33 yrs young ttc#1...need buddies:)

[babybemine]

First of all. Congrats Trolley!!!!

My news was not so good. Good news is that I did get pregnant for the first time. Bad news was that we had to use methotrexate to end this pregnancy. My numbers were all terrible and there was a big concern of it being tubal. At a little over 6 weeks there was no visable sac or heartbeat. Now we are just waiting for the cramping and bleeding to come which should be today or tomorrow. I go to recheck my hcg which I have been told makes the numbers go up and then we continue to watch until the numbers go down.

 

[Tink80]

I'm sorry, baby

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

to u baby

 

[KittyKan]

Hi, I am nervous to join... but I have been reading (lurking as I believe it to be known lol!) your posts for a while now and I always check back to see how you're all getting on. Im 32 (33 in a month)and ttc for baby #1. I just had to post something this time, because I am SO happy for you Trolley!! Your positivity for everyone has been apparent throughout this journey/thread that Ive seen) and you deserve this so much. So I just wanted to say congratulations. Would you mind telling us what you think you did differently this month to conceive naturally?

I am CD1 today, this is our #5 month trying and to say I am devastated and down is an understatement. Despite feeling differently this month (although I often feel that) I feel so alone being this age and trying for no1, hence why I liked this thread so much.

Anyway I dont really know how to use this site very... so I hope I see any replies. But like I said - I just wanted to say hi/ congrats and Fingers Crossed or us all xx

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

Hi Kittykan can i just say ive just read this message and it made me well upsuch lovely words thank u so so much....im so happy u have plucked up the courage to join in with us we all try our best to keep each others spirits up and times can be really hard....but dont give up think positive easier said than done i know!!
I think this month i had not given up but thought u know what i got another ivf to do so its no over yet and knew it was gonna be in a couple of months time....so i thought im gonna enjoy myself and have a little break and i did just that he he.
I have to admit myself and dh just started taking pregnacare his and hers vitamins so they would be in our system ready for the 2nd ivf...i also put my bum in the air one nite after the deed i have reversed womb and they told me this was better for trying to get the sperm to meet egg so i done it but not for very long as we were both cracking up with laughter....i also got given the book the secret and it was a little blessing for me as i think after the failed ivf it hit me hard i thought i was ok but then i realised i was quite down and now im back on it can happen and will but when the big fella says!!
Hope u come on again to chat with us and once again thank u for the lovely words i started to tell dh and i started again hoping its all these crazy hormones xxx

 

[Fruitful]

Hi ladies just wanted to share my news got my first ever on a clear blue digital today im over the button moon but also in total shock this is a miracle eeek xx

AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TROLLEY DOLLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!!!! What amazing news - that has put a big smile on my face and totally made my day. It's so great, I don't really know what to say, other than congratulations and happy and healthy nine months!!!!!! What day did you get your bfp? Did you suspect?

xxx

 

[Fruitful]

to you babybemine. It must have been really difficult, but what positive news that you did conceive. I suspect I may have had a chemical on ttc month #3, and while it feels awful at the time, I think it's a great sign that your body can get pregnant.

hariansh and KittyKan, welcome!! KittyKan, your message made me smile - please do come and hang out with us! I know it's really hard when you feel like you're getting nowhere month after month, but it'll happen for you, it really will. In the meantime, come and chat here with us - it's really great to have somewhere to come and express your frustrations, fears and hopes to people who understand what you're going through, and I found great support here from everyone over my nearly-a-year of ttc (and since then!!!).

To everyone else, much love and positive vibes from me!

A-OK here. I'm 26 weeks and approaching 3rd tri. Our baby is kicking nicely, and all seems to be well. I now have quite a serious bump and people are starting to treat me like a "pregnant lady", if you know what I mean, which never fails to make me smile. I've been doing quite a bit of travelling, but I think I'll just stay put for the rest of the pregnancy, as all I feel like doing is resting and nesting by now!

xxx

 

[KittyKan]

Oh thank you sooo much ladies for being so welcoming, I knew you guys were a nice bunch Trolley, I am starting to realise what a big softie I am (and probably have dreaded PMT) but when I first read your post saying you'd have your BFP I had tears in my eyes. (I didnt say at the time coz I didnt want you thinking who is this loon lol) But I was so happy about it, I too told me my Hubby about you last night (he kept saying I hope this story has a happy ending lol) and it did! He sometimes gets bored by my prattling on about such things, but he looked so pleased and I swear I saw a little sparkle in his eyes too lol! Seems we we were both telling our husbands about each other last night LOL -so funny.

See all this is making me feel better and more cheerful already Its funny reading about your BFP gave me a feeling I hadnt felt for another newly pregnant woman in a LONG time... genuinely happy for them & it was nice to feel... Strange that it was for a stranger. But I used to be like that - genuinely happy for people's successes (and I still am to a certain extent, but not re pregnancies too much). I sadly fear at times that TTC has made me feel bitter which I hate. I am going to try and turn that around; do some yoga, relaxation & meditation. I may even try The Secret -thank you for your tips!

