3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[ttcmoon]

Welcome march312, looks like we are on same boat.I too have PCOS.I guess, with PCOS egg quality is not good.My hubby has low morphology.I am sorry for both of us and all other ladies going through the pain of failed fertility treatments and draining money.But there are so many supporting ladies with live success examples.IVF/ICSI appears to be the last and lucrative option for us.I hope it happens even before that.FX for you and me.

TLM - Great story, gave me some hope.Thanks for sharing.

stayhopeful - Thanks for the motivation hun.Your real life example gave me so much of hope.We are planning to do 2 more IUI's and then move to IVF. your kind words were much needed!

 

[Maverick007]

welcome to all the new ladies on here just real quick i wanted to share our success story...i don't have pcos but my DH's sperm counts and motility ranged from severely low (1.5mm at the lowest i think) to just below normal depending on when they were checked - after his varicocele surgery, things seemed to improve but not significantly. we tried for 5 yrs and hadn't prevented for almost 10 yrs and i felt like a total failure a lot of the time. i felt so much hope doing the IUIs because everywhere i read online, it seemed a lot of ppl had success but unfortunately, 4 IUIs later it didn't work for us. i tended to have 1-3 good sized follicles and regular cycles, etc. anyway, i just wanted to encourage you all to keep going and keep positive b/c you never know when the cycle will happen when things just click. we ended up doing ICSI which is expensive but we found a way to make it work and i honestly don't even think of the money now, i just know everything was worthwhile to get to this place. i wish you all tons and tons of luck in your journey to have a little one!

 

[March312]

Welcome march312, looks like we are on same boat.I too have PCOS.I guess, with PCOS egg quality is not good.My hubby has low morphology.I am sorry for both of us and all other ladies going through the pain of failed fertility treatments and draining money.But there are so many supporting ladies with live success examples.IVF/ICSI appears to be the last and lucrative option for us.I hope it happens even before that.FX for you and me.

TLM - Great story, gave me some hope.Thanks for sharing.

stayhopeful - Thanks for the motivation hun.Your real life example gave me so much of hope.We are planning to do 2 more IUI's and then move to IVF. your kind words were much needed!

I'm glad we can go through this together! What meds are you on now? What cd are you on? I am waiting on af. Should be here tomorrow or Sunday. I just want it to come already so we can get started !

 

[March312]

Thanks maverick! It's been so hard going through the iui's. So emotionally draining! Our docs said if we choose to do ivf, they would do icsi.

 

[StayHopeful]

Ttcmoon, glad I could help! I know how frustrating and lonely it can be. The ladies on here are amazing though and they definitely kept me sane through my IVF cycle!

Welcome, march, and I'm sorry to hear about your bfns. I hope that moving on to injectibles does the trick for you! We're here for you and we'll be rooting for you.

Mav, I can't believe you're 15 weeks! When do you find out what you're having, if you're going to find out?

I had my gender ultrasound on Thursday, the nurse put the results in an envelope and I gave them to my best friend who is planning our gender reveal party. I can't wait to find out! Everything else looked great with the baby, he/she is growing right on track. It was amazing to see the little heart, brain, kidneys, and everything! And my placenta has moved back up to a better position, so hopefully I won't have any more problems with spotting.

 

[Maverick007]

woohoo stay! you're almost halfway done, that's amazing! that is so exciting you are almost ready to find out the gender, i can't wait to hear. so glad that things are progressing so well for you...

i am a bit stumped b/c my OB has yet to mention any gender u/s, but i do have a level 2 u/s on the 21st. she explained this as being due to check for heart defects because she said IVF babies tend to have higher risk for them? i hadn't heard this ever before. when i researched what a level 2 u/s is, it basically sounds like a very complete anatomy scan where, if baby cooperates, you can learn the gender. so i'm crossing my fingers we will find out in less than 3 weeks! we don't plan to do a gender party but definitely want to find out what we're having. i am also starting to bump out a bit too where people are starting to notice so that's kinda exciting!

