39 and trying to conceive:-(

[jennleigh]

Do you mean during ovulation time? SOmetimes mine is obvious and sometimes not. Last month a noticed it and then I find I spot as soon as I'm done ovulating.

 

[Taurus8484]

Nope, I mean NONE ever. The most I get is a bit wet, but no egg white, nothing at all. Doctor says that it shouldnt affect getting pregnant, but I dont see how it couldnt. No CM, how does the sperm stay alive?? Tried Conceive Plus last month, which is a lubricant designed to mimic CM and help sperm, but nothing. Thought it might be my age, but as I have been on birth control from 16-27, I cant ever remember getting CM so not sure if it is just my body.

 

[drsquid]

ive never had much cm but i never paid much attention (but im also not pregnant yet either so...). i also never kept track of my periods and always thought i was probably irregular only to find when i started keeping track, i was pretty darn regular. (im single, rarely have sex so no birth control issues and no need to think about periods.. i usually get af in the am so it is get out of bed... oh look who is here etc )

 

[Bonnie1990]

Hi ladies. Will be 40 in October hoping for #3. Weird too because I'm already a grandma! Just blew my last chance for a 2012 baby as we never had the chance to bd so now a TWW to nothing. Not sure what's worse. A bfn or no possibility of one. I keep feeling what if this waste good egg and it was just wasted? So this was cycle 4 for us. I guess next month will be #4 again-lol

I did make an appt to see my gyn for an initial workup after 3 month of bfn. Had fsh/prolactin/TSH tested and they were all good. Had to reschedule consult though. Now it will be right when I ov next so I'm debating if I should postpone again?

I have cm but this last cycle it was gone so quick. I am thinking about trying Evening Primrose Oil. It is supposed to improve ewcm taken day 1 through ov.

The special lube should also be adequate. I have preseed myself.

Drsquid! I can't believe the sperm was bad! I remember how you kept asking for it to be tested! I'm so glad it finally was but do sorry it was bad! They certainly do owe you!

ladies

 

[Casper72]

please don't give up hope, youngsters -- had an mc at 41 and the cycle we were going to try IVF, at age 43, got pregnant naturally and LO was born in early February (see picture) and is very healthy, happy and just perfect -- I'd recommend all the tests (for both) just to make sure that everything is ok -- such as thyroid, iron levels, etc... and having a history of PCOS and erratic cycles, NEVER thought I'd have children --

best wishes

Your story gave me goosebumps. What a cutie pie! Congratulations. I need to hear stories like this, it's what keeps me going.

 

[Casper72]

Reading everyone's comments on here makes me feel like Im not alone. Been trying to get pregnant for the last 7 months, Im 38, my husband is 37. Had all the blood tests and my husbands sperm count was good, just nothing happening. And yes, all my friends and family keep announcing they are pregnant, and I am really happy for them, but Im also so very very jealous. Feels good to be able to actually say it and know that people on here understand what I mean.

I TOTALLY understand the jealousy issue. I am experiencing it myself towards my husbands ex wife. She got 'accidentally knocked up' by some guy she had only been seeing for a month or two. She is now about 16 wks along and it is so hard for me to see. It just doesn't seem fair at all.

 

[drsquid]

bonnie- the bank is giving me 4 free vials (even though i cant prove the first 3 were bad). they arent even asking for documentation (at least they havent so far) they were fabulous on the phone etc. now the clinic... i havent approached them yet. im still vaguely hopeful ( i must be or i woulndt be dealing the with crazies from progesterone).

 

[Casper72]

Hope no one gets offended by this question, but I have no CM. None at all!!!! I dont know if it is because of my age or not, so curious as to whether anyone else 38+ has this problem or if its me and thats a contributing reason for no BFP????

I am in the same boat. I used to have loads of CM around ovulation time when I was younger and it lasted for days. In the past 5 years or so I have barely any, if any at all. I've tried preseed but it didn't work....yet. I will keep trying it.

 

[Casper72]

please don't give up hope, youngsters -- had an mc at 41 and the cycle we were going to try IVF, at age 43, got pregnant naturally and LO was born in early February (see picture) and is very healthy, happy and just perfect -- I'd recommend all the tests (for both) just to make sure that everything is ok -- such as thyroid, iron levels, etc... and having a history of PCOS and erratic cycles, NEVER thought I'd have children --

best wishes

Oh, I've had all the blood tests done as well and everything is normal. I have normal 30-33 day cycles too so I'm stumped.

 

[Taurus8484]

Hi ladies. Will be 40 in October hoping for #3. Weird too because I'm already a grandma! Just blew my last chance for a 2012 baby as we never had the chance to bd so now a TWW to nothing. Not sure what's worse. A bfn or no possibility of one. I keep feeling what if this waste good egg and it was just wasted? So this was cycle 4 for us. I guess next month will be #4 again-lol

I did make an appt to see my gyn for an initial workup after 3 month of bfn. Had fsh/prolactin/TSH tested and they were all good. Had to reschedule consult though. Now it will be right when I ov next so I'm debating if I should postpone again?

I have cm but this last cycle it was gone so quick. I am thinking about trying Evening Primrose Oil. It is supposed to improve ewcm taken day 1 through ov.

The special lube should also be adequate. I have preseed myself.

Drsquid! I can't believe the sperm was bad! I remember how you kept asking for it to be tested! I'm so glad it finally was but do sorry it was bad! They certainly do owe you!

ladies

Bonnie1990: I tried Evening Primrose Oil too hoping it would increase my CM. All it did was play around with my AF and I had a 34 day cycle with it, which never happens to me. Gave me false hope that I might be pregnant.

