3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Baby.wish, I agree with Bma. It can be so hard to hear other pregnancy announcements. I've gone home and cried to DH a few times too. I've skipped a few showers, stopped following a few people on my Facebook feed, etc because I just couldn't handle it. Don't feel bad for being sad. What you are going through is hard in a way that only other women who have faced infertility can understand. Do your friends know about you doing IVF?

 

[baby.wish]

Thanks BMA and Stayhopeful. I have to learn to focus on myself and be positive right now can't get stressed out over other peoples situations. Only one of my friends knows about the IVF. Its a personal thing and I didnt want to tell all of them. All of you are wonderful and yes if you have not dealt with infertility you do not understand how it feels.
I am glad i found out now and not in the middle of my IVF stims etc as I still have a few days to refocus.

Stayhopeful have you tested again? So excited for your test tomorrow!!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Baby.wish, it's completely understandable not to want to tell all of your friends. Hopefully you'll be able to distance yourself a bit from your two pregnant friends without making it obvious or awkward. True friends will understand and they will be thrilled for you when this IVF cycle brings you your bfp!

I haven't taken another hpt, I ran out after Friday morning and DH convinced me not to buy any more. I'm soooooo nervous about tomorrow morning!

 

[Mrs. T]

Hey PinkPeony, I think I read somewhere down in the posts that you are also going to Lifequest downtown T.O. Me too! I live in Thunder Bay but they only do IUIs up here so we have to travel for our IVF. Let me know how you like the clinic.

 

[PinkPeony]

Hey PinkPeony, I think I read somewhere down in the posts that you are also going to Lifequest downtown T.O. Me too! I live in Thunder Bay but they only do IUIs up here so we have to travel for our IVF. Let me know how you like the clinic.

Hey cool! I've actually since switched clinics - no problem with Lifequest, it was just my doc I was seeing was connected to Lifequest but doesn't do IVF. Now I'm at Hannam which is in the same building. I had no problems with Lifequest. It's a well run clinic. My only critique would be that it is super busy for cycle monitoring in the morning and sometimes you end up waiting a long time. That can be a bit rough when you're waiting for the full bladder ultrasound.
Are you staying in Toronto for the cycle? It's too far to back and forth to TB right?

 

[Maverick007]

babywish, that is great news it was not a polyp and you are ready to go! yay! i must chime in and agree that pregnancy announcements are hard...FB is a tough place to be sometimes when going through all these procedures and i deactivated mine as well for 3 months while going through a couple of the IUIs. a girl i knew as a teenager is pg w/ her fifth and it was definitely a bit of a punch in the gut when i saw that announcement. she definitely makes getting pg look effortless.

stay, soooo excited about the beta tomorrow, i have a really good feeling for you! let us know when you feel up to it

how is everyone else doing? pink how are the bcps going? are you getting close to starting stims? it sounds like you and babywish might be close in start date...strawberry when is your official test date?

i had a scan today showing 5 growing follies. the two largest are at 14mm, so i'm praying for just a few more before ER...I'm really hoping for some to freeze just in case but I will try to be happy though with whatever we end up with! i have another scan tomorrow bright and early.

 

[Maverick007]

nevermind pink! i just noticed your updated signature.

 

[Mrs. T]

@ PinkPeony - I am getting cycle monitoring done in Thunder Bay and then when I am ready to trigger I will do that here and jump on the next flight to T.O. Apparently there is a hotel really close to the clinic that I will stay at. A bit hectic but my only choice really. LOL

 

[PinkPeony]

Mav - This is going to sound so lame but I'm actually having some crappy side effects from the BCP's. I feel super tired (not even sure if that's a normal side effect), pretty low & headachey, and my face is breaking out. I'm literally counting the days. Like it's only BC, what am I going to be like on the real meds? Oy

Mrs. T - that sounds like it'll work well. There is a hotel right next door in fact. Plus the eaton centre is right there if you're up to some shopping. Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes.

Stayhopeful - good luck with your Beta!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear about it.

 

[Maverick007]

Mav - This is going to sound so lame but I'm actually having some crappy side effects from the BCP's. I feel super tired (not even sure if that's a normal side effect), pretty low & headachey, and my face is breaking out. I'm literally counting the days. Like it's only BC, what am I going to be like on the real meds? Oy

Mrs. T - that sounds like it'll work well. There is a hotel right next door in fact. Plus the eaton centre is right there if you're up to some shopping. Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes.

