35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[tommyg]

Bex what's your next step?
Sorry I've forgotten where you are at in the whole process.

AFM CD43 appointment to end this cycle this morning. Not sure how long it takes or the process involved. I'm guessing it will be a scan and probably bloods first just to make sure I'm not pregnant.

 

[Bambi1322]

Omg ladies my story is similar. I am 34 ttc with my other halfs brothers swimmers. She keeps telling me you are pregnant and I keep saying no bc i don't want to get my hopes up. I am 10 or 11 dpo but all bfn. I just cried so much today. I have been very emotional lately one extreme to the next. Also pretty constant cramps but light ones. Trying not to test but I have no idea when af is coming bc that witch has never been on schedule.

 

[Srbjbex]

Tommy - next we wait for OHs results. Which all in will take about 6 weeks as he's having the chromosome test and repeat SA. Once these results are all in we will have a follow up appointment at the fertility centre at which point they will refer us for ivf /icsi. So in the meantime we are just doing some research on where to go for treatment.

 

[tommyg]

Did you have lots of issues ttc your son?

Bambi123 no offence but look around the forum I think you might find other threads better suited to you and your situation. This is the long term ttc area for ladies who are trying to conceive 2nd or 3rd children.

 

[Srbjbex]

No not really. I took 9 months but that was with a miscarriage in that time so really I got pg twice in 9 months before. Its such a shock that this is how it us for #2.

Good luck for your appointment this mmorning. Let us know how you get on x

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Bex I know how you feel - SI is such a shock when you have conceived your first without too much difficulty. DS was conceived on month 5 of trying and I remember when I told DH one of the first things he said (after the yay - amazing! etc) was "my boys swim!!!" Such a male thing but it saddens me that actually no they don't....well some do I guess!!

Tommy - how did today go? Big hugs but I hope all ok.

Bambi - I am a little confused by your story. How long have you been TTC and is this a first or subsequent pregnancy you are trying to achieve? Sorry but more info is always better so we can understand your story better and offer more/relevant advice.

Hi to everyone else! How are you all?

AFM: I am so so tired....DS is still sick. He seemed much better yesterday but he still has a horrible cough so was awake most of the night coughing. Thankfully Advil helped but as soon as the 6 hrs was up it was back to non-stop coughing fits! I feel so bad for him. The only good thing is looking after him and then DH for the last week has totally taken my mind off the 2ww. AF is due on Friday and I suspect she will arrive on schedule. I've had super sore bbs since Thursday which is a little early for me but hey-ho, it's not the first time. I also had some mild cramping yesterday so who knows...maybe the witch will arrive a day or 2 early. Anyway hugs to you all x

 

[tommyg]

Oh Orchard hope he gets over this bug soon. I'd (uneducated guess ) suspect that his immune system is down and he's picked up another bug or he has over done it yesterday and knocked himself back.

AFM Not really any further forward. Had a scan showing 2 follicles and bloods. If either of the follicles is "active" which they will tell from the bloods then they can't end the cycle.
Will get blood results tomorrow.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Oh wow Tommy....so you could potentially still ovulate?! Sounds a bit confusing and frustrating as I can imagine that you are keen to get on with IUI....

 

[coquis224]

Hello ladies , Happy Monday.

Tommy -that's great that you could still ovulated finger crossed for you...

Orchid-Sorry your lo is till sick I hate babies being sick. There is some kind of virus in our area and everyone has been coughing and feverish and the doctors won't do anything it really stinks to have to see a child like that.....

Bex -good luck with that...

All other ladies hello and hope you are well!!!!

AFM 10dpo still waiting. Took a test last night-had a shadow line probably line eye or me turning it every kind of way to find something. I took another this morning but I left it in the bathroom so by the time I get home it will be invalid. I will have to wait till tomorrow a.m. I don't know why I'm testing so early since I've never had a faint positive until 3 days after I miss AF. I should just wait till Friday but it's so hard.

 

[tommyg]

This morning I was fine with it, just now I feel a little down. I hadn't expected that they would look for active follicals tbh I didn't really think about it. I was hopeful of getting an IUI cycle in Febuary. But as always with this journey nothing is as simple or straight forward as you'd like or think it is going to be.

However will see what tomorrow brings. If my bloods show neither is active then the nurse will speak with the consultant and get me the prescription for provera to bring on a period but even that isn't straight forward you take it for 5 days then AF is meant to show up with in the next 7 days.

If one is active and they leave it to run it's course it might be another week before I ovulate or it could be another 4/5 weeks it really is anybody's guess. However will cross the next bridge when I come to it.

 

[Mooshie]

TommyG, really sorry you are going through this It must be so frustrating for you. How did it go with your bloods today?

Wish - great news that your cyst has shrunk at least a little!

WhiteOrchid - hope your little boy is feeling better? It's awful when they are sick

AFM - I think I am about 5dpo, going by that 1st positive OPK. That was the last day of EWCM and i was super crampy that day too so i'm going to ignore the other tests. I did do one on saturday and got an even stronger bloody line though but decided that I wasn't going to buy anymore as i think I would have gone mad if i'd gotten another on Sunday!

