3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Strawberry, we gave our lab the option to do ICSI but they ended up doing all natural fertilization.

 

[Nicedips]

Witch got me on Saturday!

Sonohystogram scheduled for aug13th ... I searched on this and few ladies on other boards mentioned they had cramps after the test. Did anyone of you experience cramps?

If results are good, IVF in sept, fingers crossed

 

[baby.wish]

Hi Ladies,

So I started my meds on Friday, no real side effects.

Mrs. T, I know how you feel I went for my first ultrasound today and it turns out I only have 6 follicles as well. I'm kinda disappointed as well. My RE didn't seem too happy with the number. He said we can still continue but usually we like to see more. I know I can't let it get me down but I just feel sad about it as I want the best possible chances.

 

[Maverick007]

Nicedips, I'm sorry AF showed! I have not had a sonohysterogram, so I'm not much help but I think Tylenol before those kinds of things always helps. I pray you are cleared for IVF after this!

babywish, don't lose hope! It's often better to have 6-12 good quality eggs than many that may or may not be great quality (Stayhopeful being an obvious exception w/ her super eggs! ) but things change so much between the first sono and ER, I would not be surprised to hear they find more. of course you have to do whatever you feel is best for you, but I would just want to encourage you because I also had a disappointing first sono and things have turned out okay in the end.

 

[baby.wish]

thanks maverick, im trying to stay positive. My DH keeps telling me we only need one. I'm waiting for RE to get back to me about what we should do. If he encourages us to proceed we will. How are you feeling? When is ET?

 

[Maverick007]

i definitely understand...i felt very much like you and wasn't sure if it would be worth it...i hope your RE gives you some comfort.

i am feeling pretty good, thanks! just ready to get this show on the road. transfer is tomorrow morning early.

 

[baby.wish]

Maverick are you going to take a few days off after ET? I'm so excited for you...seems like everything is going according to plan

 

[Maverick007]

Thank you so much...I hope it works, I feel like I have just been waiting an eternity for good news. I will take tomorrow off entirely b/c of the valium and then work from home Thursday so I can stay in bed all day. Back to work though on Friday, my boss is out of town all week so I feel like I can't take too much time off. Are you able to take some time as well for ER and ET?

 

[baby.wish]

I will take a day off for ER, and then hopefully a few days after ET to relax. I, like you have been waiting a longggg time for good news!! Hopefully we both get our BFP's this month!

 

[Breaking Dawn]

Hi ladies...

I started reading this thread during my 3rd IUI in June...it ended in a bfn.

I just got AF today for IUI #4 - ugh.

I'm at such a loss. Saw my Dr yesterday. I've had 3 clomid cycles with BD only but it thinned my lining so we switched to femera + Puregon and did 4 IUIS. DH sperm are great, IUI stats were great no issues. I've had all tests done, again no issues.

Dr is saying could be fertilization issue and suggests ivf to find out. But up to us. He also said that for iui he likes to see more follie...i only got one each time. (5mg femera, and 1-2 shots of Puregon) .

So we are going to try another iui and BD cycle with Puregon only.

Just looking for some advice, support....i was so upset. just thought this would work and we wouldn't need ivf .

Thanks for listening

 

[Strawberry13]

Mav-GOOD LUCK TOMORROW!!! I'm sure it'll go great, the hard part is almost over

Baby wish keep us posted on what the drs say about your follicle number, hopefully there are a few more hiding there, but if not as long as the quality is good you still have a great shot.

Breaking dawn- so sorry for your news, I just got a bfn today on iui#5 and everyone on here knows exactly what the devastation is like. Keep us posted on what the doctors say- there are lots of Girls on here who have had successful iuis and even more with successful Ivfs after years of natural and iui failures.

 

[baby.wish]

Welcome Breaking Dawn, I think all the girls can agree that its hard when IUI after IUI fails. You feel so sad, lost, alone even our DH's don't truly understand. Thats why this group is great we all understand, we've all been through it and know exactly how you feel. I've learnt the girls on here are soo helpful and can make you feel so much better about any situation.

NiceDips, I had a sonohystegram and did have some cramping after. It wasn't too bad and you are able to take some advil or ibuprofen to relieve it. Hope that helps

 

[PinkPeony]

So sorry about the BFN Strawberry.