 

[Maverick007]

how are the rest of the pregnant ladies?? any new updates? pink you must be into 2nd trimester by now!

 

[PinkPeony]

Mav! Look at you with your orange lol! Can you believe it?

Almost there! Still pinching myself. I have a couple big appointments next week - my NT scan and my first proper prenatal appointment. After those are under my belt and *fingers crossed* everything looks ok, I'll really be able to relax and we can start spreading the news a bit more widely. I've told a handful of friends and our immediate families but we've been pretty low-key still. People really FREAK OUT when we tell them it's twins.

 

[StayHopeful]

Pink, it's such a huge relief to get to that point! FX that everything looks great at your next two appointments.

Mav, I think that's what the ultrasound I had last week was. They didn't call it a level 2 ultrasound, they called it an anatomy scan, but they definitely looked at a lot of other things besides the gender.

 

[Strawberry13]

Hi girls! I've been keeping posted on here and haven't had the time to write much until now. Mav, pink, and stay I can't believe how far you guys are already! I can't wait to find out the gender stay... When is your party? Pink congrats on the 2nd tri it must be such a relief to be there maverick good luck at the anatomy sono I've never heard of the heart risks with ivf babies... But I do hope you get to find out the sex early!

ND how are you girl? Any news from the follow up with the RE? Are you going to give it another shot?

March and ttc moon hang in there girls your time will come. Just ask any of us here how many times we doubted... But miracles do happen. Keep us posted on your upcoming cycles we are here to cheer you on!

AFM I'm 9 weeks! I've been having a fair bit of nausea but nothing too terrible. I saw my OB last week and all went well, we discussed the blood screening tests that we'll have to decide on in a few weeks... I started to panic a little but I'm committed to just enjoying the pregnancy and take it 1 day at a time.

 

[March312]

Thanks strawberry!
Well nothing too much going on right now. On cd4, started clomid yesterday and will start the follistim injections on either fri or sat. So nervous!! Hubby will be giving me the shots.

 

[StayHopeful]

Strawberry, the gender reveal is November 16. I got the invite in the mail today and I'm so excited!

March, GL with this cycle!!! FX for you!

 

[Luciola]

Hi Ladies! It has been a while that i didn't come to say hi. Yesterday was hubby's birthday I was all happily celebrating but this morning I "welcomed" my period... So Cycle starts AGAIN! Sick of it really!

Now I feel that our infertility is nearly explained... my initial plan was to do the last iui (100iu gonal-F) this month and ivf in December just before X'mas. Now I am not so sure. If it is unexplained and we have already done 3 iui BFN, shall we move directly to IVF? It is a bit of financial and emotional saving if we skip this last iui... I really don't know what to do!

 

[baby.wish]

Hi ladies...I've been reading all the posts but haven't had time to post recently. Maverick/Pink/Stayhopeful/Strawberry so happy to hear everything is going well in your pregnancies. Stayhopeful gender reveal party sounds like such a fun idea. Welcome to all the new ladies on here I want to send baby dust to all that are trying for their little one

Luciola I know exactly how you feel, we were in the exact same boat do we do another IUI or just go directly to IVF. In the end we decided to do IVF as financially and emotionally I felt drained and just wanted to get on with it. Unfortunately our first try at IVF resulted in a chemical pregnancy but we are now trying a frozen cycle. I go in tomorrow for a lining check and if all goes well the transfer will be next Friday the 15th. Please pray for me ladies!! I'm soooo scared and very anxious, I am really worried that if the first round didn't work and the embryo stopped growing the same will happen again as they are from the same batch. I know that type of thinking is not going to help me . On a positive note I have started accupuncture and I feel relaxed after I leave every appt. He is also going to be there to do accupuncture before and after the transfer. Thought I would try something different this time around. I pray by Christmas I am pregnant. Fingers are tightly crossed.

