35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[Braven05]

No no no lol she sent me a picture of her friend's ultrasound. My friend's husband is getting snipped tomorrow lol

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Hahahaha Ok that makes WAY more sense Braven! I was trying to work out the timing and it just seemed insanely crazy!! LOL!

 

[tommyg]

Glad I wasn't the only one who tried to make sense of the dates. Lol. But even more insensitive to send friends of friends scan pictures.

 

[Cookie1979]

Orchid - I think its pretty much due to money, we just can't afford it. I'd be willing to think of options, he won't be. I think he'll easily accept that we'll have no more kids whereas I won't. Hopefully we won't get to that point. x

 

[tommyg]

Cookie there is always a chance and remember things like comid are a fraction of the cost of ivf but can be very effective for pcos. My friend got her 2 boys with it, one on round 5 the other on round 1.
When I think back to the day Lanet was heartbroken ivf was her only option and they couldn't afford it. They decided to look at all options for funding and their budget and went for it.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Wow it's hard to think now about how upset Lanet was when they got their test results and were told IVF with ICSI was the only option!! Now look at her! Lanet if you are on at all - big hugs! I hope all went ok with the birth and you and babes are doing well x
Tommy - we have been on this thread for too long!!

So now that Lanet has had her babies we have no more pregnant LTTTC's.... not good! Here's hoping for lots of BFPs really soon. Have a great weekend ladies and Happy Valentines Day for tomorrow!!!

 

[tommyg]

Orchard your right we have been here far too long. Yip you can hardly believe Lanets babies are nearly here and we are still waiting. You do realise we have to get BFP at the same time. I couldn't bare to tell you if I got mine and you hadn't. Hugs

We've ditched the boy and having a weekend for 2. This is the last of my 30's. Happy Valentines everyone tomorrow.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TOMMY (Is it tomorrow?!) Have an amazing weekend away and enjoy some well deserved chill out time with hubby.

That would be so amazing to get our BFPs together but it's ok if you are first! A year ago I would have been super upset but now i'm ok with it... we are both very overdue so it would just be such an amazing thing to hear you say (or write!) the words!! I think (well right now anyway) I am at peace with saying we will try IUI 3 times at most and IVF with ICSI once and then most likely after that if it hasn't happened I will stop TTC..... Yesterday I met someone who isn't having the best year. While she and her family are all ok she knows 3 people who all have cancer.... 2 terminal and they are around our age with young children. It broke my heart to hear that but also put things into perspective for me and made me realise that stressing over trivial things (like moving!) are pointless, ridiculous and quite frankly stupid in the greater scheme of things.... Life is too short so we all have to make the most of it and enjoy as much of it as we can!

And on that deep point I shall go (and pack!.... without stressing!! )

Have a great weekend Tommy and remember it's 40 and Fabulous!!!!

 

[tommyg]

Orchard that certainly puts life into perspective. Cancer is just so brutal but like everyone else does I think it will never happen to me.
Like you I have my limits on how far I'm prepared to go. At the moment it's as far as NHS will take me then either one or two IVF. Then it's time to give up accept we've give it our best shot and my age is against us. I'll have bust my savings and by then my 8 year old wee car will be seriously needing replaced so will need to start and plough my money elsewhere.

Not seen any updates from Lanet praying all is okay.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

I know.... I'm just hoping she is just too busy with her little babies to get in touch... Really hoping all is ok and everything went well and she is too preoccupied!

Tommy I think you're just like me... you get to a point where you realise you are willing to try it all but there has to be a cut-off point. I couldn't handle the stress not to mention the money to just keep going and going (and kudos to those that do!!). If worst case scenario is that after it all I'm still not pregnant at least I will know in my heart I did all I could to try and give DS a sibling and after that well... life will go on and we will continue to enjoy our wonderful family of 3 and I'll accept it wasn't meant to be! Still in the meantime I am trying to stay super positive about our upcoming IUI. Feeling a little tender today and have been quite bloated in the evenings... Roll on Monday and scan # 1 and FX I'm not producing a whack of eggs!!!

Have a great weekend ladies

 

[Srbjbex]

Have a great weekend everyone! Finally got my positive opk do I know what I'll be doing haha!

Orchid- excited to see what next week brings for you!

 

[tommyg]

Hello ladies how are you all doing?

Wish are you home safe and sound when are you due to start your next comid round?

At the beginning of week 9 I finally think I've ovulated and in the 2ww.

 

[tommyg]

Good luck with your scan tomorrow. Orchard hope all goes well.