Might be different with you of course.

 

[Bonnie1990]

oh yuk!
were you regular before EPO?
I am pretty regular. 26-28 day cycles. i don't want to screw that up! Its the one good thing i have going for me!

 

[Taurus8484]

Yeah, I was like clockwork. Took 2 AF's before it went back to normal. Going to try acupuncture next Tuesday, yes getting desperate now..........will let you know how that goes

 

[Bonnie1990]

i love acupuncture for my back pain-and mine is very reasonable $
havent asked if he does fertility work-havent gotten that far yet i guess
enjoy it though!

thanks for the advice on epo!

 

[SydneyKatie]

I am 39 and have been trying to conceive for the past year and 7 months. I recently just got into a specialist and so far everything looks "normal". I am going back this week to start clomid.
I have noticed the last few days I have been having brown discharge and it's a week and a half before my next period. Also, I woke up out of a sleep last night with horrible cramps and indigestion. Is this something I should be worried about? Getting frustrated!

It's been wonderful to hear what you other ladies are going through. I am 38 and DH 43 and we've been ttc for 12 months. Had all the blood tests, ultrasounds, dye etc which were all normal except that I have PCO (not PCOS) and basically 'unexplained infertility'. No reason I shouldn't fall pregnant apparently.

Have a lovely FS and we are going to have one more go naturally and then try IUI.

Like many of you I am finding it very difficult to remain positive and happy. Two 'younger' workmates both announced they were pregnant a couple of months ago so now the office is full of baby talk.

I am happy for them but when you hear them talk about how they weren't really planning it and how they'll have to take maternity leave which doesn't suit them right now - it makes me so angry.

I met my amazing DH via online dating after many years travelling and having a great time. Got back home to Australia and realised I was in my late 30's with absolutely no potential men anywhere to be found. Then when I was resigned to be single (and relatively happy) forever, I met 'the one'. And couldn't be happier. If only we could add to our happy little family...

Be strong ladies. You are all inspirational to me and I can't wait to hear how you all get on.

Fingers crossed xoxox

 

[Watson101]

Hi Ladies - great to meet people in the same situation. I'm 38 and have been TTC for nearly 3 years now - all our tests keep coming back fine so very frustrating not to be getting BFP.... I'm having a monitored cycle this month - had scan yesterday on day 10 and follicle is 17mm and lining looking good so here's hoping (again!)

I also don't get very much CM - have tried Robitussin (expectorant - 2x5ml a day in week leading up to O) and that seems to help a little and we also use preseed to make sure there's enough fluid in there. I also can't ever remember ever having a lot of CM.... even when I was younger....

I've been going for acupuncture and taking chinese herbs for the past year and this has regulated my cycles and is supposed to be helping with my lining. I think it is supposed to help with CM as well.

I totally agree about the ticking timebomb thing. When we started TTC I was 35 and thought I had loads of time - this year I'll be 39 and if we need IVF I should hopefully only just get in for NHS treatment before being told I am too old!!!! - which is terrifying. Agree wth you Jenn about the fear of missing the window - DH and I tossing up whether to just pay for IVF ourselves now or wait to get the treatment free but in 8 months time.... when I am even older!!! Thanks so much SabrinaKat for posting - it gives us all hopewe are not just being foolish in hoping.

 

[trying4four]

It's great to meet others who are in the same age bracket as I am
I also have a problem with CM. Used to have three flowing days of it when I was younger. Didn't have any on my last two cycles. This time I had it over two days but for a grand total of 15 minutes each day and I only got a 2" stretch on it so I don't even know if that is enough. Luckily it was on a weekend, so I grabbed OH each time and said "we gotta go right now!". Who knows

 

[Bonnie1990]

It's great to meet others who are in the same age bracket as I am
I also have a problem with CM. Used to have three flowing days of it when I was younger. Didn't have any on my last two cycles. This time I had it over two days but for a grand total of 15 minutes each day and I only got a 2" stretch on it so I don't even know if that is enough. Luckily it was on a weekend, so I grabbed OH each time and said "we gotta go right now!". Who knows

That's a pretty dip on your chart! Fx'd!
Haha to grabbing oh!

 

[trying4four]

That's a pretty dip on your chart! Fx'd!
Haha to grabbing oh!

Thanks Bonnie. You don't think that dip is too early? It's only 6dpo? I took my temp that morning and went WTH??

 

[Bonnie1990]

That's a pretty dip on your chart! Fx'd!
Haha to grabbing oh!

Thanks Bonnie. You don't think that dip is too early? It's only 6dpo? I took my temp that morning and went WTH??

Not at all. Average is 7-10 but can be before or after!

 

[Warwounds4lov]

It is great to hear that u r ttc! I am at the place u were at back in January. Just had a laparoscopic myomectomy for an intramural...5 to 6 cm fibroid...also a pedunculated one but that wasn't a big deal. I am recovering really well. The surgeon, dr Nezhat, said we could try in 3 mths but would need a c sec. Or wait 6 months and try for vag birth....
The story before all this was that I had an ectopic preg. In December last year...they had to remove my right tube . Hard recovery physically and emotionally. It was our first pregnancy...I am 36 my husband 41....and it only took us 5 months to conceive.

Thanks for posting your story...it gives me hope that we will be where ur at right now in a few months. Any idea if u guys will go w vaginal or c sec or who knows? Sending tons of positive energy your way!