Welcome Breaking Dawn. Sorry you're feeling low. That 4th IUI is really a tough one. That was my low point for sure. Things may seem hopeless and uncertain now but things will become more clear eventually. Take some time to show yourself some love.

Mav - good luck tomorrow! We'll be thinking of you.


AFM - had my cycle review with the nurse today. Went through all the needles - 4 different kinds... Hoping I have it all straight. I go in on Friday for u/s and then if all's good I start meds the next day. They gave me all the cyringes and the needle bin but I get the actual drugs in small batches when I'm in for monitoring. This way I don't end up paying for stuff I can't use if I get cancelled. Makes sense I guess. Excited/nervous to start!

 

[StayHopeful]

Nicedips, sorry to hear that AF got you I had a hysterosonogram and I don't remember there being too much cramping afterward. For me, it was really painful during the actual procedure, which is over really quickly, and then I was okay after that. If anything, I got a few mild AF-like cramps. And I don't think I took any meds before or after, either.

Baby.wish, I completely understand how disheartening it is to see a small number of follicles at the first ultrasound. When I went in for my first one after 5 days of stims, I had some little follies but only 3 measurable ones (over 10mm). I was so disappointed and afraid that my cycle would be a bust or that I would only get a few follicles. But I ended up with 36 eggs retrieved! And in the end, all it took was one.

Maverick, massive good luck and for tomorrow! I know that things will go great, your little embryos are hanging in there and your bfp is just around the corner.

Breaking Dawn, so sorry to hear about your bfn. I did 3 IUI cycles and the third one definitely hit me hardest. I had problems with a thin lining on Clomid as well and I didn't respond well to Femara. It's so frustrating when everything with you and DH and the IUIs look great on paper, but it just doesn't work. Initially, I was terrified to move on to IVF. It felt like such a huge step, emotionally and financially. I kept thinking we would be that couple who got our bfp right before IVF, either on our last IUI or while we were waiting and saving up. But honestly, IVF wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. Yes, it's a lot financially and with the monitoring and actual procedure, but I think I built it up in my head to be worse than it actually was. And it was definitely worth it!

Strawberry, sorry to hear about the BFN.

Pink, the meds are definitely a lot at first but if you just take it one day at a time, it's manageable. And you get used to administering your stims pretty quickly. You're so close to starting! That's exciting!

 

[Mrs. T]

Hi Ladies,

So I started my meds on Friday, no real side effects.

Mrs. T, I know how you feel I went for my first ultrasound today and it turns out I only have 6 follicles as well. I'm kinda disappointed as well. My RE didn't seem too happy with the number. He said we can still continue but usually we like to see more. I know I can't let it get me down but I just feel sad about it as I want the best possible chances.

babywish it sounds like we're in this together! Thanks for the company and I wish you much

 

[Breaking Dawn]

Strawberry...thx Hun, are you going to do another IUI?

Baby....that is exactly how I felt ...so lost...and alone. I was getting ready for work this morning and had tears running down my face... I couldn't stop!

Pink...thanks for the support. Iui#4 was a low point especially bc it was combined with the FS appt.

Stay...that is sadly how I feel about this....thx so much fr the encouraging words about ivf not being so bad.

Also..I wanted to ask....do any of you feel like...(this is hard to explain so bear with me)...I never thought I would be one of the women who need ivf!? I don't know how to explain it...but part of me feels like I failed and I'm 'giving' in to ivf instead of trying and trying...

 

[Mrs. T]

Breaking Dawn, I know how you are feeling. I got pregnant from my first IUI. I thought that was it for me and I would never have to go so far as IVF, yet here I am. It does feel defeating. I am always in control of everything in my life and it bugs me that I have no control over this.

 

[Breaking Dawn]

MrsT...are you having a 4th IUI before sept ivf? Oops silly question I just re read your signature again!


I go in for cd3 scan on Thursday....and I will start 150 IU of puregon. I'm hoping I have more then one follie to give us some luck.

 

[Mrs. T]

No my doctor only believes in doing three. He won't do anymore. He said if it doesn't happen in the first three tries it probably won't and he said he doesn't want me to waste my money. I would have liked to do a couple more though.

 

[Breaking Dawn]

My dr is allowing us to do more bc femera only gave me one follicle and he sees more success in IUIs if ppl have more then one follie.

But at the same time he says that we are the "drivers" steering this course he is there to give advice and information. I guess if we really wanted to we could not do IVF ever and just continue with IUI or BD cycles.