Wish how are you doing?

Hello to everyone else. Hope everyone has had a fab weekend.

 

[Braven05]

Hope everyone had a nice weekend and valentine's day!

AFM, well in 15 minutes I will be on CD 40. My body is holding my period hostage!

 

[Cookie1979]

How was everyone's weekend and Valentines? My romantic husband bought me slippers...yes that's right slippers, and he thought he was hilarious. He did write some very nice words in my card and to be fair I really wanted new slippers lol. We don't really celebrate valentines, just exchange cards usually.

Brave - I hope you either get your bfp or af arrives, not fun being in limbo. x

tommyg - Yay to finally ovulating, that's good news! x

Orchid - every now and then certain things you hear or see put things into perspective. I get what you mean about trying everything, and if Clomid didn't work I wouldn't want to give up or just think well that's it for us, but the trouble I have is my husband. He just doesn't want to go down the road of further treatment...he wants another child but I don't think he wants one enough, or as much as I do. Maybe if we were faced with no more options then he might have a different opinion, who knows.

Yesterday we went walking at a nearby forest where they have a Gruffalo trail, it was quite busy, lots of families...I looked around and said to my husband are we seriously the only couple with one child? Everyone had 2 or 3...not fair! I sometimes wonder if its similar to getting a new car, before you get the car you never see the same car or notice it but then once you've got it you see it all over the place. Maybe because I'm so aware of couples with more than one I focus on it too much, before we really started trying for another I never noticed now I seem to subconsciously look for it and therefore that's all I notice. Although I'm sure I didn't see another couple with just one child.

Hope everyone has a good week!! xxx

 

[tommyg]

I think we all do the same thing notice families with more than 1 and think why not us. While I was still using the buggy it was double buggies that used to really get me. Every where I went there was double buggies. Now its kids walking with sibling in the buggy. I don't so much notice kids the age of D'S with older siblings. But I'm not as bad as I was.

 

[Cookie1979]

I definitely think I need to focus on it less.

Last night my son randomly called from him bed 'I wish we had a baby' that was because I had said we were going to see his little friend and he wanted to know why we are going there and I said its because his little brother needs a nap in the afternoon. Then this morning he was talking about his friend and said he wishes he had a brother too. Does make me sad that I can't give him what he wants.

 

[Mooshie]

Hey ladies, sorry i've been awol for a few days! Fab news about Lanet, is there news?

Hope you all had a lovely weekend

Nothing to report here, AF got me on Friday as expected. Right on time to ruin our valentines night out too. Hey ho, onto cycle 16!!

xx

 

[Wish4another1]

ladies
I am reading along... just don't feel I have much to contribute.
I did make it home from Poland - but my cell phone did not and it has not been fun... I would recommend that you write down phone numbers that you do not have memorized... I am having a hard time just communicating with people!

I always keep my fingers crossed for each of you that this month is your BFP month! I am finding it difficult to see anything baby related... Im fighting being angry inside about it all... my husband would be a great father and our chances are so bleak...
I had to explain last night to him why I am not having a period - that happens when you have to take birth control for 8 weeks...

anyway Happy Monday everyone!!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Happy Monday everyone!!

How are you all doing?

Braven have you tested? So confusing but hopefully you get answers soon...

Cookie - I think it is totally like the car situation! And probably before you didn't notice as much cause you always thought you would be one of those families... now with the struggle you are having to conceive it seems babies and pregnant ladies are everywhere!! Stay strong

Tommy - SO Happy you are finally in your 2ww! It's time for that next IUI so between the date of your appt re. your iron and blood and the date of a next cycle starting it should all work out.... Or alternatively maybe a surprise BFP would be absolutely perfect!!

Wish - lovely to hear from you but sorry about your phone! That sucks!!

Hello to everyone else - Sorry not meaning to miss anyone out I just don't have much time as need to go and make dinner....

AFM: Well I survived the 6 hour round trip to the Dr's but I'm knackered! It's amazing how tiring driving can be! So turns out I have responded well to the Femara... I have 3 good sized follicles on my right side and 4 small ones on my left. The Dr suspects the 4 small ones will stop growing but there is of course a chance that they do continue... FX they don't as I think he would cancel the cycle if they were all big enough... At the initial appt he said if I had 5 he would probably have to cancel so 7 would definitely mean that.... Anyway I have to repeat the monster journey and 2 minute scan on Thursday and start using OPK's as of tomorrow.... It's going to be a long week!!!