Someone else mentioned on here about multiple +ve's being a sign of PCOS, but this is the first month ever that it's happened to me and i'd never used those Superdrug ones before so i'm wondering if maybe the tests were too sensitive? I was taking them at exactly the same time everyday so i'm just putting it down to a combination of things.

I did have something weird on Sunday morning though, 2 dots of red blood of the tissue when i went for a wee when i got up. Never had that before either and no blood since. Really strange!!

I'm hoping we got in enough BD'ing over all of those days last week though so only time will tell, but i'm desperate to POAS all ready! Am going to try and hold out until next Monday to test which will be approx 11dpo but we all know that won't happen!

Hi to everyone else, hope you are all well xx

 

[coquis224]

Mooshie-maybe all of that BD'ing made you have the 2 drops of blood lol. (It has happened to me before.)

That's crazy with the OPK being positive , those things have driven me crazy in the past I can't ever seem to get a "real " positive my test is always similar to control never darker.

Good luck on waiting though, I know I didn't lol.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Any news with the blood work Tommy? I totally understand your frustration, esp. if you have to wait another 4 or 5 weeks...Here's hoping that doesn't happen but if they are active will send lots of that you can get a natural BFP this cycle!!!

Mooshie - urgh I hate random bleeding!! But i agree it might of been caused by all the ! Still I will keep my FX for you that it's a sign of better things!! Good luck with the 2ww!

Coquis - how is the testing going?

to everyone else! I hope you are all well. Lanet, are those babes staying put?!

AFM: Well it looks like DS is finally on the mend.... last night he finally managed to sleep for 8 hours with only minimal coughing which is amazing. DH is completely better but of course I now feel like I am starting with a cold.... Always the way. I'm on CD 27 and approx. 11 dpo so just waiting for the witch to appear on Friday. I know it sounds funny but I almost want it to start early - on Thurs. as I have to get blood tests done on day 2 or 3 of my cycle but we are heading away this weekend (of course). So if AF starts on Thur I could go on Friday before we leave otherwise I have to find a lab close to where we are going... After that then it's on with IUI attempt #1 for me!!! My bbs have been sore since Thur so who know maybe I will start early although I am fairly sure I o'd on the Friday..... Anyway time will tell!!

Hugs to everyone

 

[coquis224]

orchid-I'm glad the LO is better, sorry you are sick though! Hopefully the witch comes so you can get on to better things

Tommy -any news?

AFM - one questionable test today....trying to hold off until Friday when AF would be due (I think I haven't had AF since beginning of December but O'd the 23rd of Jan) if I don't get a solid line by Monday I may go to the clinic to get provera I've had to take it before. We shall see. I have to go to Philadelphia tomorrow just me and the DH so it will be like a date day trip for us. I'm going to try to make the best of it since we don't ever get to go out alone it seems.

Lanet-updates? hope all is well with the you and the babies.

Wish -hope all is well

 

[lanet]

Tommy if you do have an active follicle could they watch it and trigger when it's ready? Just a thought so you don't have to wait weeks. Hopefully they aren't active and you can get on with your cycle.
Orchid of course I hope you get a bfp this month but I'm also excited for you to start iui!
Hello everyone else. It's so hard to keep up with everyone on this thread. It moves fast!
Coquis by questionable test are you seeing a line??
Babies are still cooking. 34 weeks 2 days. I stop the medicine that's stopping labor on Saturday night and then I'll be on alert analyzing every twinge. Honestly when I stand up it feels like they are going to break the pelvic bone and fall out. They are so heavy! It's getting really difficult but each day is better for them so I'm hanging in there! (Barely)

 

[tommyg]

Lanet Hoping your babies hang on in there. Although I can only imagine how you must be feeling desperate to get yourself more comfortable but desperate to keep them cooking as long as possible. I bet this time last year seems so long ago.

Orchard good to here DS is slowly getting better. And even better you have IUI coming up. Not that it's a race but I get the feeling you are going to beat me.
What is happening with your house move etc?

Mooshie fingers crossed for you this cycle.

AFM Bigger body blow than I've taken in quiet sometime. Those who have followed for a while will know I was told about an iron disorder (iron over load) just before Christmas. I mentioned it to the clinic yesterday, just with the thought that they should know. What a stupid mistake.
They have decided I should wait until after I have seen the Blood Doc (27th Feb) before they will proceed. Basically he now has the say in when my next cycle will happen. The bonkers thing is that a baby will deplete my iron stores so benefit my health. What I don't know is will it make it more difficult for me to actually get pregnant. However their is always a chance for me to get pregnant on a natural cycle. I certainly won't be taking precautions.
On a happier note I've booked a holiday for the beginning of March. I think I need it.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Oh Tommy no!!! That's rubbish! How on earth could that make much difference....Oh I am so sorry, just when you thought things were going to get going again Sending big hugs, I can imagine how deflated you must be feeling but let's hope and pray for a BFP naturally this month! Then you can shove it to them!! Did they mention whether the follicles were active or not?