Stayhopeful - good luck with your Beta!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear about it.

Pink I just wanted to say, if you are like me, I had a wayyyy harder time with the bcp than with any of the stims so far, so to me at least it doesn't sound lame! I felt super irritable on them and it caused some friction w/ DH and made it seem like everything was on edge. It basically felt like two weeks of PMS but worse. I also had very sore bbs, like, don't get near me they hurt so bad! Once I got off them, I felt like myself again and the stims have not really caused me any side effects at all that I have noticed. So I hope the same happens for you!!

 

[PinkPeony]

Mav - This is going to sound so lame but I'm actually having some crappy side effects from the BCP's. I feel super tired (not even sure if that's a normal side effect), pretty low & headachey, and my face is breaking out. I'm literally counting the days. Like it's only BC, what am I going to be like on the real meds? Oy

Mrs. T - that sounds like it'll work well. There is a hotel right next door in fact. Plus the eaton centre is right there if you're up to some shopping. Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes.

Stayhopeful - good luck with your Beta!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear about it.

Pink I just wanted to say, if you are like me, I had a wayyyy harder time with the bcp than with any of the stims so far, so to me at least it doesn't sound lame! I felt super irritable on them and it caused some friction w/ DH and made it seem like everything was on edge. It basically felt like two weeks of PMS but worse. I also had very sore bbs, like, don't get near me they hurt so bad! Once I got off them, I felt like myself again and the stims have not really caused me any side effects at all that I have noticed. So I hope the same happens for you!!

Omg totally! My bbs are killingggg. So glad the stims aren't so bad. Can't wait to stop taking these things. 6 more days.

 

[Strawberry13]

Stay-cant wait to hear your beta results!

Mav- keep us posted on the sono today. Did they decide when your ER is going to be yet?

Pink- you're so close! Sorry about the bcps that doesn't sound fun at all. You're not too far behind stay and maverick... Almost there

Baby wish ugh hearing preggo announcements is the absolute worst thing ever. I have blocked multiple ppl on Facebook and I'm not ashamed to say it. I don't have any ill feelings towards most of them, just don't want to hear about it! Lol

 

[baby.wish]

PinkPeony I feel the same way on BCP's!! Tired and moody and I've had a few headaches. Don't worry I think its normal, i'm soo looking forward to getting off of them and excited to start Stims and get going. Anyone else starting Stims this week???

Stayhopeful can't wait for your announcement today have a good feeling.

Strawberry how are you feeling??

 

[Maverick007]

I have a feeling it'll be another day or two of meds but I have to wait to hear from the nurse. All the sonographer told me this morning was that things are growing and getting bigger but there are still some stragglers. If all goes well, ER would be Thursday! It's definitely hard to be patient but if it means getting another few eggs, I'll wait.

 

[Strawberry13]

Ok cool that's great!

AFM the dreaded AF cramps have already started so pretty sure I'm out. And to add insult to injury we found out today that after 3 months on clomid my DH's morphology didn't improve-4% strict morph, count 30m/ml and 70% motility. He's pretty bummed and so am I, I personally didn't have much hope but then this last iui his results were good(30m post wash w 95% motility) so I thought maybe something worked. Oh well onto the next step.

 

[Maverick007]

Go away AF!! Ughhhh. I'm sorry. That is so frustrating. And about the SA, the only silver lining is that w/ IVF it doesn't matter how bad the sperm are but I know it still sucks to go through all of that effort and feel like no progress was made. Hang in there.

 

[Maverick007]

When are you expecting AF officially?

 

[Strawberry13]

Yeah that's exactly it, it feels like all of this work and money for nothing. AF is due middle of next week, I just always get that icky stomach feeling a week or so before.

 

[StayHopeful]

Beta is 915! It's official! DH and I are over the moon. Still cautious because of an early mc before, but the strong beta is a good first step. I go back in Wednesday to make sure my levels are rising and my first ultrasound is August 12.

Strawberry, I had AF-like cramps during implantation. It may mean you're not out yet!

 

[Maverick007]

AHHHHHH!!!! Yayyy! So excited for you!!