3rd baby on the way and so nervous..

[musicmomma]

So as the title reads..I'm pregnant with my 3rd and I've become crippled with nerves and fear. I'm so nervous about juggling 3 children and giving each the time they deserve. I didn't go into this pregnancy feeling this way at all. Now I can't stop thinking about it. Anyone else having their third or 4th that can give advice?!

 

[BrittRashel]

This is only my second so I have no advice but I kind of get the anxiety. Moving from 1 to 2 still freaks me out and baby will be here in 4 weeks!

 

[Misscalais]

To be honest i found 3 tricky in the beginning ( my bub had very bad reflux for almost 8 months ).so he hardly slept and was up and down all night with him for months and months. Its not bad now they are 6, 5 and 19 months. Im terrified now with how ill cope with #4 ( not planned ) I'm just praying so hard she doesn't have reflux and sleeps well lol
Its funny though, even when it gets tough you still manage. And you never know you might find it an absolute breeze

 

[ZubZub]

I really really wanted another and I must admit to feeling a few moments of panic every now and then - but then I switch off and try to focus on the fun things about being pregnant and new babies; the kicks in my belly, sorting through baby clothes and planning the nursery... My kids are 10 and 6 so I guess they'll be at school and doing their own thing... which is also a reason to panic, do I really want to go through all the babyness again? I guess I do most days and some I don't (which is when the panic sets in and I start sorting baby clothes again!)

I'm sure we'll be fine once baby is here and we're in love with the reality and not just facing the unknown?

 

[musicmomma]

I really really wanted another and I must admit to feeling a few moments of panic every now and then - but then I switch off and try to focus on the fun things about being pregnant and new babies; the kicks in my belly, sorting through baby clothes and planning the nursery... My kids are 10 and 6 so I guess they'll be at school and doing their own thing... which is also a reason to panic, do I really want to go through all the babyness again? I guess I do most days and some I don't (which is when the panic sets in and I start sorting baby clothes again!)

I'm sure we'll be fine once baby is here and we're in love with the reality and not just facing the unknown?

Yes see we can kinda relate since my eldest is almost 7 and she'll be in 2nd grade and gone all day. But my second child is only going to be 3 and he's such a huge handful. He may or may not be napping at that point I just don't know. I really count on his naps to refocus and do things. He will go to preschool 2 days for 2 hours. I just so worried how to balance everything! Cleaning, laundry, doing homework with my daughter, nursing new baby, playing with second child, making dinners, taking my daughter to extracurriculars. 😳 I'm overthinking for sure, but still scary to think about! I can't wait to meet baby, but I feel unprepared thinking about the future.

 

[Unexpected212]

I'm so grateful to be pregnant but also having this panic right now. I've got nothing ready yet and it doesn't feel real I'm going to have another baby.

 

[Aelyana]

No advice about 3 plus (hopefully in a few years 😇&#128522 but I really unexpectedly kind of felt this way while pregnant w no.2. Did you feel that way for no. 2? It may be a similar thing not sure but in case it is helpful here goes. My ds2 was very much wanted and planned and it kind of threw me that I felt that way. Ds2 is now 5 months and it was totally fine! Some parts so far have been rough but you get on with it and soon it will be the new normal. I suspect you just worry because you love your existing kids and want to make sure you can do right by him/her/them as well as the new baby. So I think
in a way it is only natural that you worry. But you can't do anything about it now so you may as well try and put it out of your mind a little for the moment. Tho talking to DH, my mother or friends about it did help me feel better about it while still preg. Happy and healthy 9 mos!!

 

[musicmomma]

No advice about 3 plus (hopefully in a few years 😇&#128522 but I really unexpectedly kind of felt this way while pregnant w no.2. Did you feel that way for no. 2? It may be a similar thing not sure but in case it is helpful here goes. My ds2 was very much wanted and planned and it kind of threw me that I felt that way. Ds2 is now 5 months and it was totally fine! Some parts so far have been rough but you get on with it and soon it will be the new normal. I suspect you just worry because you love your existing kids and want to make sure you can do right by him/her/them as well as the new baby. So I think
in a way it is only natural that you worry. But you can't do anything about it now so you may as well try and put it out of your mind a little for the moment. Tho talking to DH, my mother or friends about it did help me feel better about it while still preg. Happy and healthy 9 mos!!

Thank you! And no I felt ready and excited fully with my second. This pregnancy was unplanned but I always envisioned a 3rd. I guess just the reality of it all is hitting me. I am going to try to relax and enjoy the pregnancy for sure. I can only wait and take it one day at a time! Thanks ladies!

 

[lau86]

I had my 3rd six weeks ago, I'm not going to lie I'm tired but the good bits are well worth it. I've only had a couple of really horrid days

 

[EarthMama]

I'm pregnant with my 3rd and have the same feelings. My son will be 4, my daughter 20 months, when #3 gets here and I'm starting to feel really worried. Mostly about my daughter and how she'll cope...she loves to snuggle and be cuddled.