I know how you feel about the race thing... It's that horrible feeling of wanting everyone on here to get their BFP but at the same time not being left last.. I'm not going to lie, I've had that thought plenty of times over the last year!! TBH while I'm trying to stay super optimistic that IUI will work for us I do know it's a long shot with what we are dealing with STILL I must stay positive!!

Lanet - lovely to hear from you! I feel your pain.... DS was massive but that was only 1 baby so I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling with 2 inside of you, especially when you are so small!! FX they can stay in a couple more weeks. It is so amazing after all that you have been through that your babies are going to be born right around your DD's Bday!! I hope for her sake they make it a day or 2 later so she doesn't have to share, although that would be a pretty amazing birthday present!!

 

[tommyg]

Orchard I completely forgot to ask the question if they are or aren't active. TBH I'd guess one of them is likely to be active as normally I do ovulate sooner or later. Re the IUI of course you are going to pin your hopes on it and why wouldn't you?
I really hope you get some beginners luck with it.
I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to be last. It's crazy we have been chatting on here for 18mths and babies have been cooked and delivered. Only Lanet is pregnant at the moment. We need are well over due a BFP.

 

[Cookie1979]

Sorry I've been awol ladies.

Tommy - my mother in law has a disorder that means she has too much iron, because levels were so high she had to have blood taken regularly and couldn't eat red meat. She's much better now. I'm sorry that they are delaying things, it must be extremely frustrating. xx

Mooshie - some women with PCOS do have high LH levels, which is obviously the hormone picked up by opks, the high LH levels are caused by high testosterone. I would get to the doctor and have a blood test. I've never had this problem, but then when I was diagnosed my testosterone levels were fairly normal. I wonder if they still are as have plenty of excess hair which must be caused by high levels...but who knows.

WhiteOrchid - Glad to hear DS is getting better, horrible when our little ones are ill. I always go into panic mode when my boy gets a cold, unfortunately its not just because I'm an over protective Mummy, its that my son is a wheezer and has ended up in hospital quite a lot.

AFM - Well I had my fertility appointment yesterday, I can't say I came out of there full of hope, she doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with me, but I've got to have blood tests to check my progesterone levels over my next 2 cycles, and also need to have a hsg. I'm not due to see her again til June, which is abit of a wait, although she did say if I manage to get a hsg earlier then I can call and bring my appointment forward. She seems very reluctant to give me Clomid because I already ovulate and pretty much get the impression that if further tests show all is ok then theres not much they can do. I know though that fertility doctors give Clomid to those that ovulate to improve egg quality, so I will push for it at my next appointment, was suggested by some who have been through the process to print and facts and just don't let them fob me off. On a positive note, I wasn't told off about my weight...they weighed me and did my height and blood pressure on arrival and I thought oh god I'm going to get told off about being overweight but she didn't mention it. I've lost 2 and a half stone (35 lbs) so I'm just going to focus on losing more weight.

Oh I've got to have a Rubella immunuity check, I've got a blood test on Friday, when I was pregnant with my son I was told I had a low immunity, I have no idea if they gave me the booster after I had him. I don't think I did have it, so likely the blood test will show that either I have a low immunity or no immunity, in which case I'll need to have a booster and then I'd need to hold off ttc for a month. Would have been handy if the GP had mentioned it, when my friend went to her GP they gave her a blood test to check her immunity...could have sorted it all last year. Bit annoyed, but also annoyed at myself...I should have realised, but I never really took in what it meant, I was in early pregnancy when they realised and it was mentioned once, and never again, I completely forgot.

I'm about 7 dpo today. x

 

[Mooshie]

Mooshie - some women with PCOS do have high LH levels, which is obviously the hormone picked up by opks, the high LH levels are caused by high testosterone. I would get to the doctor and have a blood test. I've never had this problem, but then when I was diagnosed my testosterone levels were fairly normal. I wonder if they still are as have plenty of excess hair which must be caused by high levels...but who knows.

See a few people on here have mentioned this to me now and it's got me wondering. Other than the "sort-of" irregular periods I don't really have any other symptoms of PCOS (ie. i'm not overweight, no excess hair etc) the only thing that I do get is cystic acne on my neck and only on my neck in the week running up to OV but that has only been happening for the last 6 months or so. I did post in one of the forums the other week asking about whether it could be a hormone imbalance, but no one replied.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/p...565-link-between-acne-ovulation-hormones.html

How long does it take to develop PCOS? The reason I ask is I had a lap done last February and they said my ovaries were clear, could I have developed it in a year (or less)? It's not something I know very much about tbh.

I suppose I could go to my GP and ask to be tested, but when I went before xmas I was told we had to try TTC'ing for another 6 months (5 now if no BFP this month) before they would do any tests

Something that has cropped up, that i've discovered today after being on a Diabetes forum about my pump, is that we may have to put TTC'ing on hold for a month or so when I go onto it as my blood sugars can be all over the place for a few weeks while I get used to it. Maybe it's best to keep trying for now and wait for everything to settle down health wise before asking for any tests?

Eurgh! It's such a minefield all of this!!