very understanding. But it is a good way for me to prepare for the upcoming school year, so I'm torn. What do you think?

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful- I was on strict bed rest for 3 days, and after that I went back to work. I work at a spa and I have to park a little ways away from the spa. And I'm on my feet for most of the day. You should be fine but if you don't want to go and your boss understands then I wouldn't go. This heat is killer right now and willw only get worse!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Stayhopeful: I took a week off work, stayed in bed and watched Arrested Development on Netflix. I know a few women who went to work directly after their transfer and resumed life as normal, but I'm a stress head and I knew for me personally I needed quiet time. The TWW was stressful enough and I feel having a time out helped me immensely!

 

[StayHopeful]

Thanks, ladies! I'm torn. On the one hand, I want to do whatever I can to help my chances and if staying off my feet will help, I'm all for it. On the other hand, I know all my other twws have been brutal and I can only imagine that this one will be worse! If I'm laying around, I'll drive myself crazy with symptom spotting and what-ifs! And I've already finished all the Arrested Development episodes

 

[Maverick007]

Hey everyone, I just wanted to check in to see how you are all doing...I was traveling for work last week so am just getting up to speed on all the latest posts.

StayHopeful, it sounds like you are really getting close! I'm really excited for you! Sorry to hear about your 2nd fender bender too, that sounds like a lot of stress. Did your vacation help get your mind off all this craziness?

Strawberry, how are you? Are you still in the TWW?

PinkPeony, do you know yet when you're doing your IVF cycle? I'm curious to know b/c mine is coming up really soon also...would love to compare notes etc.

I have my consent signing/mock transfer appt coming up on Wednesday morning this week and have just finished getting all the financial stuff ironed out. So I feel like we've crossed a big hurdle there and I'm feeling excited!

 

[Sunshine24]

Ladies who have done IVF and gotten their BFP, what did you do after ET? Did you go back to your normal routine, or did you take it easy? If my cyst is gone at my ultrasound on Mon and we can move ahead, I'll be looking at ET sometime around July 15. I'm supposed to go to a convention July 21-24, but I'm worried about all of the walking around going to sessions and going to and from my hotel, which would also involve walking outside in the Texas summer heat quite a bit. I don't have to go if I don't want to, my boss is being very understanding. But it is a good way for me to prepare for the upcoming school year, so I'm torn. What do you think?

StayHopeful-- After my ET ( we transferred one ) I put myself on bed rest! Actually....to be exact immediately following my ET I got 45 minutes of acupuncture and then went home and stayed in my bed for 2 days. I got up to use the bathroom and minimal things like that but I really did try to stay off my feet. I watched funny shows as I heard laughing was great during that time.

After 2 days of bed rest I went back to work and resumed life as I normally would. In the time between my ET and test day I hosted two big parties at my house and was on my feet running around town and prepping everything so I certainly didn't take it super easy in between once I got off bed rest. I also had another session of acupuncture 5 days after my transfer.

No clue if the acu or bed rest helped, but I got m BFP and I'm now 18 weeks along.

Best of luck to you!!!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Stay: there is no evidence that staying off your feet helps the process. I just did it because it was what I needed emotionally. So if keeping busy is what helps you then I would do that. A co-worker of my OH's did her transfer on her lunch hour and then went back to work and lives normally for the TWW and she got a bfp!!

 

[SashimiMimi]

I did acupuncture as well. A few sessions leading up to IVF and then before a d after transfer!

 

[Strawberry13]

Hey guys! Maverick glad to hear that things are moving along. Do you know when you'll start your injections? I'm so happy you're feeling positive about it, I think this board is such a great source of encouragement we're lucky to have all these wonderful ladies to help us through everything.

Stay hopeful Sounds like your process is moving forward all according to plan, great to hear. Is the cyst gone now??when do u start stims?

AFM I'm on iui #4 right now. I surged yesterday so I go in today at noon for it. I'm a little worried though- my dr told me not to trigger since I surged on my own. I've never done an iui without ovidrel - is that common? I worry cause I just want to make sure the timing is 100% right! If the timing is right and this cycle doesn't work I think we'll do ivf next. I'm losing patience lol.

 

[Maverick007]

Hey guys! Maverick glad to hear that things are moving along. Do you know when you'll start your injections? I'm so happy you're feeling positive about it, I think this board is such a great source of encouragement we're lucky to have all these wonderful ladies to help us through everything.

Stay hopeful Sounds like your process is moving forward all according to plan, great to hear. Is the cyst gone now??when do u start stims?

AFM I'm on iui #4 right now. I surged yesterday so I go in today at noon for it. I'm a little worried though- my dr told me not to trigger since I surged on my own. I've never done an iui without ovidrel - is that common? I worry cause I just want to make sure the timing is 100% right! If the timing is right and this cycle doesn't work I think we'll do ivf next. I'm losing patience lol.

Yes, I was wondering the same thing, is the cyst gone StayHopeful? It sounds like it must be if you are gearing up to move forward...

Strawberry, I wouldn't worry too much about not taking the Ovidrel...to me, if you surge sooner, then the doctor understands the timing of the IUI relative to the natural ovulation pattern...Ovidrel is only there most of the time (from what I understand) to force ovulation either before it happens naturally or in women who do not ovulate on their own. So my perspective is that you shouldn't worry!