Fruitful - thank you so much for your kind and welcoming post. I absolutely LOVE your baby progression stories, they are so enlightening and I especially love that you come back to this site and keep in touch with everyone. Says alot. I hope you stick around too Trolley. Dont forget us still TCC-ers girls!

I am approaching CD2 as I always do- with tentative positivity. I am taking some new vits this cycle; Seven seas tryng for a baby as opposed to the several ones I was taking before. I had a short LP which was extended from 12-14 days by taking B6. I was so sceptical about B6, but I personally found that it has worked for me. I hope the 7 seas will be enough (B6) to keep my LP as it is though? I hope so. I'll still use my CBFM although I know when I ovulate. I REALLY REALLY HOPE AND PRAY MY BFP COMES SOOOON!!!!!!

Thanks again ladies (you have really lifted my spirits) and look forward to catching up soon xx

 

[ttcbabyisom]

Hi ladies just wanted to share my news got my first ever on a clear blue digital today im over the button moon but also in total shock this is a miracle eeek xx

AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO EXCITING!!! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YAY, YAY, YAY!!!

 

[mangotango]

Trolley Dolly! congratulations!! I stumbled on this post and started reading not realizing it was a year ago you started the message thread and then I realized it...so I hit last page and fast forward...you are pregnant! YAY! congrats! How exciting!!

 

[KittyKan]

Hi Mangotango, seems you are another newbie like me! Welcome Trolly and the other girls have truly amazing stories dont they -really inspiring.

So do you mind telling us - are you in your 30s and ttc #1 too?

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

Hi ladies just wanted to share my news got my first ever on a clear blue digital today im over the button moon but also in total shock this is a miracle eeek xx

AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TROLLEY DOLLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!!!! What amazing news - that has put a big smile on my face and totally made my day. It's so great, I don't really know what to say, other than congratulations and happy and healthy nine months!!!!!! What day did you get your bfp? Did you suspect?

xxx

Oh thank u huni i got my bfp on monday was getting ready for work and my period hadnt come so i though shall i do a test...so i done the test got in the shower when i got out i walked over to the test and i seen the 2 lines i was in complete shock shaking and pacing up and down till the dh came in....i so wished i had saved it for fathers day to tell him but i couldnt contain myself ha ha x

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

Oh thank you sooo much ladies for being so welcoming, I knew you guys were a nice bunch Trolley, I am starting to realise what a big softie I am (and probably have dreaded PMT) but when I first read your post saying you'd have your BFP I had tears in my eyes. (I didnt say at the time coz I didnt want you thinking who is this loon lol) But I was so happy about it, I too told me my Hubby about you last night (he kept saying I hope this story has a happy ending lol) and it did! He sometimes gets bored by my prattling on about such things, but he looked so pleased and I swear I saw a little sparkle in his eyes too lol! Seems we we were both telling our husbands about each other last night LOL -so funny.

See all this is making me feel better and more cheerful already Its funny reading about your BFP gave me a feeling I hadnt felt for another newly pregnant woman in a LONG time... genuinely happy for them & it was nice to feel... Strange that it was for a stranger. But I used to be like that - genuinely happy for people's successes (and I still am to a certain extent, but not re pregnancies too much). I sadly fear at times that TTC has made me feel bitter which I hate. I am going to try and turn that around; do some yoga, relaxation & meditation. I may even try The Secret -thank you for your tips!

Fruitful - thank you so much for your kind and welcoming post. I absolutely LOVE your baby progression stories, they are so enlightening and I especially love that you come back to this site and keep in touch with everyone. Says alot. I hope you stick around too Trolley. Dont forget us still TCC-ers girls!

I am approaching CD2 as I always do- with tentative positivity. I am taking some new vits this cycle; Seven seas tryng for a baby as opposed to the several ones I was taking before. I had a short LP which was extended from 12-14 days by taking B6. I was so sceptical about B6, but I personally found that it has worked for me. I hope the 7 seas will be enough (B6) to keep my LP as it is though? I hope so. I'll still use my CBFM although I know when I ovulate. I REALLY REALLY HOPE AND PRAY MY BFP COMES SOOOON!!!!!!

Thanks again ladies (you have really lifted my spirits) and look forward to catching up soon xx

Ha ha what we like well im so pleased this news has lifted your spirits...i know how u feel when u feel slightly bitter towards pregnancy annoucements and it has been a breeze for them,these people really dont know how lucky they are....at least we know how hard it is trying for a little one and when that little one comes along we will appriciate every single thing...perfect example a couple of weeks ago when i went to the doctors outside i seen this pregnant lady smoking and she had a little girl in the other hand and she was just about to walk into the doctors smelling of fags for her appointment i really wanted to say to her u really dont know how lucky u r to be pregnant do u but obviously i didnt otherwise probably would of got a smack in the face but it made me so angry and bitter for the rest of the day thinking y!!
Defo stick with the vitamins and cbfm....i sold mine on ebay when i was going through my treatment....think positive and u will get your bfp...oh and i will always keep checking in on u ladies i love chatting to u all xx

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

Welcome mangotango we r a nice group thank u for your nice well wishes...whats your story hun??