 

[Strawberry13]

Babywish and Luciola I am praying hard that you will both be knocked up by christmas!

I can't believe your FET is already next week babywish, it seemed like it went so fast. Will you be transferring 2? I hope the process/ meds were easier this time around than with your fresh cycle.

Luciola that is a tough decision... What does your doctor say? Does he think the motility/morphology is the reason that iuis aren't working? If so, and there isn't much more that can be done about it, then my advice would be to go to ivf but that's just based on my experience. I know how hard iuis are after so many have failed and you build your hopes up. Plus it isn't cheap if insurance isn't covering it!!

 

[Luciola]

Babywish, go go go! I pray hard for you!

Hubby and I finally decided that we are going to do IVF immediately! Yesterday I was sitting in the meeting room and got so sick of coming to the fertility clinic again and again only having disappointment. So we decided just go for the best.

HOWEVER - my RE informed me that he would not be around for the egg replacement for this and next cycle! He said he could appoint another Dr in the clinic to do the replacement but he thought that Dr was relatively junior (than him). So he suggested us to stim and do egg retrieval this month (he will be around), and freeze all the embie, and wait until Jan-Feb next year to do the replacement. I am pretty upset about the timing to be honest, but if this is the best we can do, then be it. My RE said not to worry as their frozen technique was pretty good and it seems FET has higher successful rate as it gives your body time to rest and build up an optimal lining.

What do you think ladies? It means I will have no fresh transfer but only FET(s) this time!

I start stim on Nov 8 with Gonal-F 225iu until my Day 7 blood test and appointment.

 

[StayHopeful]

Babywish, GL with your transfer! Sending lots of prayers your way. Glad acupuncture is helping too.

Luciola, sorry about the timing! I know that fets have good success rates though.

 

[PinkPeony]

Hi everyone :wave:

Babywish! Good luck on your FET. At least this time around it will be a lot easier on you physically and not so much monitoring. You got this girl. i really enjoyed acupuncture too, if nothing else it does wonders for your stress levels, but there's also some really thorough studies showing how it improves ivf success rates.

Luciola - it's not a bad thing to let your body have a rest from all the meds and then have a FET. That does suck though about the timing, but look at it as a nice break from all the fertility stuff and do some stuff you won 't be able to do once you get preg.

March - the injections aren't so bad once you get used to them. I was all fingers the first time I had to do one. Kept dropping things and stuff. Lol!

AFM, had my NT scan today. It went great as far as I can tell. The technicians in Canada aren't allowed to give any opinions, but she showed me the twins on the monitors. A lot bigger than they were at 9 weeks and moving around. Heart beats seem normal. It was very cool. No picture though which is kind of a bummer esp bc my DH wasn't able to come.

 

[ttcmoon]

Welcome march312, looks like we are on same boat.I too have PCOS.I guess, with PCOS egg quality is not good.My hubby has low morphology.I am sorry for both of us and all other ladies going through the pain of failed fertility treatments and draining money.But there are so many supporting ladies with live success examples.IVF/ICSI appears to be the last and lucrative option for us.I hope it happens even before that.FX for you and me.

TLM - Great story, gave me some hope.Thanks for sharing.

stayhopeful - Thanks for the motivation hun.Your real life example gave me so much of hope.We are planning to do 2 more IUI's and then move to IVF. your kind words were much needed!

I'm glad we can go through this together! What meds are you on now? What cd are you on? I am waiting on af. Should be here tomorrow or Sunday. I just want it to come already so we can get started !

Its CD9 for me.Did you get your AF?
I am glad to get you with me

 

[Luciola]

Babywish, GL with your transfer! Sending lots of prayers your way. Glad acupuncture is helping too.

Luciola, sorry about the timing! I know that fets have good success rates though.

Hi Stay, I noticed your retrieval and replacement dates, it seemed that the embryo replacement was on Day 6?