I don't know when I will start stims yet actually...my clinic does not perform any IVFs during the month of July so I don't know what the timing will be but I suspect it'll be BCP after my July cycle starts (maybe around 7/2) and then stims in mid to late-July. I guess it's all dependent on their schedule. I also still have to attend the IVF education night on 7/16.

 

[fisher640]

Hey guys! Maverick glad to hear that things are moving along. Do you know when you'll start your injections? I'm so happy you're feeling positive about it, I think this board is such a great source of encouragement we're lucky to have all these wonderful ladies to help us through everything.

Stay hopeful Sounds like your process is moving forward all according to plan, great to hear. Is the cyst gone now??when do u start stims?

AFM I'm on iui #4 right now. I surged yesterday so I go in today at noon for it. I'm a little worried though- my dr told me not to trigger since I surged on my own. I've never done an iui without ovidrel - is that common? I worry cause I just want to make sure the timing is 100% right! If the timing is right and this cycle doesn't work I think we'll do ivf next. I'm losing patience lol.

I did 5 IUIs and never did a trigger my doc bases the timing on over the counter ovulation tests only.

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks guys! I just came back from my iui. They also did a sono and saw that one follicle already released and there were 2 that were just a out ready to release. So ended up being good timing and theyre doing another tomorrow in case the other 2 dont release till then. DH count was 20m post wash so we were pretty happy with that!

 

[Chris_25]

Thanks Chris, he just turned 1 month old and I still can't believe he is reall here. It's amazing that the whole IVF process can result in a little person.

Good luck with your IUI. I know it's tough to keep going with them but often I hear of women getting BFPs on their 4th 5th or 6th IUI. I guess that's why they want you to give it your all before going for IVF.

Hope everyone is well!

It really is amazing!
Thank you and I am hoping for it soon!

 

[StayHopeful]

Yes, the cyst is gone! I had an ultrasound this morning and I'm clear to stop the BCP and start everything. I'm so relieved!!! I'll do a cetrotide injection tonight, then assuming my period comes before Friday (keep your fingers crossed for me!) then I'll start my stims then. Right now we're looking at ER around July 8. I can't believe everything is actually starting! I feel like all I've been doing since December is waiting and now things are about to get started. I'm anxious and excited and nervous...

I decided not to go to the conference. I talked to the nurse at the FS this morning and she said that after ET I will be on quite a few restrictions as far as physical activity, lifting over 5 pounds, etc. It would be hard to travel with luggage, especially when I'm not going with family or close friends that I could ask to do a bunch of things for me. And the convention center has a lot of stairs, which she cautioned against. I think I could go if I really wanted to, but I'd rather play it safe. I want to have the peace of mind of knowing I did whatever I could. I know several of you ladies mentioned acupuncture too, I've been doing it about weekly since March and she'll be there for the transfer. I hope it helps!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Good choice Stay, why risk it?!? I think the TWW after IVF is a time to be good to yourself. I truly believe acupuncture made a difference in the outcome of IVF for me. If anything it was definitely relaxing!

 

[Maverick007]

Strawberry, that's a great number! Fingers crossed this is it for you! I know IVF is not the way you want it to end but the IUI process does get exhausting.

So glad to hear the cyst is gone and you're on your way StayHopeful!! Great news. I think you are making a good choice too about traveling. If nothing else you will have that peace of mind you did all you could.

Random, but I had a very vivid dream two nights ago that I was pregnant. I hate when I wake up and realize it isn't real!

 

[Strawberry13]

Stay hopeful definitely a smart move! Why risk it? If I end up doing ivf my plan is to let my boss know about it and plan on taking a few days off and def no work travel for that time. It's a sacrifice but all of us are willing to go to great lengths! I'm so happy that your cyst is gone and you are right on track!!

Maverick I hate those dreams I have them all the time! I wake and am like ahh why can't it be real?

I just had my second iui count was a little lower like 15m but she said that was ok and my other 2 eggs def released since I was there yesterday. I hope the little guys are swimming straight up to my egg right now!!

 

[Maverick007]

I also told my boss what was going on (in very general terms) which has honestly helped the situation tremendously and he was very understanding about it. It was getting too tense with him not knowing ... between being gone at appointments and if I was down at all or anything less than cheerful, he was starting to take my mood personally. It was just not fun and was adding to my stress. So I am a big proponent of informing the boss (without giving too much personal detail of course!)

 

[Orchid6]

Hi Ladies, I hope you don't mind me following this thread. I just had my third failed IUI/hyper ovulation cycle. I've never had a bfp, and I'm on my 18th cycle of trying. My dh has great count and motility but poor morphology - 3%. No known issues so far for me but I think there has to be something wrong with me because my heart tells me his poor morph can't be responsible for all of this. I'm hoping to start ivf in August, really nervous and sad that its come to this. We've been married for 5 years and we only started trying early last year, kicking myself for not trying earlier.

 

[Strawberry13]

Welcome orchid. I'm so sorry to hear about your failed iuis. This whole thing is just so awful sometimes. As you can see from my sig we also have morph problems and I agree that I keep thinking that there is something else wrong that is keeping us from having success with iuis. Keep us posted on how things go with ivf. There are a bunch of girls on here just starting the ivf process. Keep us posted on how things go, this is a very encouraging board.