Fruitful enjoy the 3trimester defo put your feet up time

 

[KittyKan]

Thank you Trolley -you're very kind & thank you for your advice.

I definitely feel much more hopeful. I just have to be. Otherwise, what do I have?! I have to keep my spirits up and up!

I agree people do not realise how lucky they are and take many things in life for granted. I saw a lovely quote the other day that said something like 'What you have in your life, someone somewhere is wishing for it' Im paraphrasing but it was something like that. I thought that was nice and highlighted how grateful I should be for what I already have - several amazing things in all truth.

Oh and I think some people exagerrate the ease of their TTC journey. Ive had friends tell porkies about how long its taken them to conceive, but then that just how some people roll. Important thing is to concentrate on yourself.

One last Q please Trolley if you dont mind...? Did you have any symptoms at all or did you feel differently in the lead up to your wonderful BFP? Sometimes I wonder if the whole symptoms thing exists or if its just wishful thinking or in our heads. I am sure I get them every month! But I 'spose every woman and cycle is different.

Best wishes to you & continue to enjoy this wonderful time! xx

 

[Trolley_Dolly]

Love your positivity u r in the right frame of mind

Tbh i felt like af was on its way and still do now tbh achy tummy achy back wanting to eat everything...one thing in the 2 weeks i had a pounding headache which was so strong it made me feel sick and its only now im thinking that may of been a sign cause i havent had a bad head like that for years and i keep getting headaches now.....and i dont really know y i did a test just because i was a day late and was really cramping and i didnt want to go and do my nite flight ha ha xx

 

[Miracle2012]

OMG!!! OMG!!! OMG!! Trolley I am sooooooo happy for you. I knew it was going to happen soon. This is great news. Enjoy every second of it. Woohoo!!!

 

[mangotango]

Hi Mangotango, seems you are another newbie like me! Welcome Trolly and the other girls have truly amazing stories dont they -really inspiring.

So do you mind telling us - are you in your 30s and ttc #1 too?

Thanks for the welcome KittyKan! A little about me: I am 32 and yes, ttc#1. We just got married a year ago and I had been back in college and graduated in December, so we haven't been actively trying until now. My cycles are FINALLY becoming regular after my last depo shot being in last july. I did not have a period until after my doc gave me provera at the end of december, then it was every 2 weeks and now I've had 3 normal cycles of about 28 days, so last month was the first time we actively tried (although I don't truly know if I'm ovulating). This week is my fertile week so we are at it again! lol
I'm pretty positive and trying to be realistic about it...I know this can take a while and it can be stressful and emotional if it doesn't happen fast or if a miscarriage happens, but I'm reminding myself of all the good things around me and that things will come when my body is ready. I hope I can keep this attitude up!

It is great reading everyone's stories and seeing the support here! I don't have any friends that are in the same place as me- as in- nobody is ttc. I have 1 friend that is pregnant but she doesn't live nearby and I don't get to see her often. So I'm very glad I found this site for all the questions I have and to find people similar to me.

 

[mangotango]

Love your positivity u r in the right frame of mind

Tbh i felt like af was on its way and still do now tbh achy tummy achy back wanting to eat everything...one thing in the 2 weeks i had a pounding headache which was so strong it made me feel sick and its only now im thinking that may of been a sign cause i havent had a bad head like that for years and i keep getting headaches now.....and i dont really know y i did a test just because i was a day late and was really cramping and i didnt want to go and do my nite flight ha ha xx

It is so great to have found this thread! Again, Congrats Trolley!

What you wrote here about the headache- I swear if I didn't get AF last weekend and test BFN...I would completely believe that I was pregnant! I've felt so yucky the past few days with the worst headache I've had in a long long time that hurt all afternoon and night at work and was making me feel like I was going to be sick, it was back again yesterday and today but not as bad. I've had horrible heartburn almost constantly for 2 whole days. It's gone this morning thankfully but I feel just yucky.
Did you (or anyone) find different and weird symptoms throughout your cycles? Prior to going on BC, I never had PMS symptoms or cramps or anything and my cycle was 28 days exact. It was perfect! I had no clue what people felt going through this stuff! I think I had bad heartburn last month too, just before I ovulated. Then it got better and rarely bothered me until this week again. Last month the few days before AF, I had sore breasts, nipples, awful cramps that woke me up crying one night...all new things I've never ever ever had. I really thought I was BFP, but I'm not. I chalk it up to my body re-regulating itself again. I am writing all this stuff down and charting my temps. My doc wants to see my charts in August.

 

[mangotango]

First of all. Congrats Trolley!!!!

My news was not so good. Good news is that I did get pregnant for the first time. Bad news was that we had to use methotrexate to end this pregnancy. My numbers were all terrible and there was a big concern of it being tubal. At a little over 6 weeks there was no visable sac or heartbeat. Now we are just waiting for the cramping and bleeding to come which should be today or tomorrow. I go to recheck my hcg which I have been told makes the numbers go up and then we continue to watch until the numbers go down.

So sorry to hear this! Hang in there!