42+ pregnant?

[2blue lines]

Standing by HappyPregnant hoping for a good out luck today at your scan!!!
Your story is amazing & inspiring headed out to get some sunshine today! N

 

[wifey246]

Congratulations, Happy! Any update?

I am 44 and I have a 5 month old healthy baby girl! The doctors took extra good care of me because of my age, and I'm forever grateful.

We didn't plan for her to come into our lives, but now that we have her, we want more of that miracle!

I cannot take any supplements because I am still breastfeeding. I need to research on what is safe for a nursing mom.

 

[LuckyW]

congrats, Happy, good luck!

 

[Happypregnant]

Ladies, I think my story will NOT end with a happy ending I went for my scan and the sonographer said that she could not see a fetal pole and I had to go back in 10 days. She said it could be either a) I was not 7 weeks like I thought but less. b) I had an ectopic c) I had a missed miscarriage but at this point there was no way she could tell which. Well, I tried my hardest not to get too attached to this pregnancy... but it was still very hard to hear this. It has been 4 days and the same afternoon I went for my scan I started to spot dark blood. Now, the sonographer was a bit of a brute and really proded me with the vaginal probe and it was hurting me. She could not find my left ovary (well they most of the time can't see it) and as I am on clexane, i realized I bleed ever so easy... I thought it was it, it was the end of the pregnancy and that I was having a miscarriage but for the last 4 days I keep spotting with some red blood too but only enough to show on the toilet paper when I wipe, none on my panties. The pregnancy tests still show a strong positive and I went to the hospital.... the doctor said I had to wait until monday to talk to my doctor (she was a weekend doctor) and said they would scan me again but not on the weekend. Either way, i have to wait at least 7 days. If there was no growth, then we know the answer.

I don't know what to think or feel anymore. Although a bit defeated, I am not defeated enough to quit just yet. Although it is hard. It is as if I was a blow up toy and someone opened the valve and air started to come out. I know you will feel bad for me when you read this. But it is ok. It is not but it is, if you know what you mean. It is not over until is over. See if I stop bleeding in the next few days and see what the scan says. If it is over, I already got my next batch of DHEA, Clexane, Co Q10, and all sorts of stuff. |But next time, I will not have unprotected sex until the 12 weeks have passed as it takes at least 12 weeks for DHEA and Co Q10 work. I read that if you do get pregnant before the 12 weeks, that it is highly likely you miscarriage as those eggs don't have the full benefit of the supplements as it takes 3 months for the eggs to be recruited.

I don't know what to say anymore or think.

Baby dust to everyone x

 

[tadpole1]

Happy - I'm very sorry to hear about the scan. I can't imagine what you must be going through and I don't have the right words to express what you must be feeling. I will say that you are an inspiration to me and already you're advice on Vitamin D has helped me out ( I don't sleep well but have for the past couple nights). Wishing you all the best..

 

[Blythe]

Thinking of you happyp x x

 

[Happypregnant]

Happy - I'm very sorry to hear about the scan. I can't imagine what you must be going through and I don't have the right words to express what you must be feeling. I will say that you are an inspiration to me and already you're advice on Vitamin D has helped me out ( I don't sleep well but have for the past couple nights). Wishing you all the best..

I am glad the vitamin D is helping... thanks for your words.

 

[Happypregnant]

@ blythe and tadpole... Hi ladies, thanks for your posts. I am still here, hanging in there. Still showing pregnant, still spotting but nothing major has happened. I went to the doctor and I got a scan for wednesday at the early pregnancy unit... firngers crossed... but although I seem very strong, I have cried unconsolably today for a while. I needed to. I just felt fed up. I am ok (ish) now... I stopped taking clexane and the bleeding lessened... then I took it and again it started... so I am going to skip it tomorrow again. Fingers crossed... and waiting for wednesday... xx

 

[LLbean]

Happy sending many hugs to you

 

[notrustyyet]

Dear Happy,
I'm really hoping for a miracle for you, that your scan goes well. If it's any consolation, I had spotting, brownish pink at around 5 weeks and again at about 7 weeks. Never enough for a pad, mainly just on TP too when I wiped, but did stain undies, but flow never increased and I didn't have cramps. I made sure to get extra rest though and laid down a lot when that happened. OB said it was just old blood. Comes out with increasing cervical mucus (lochia) that increases as preg. progresses. I haven't had any spotting since about 8 weeks on.....

 

[2blue lines]

Xoxo Happy it's such a hormonal roller coaster I know. It's ok to feel sad & defeated right now. It is so positive u were able to get a positive pregnancy test. It's like you are almost to the summit your just cAught in a small storm weather this & you will come out on top!

 

[LLbean]

Dear Happy,
I'm really hoping for a miracle for you, that your scan goes well. If it's any consolation, I had spotting, brownish pink at around 5 weeks and again at about 7 weeks. Never enough for a pad, mainly just on TP too when I wiped, but did stain undies, but flow never increased and I didn't have cramps. I made sure to get extra rest though and laid down a lot when that happened. OB said it was just old blood. Comes out with increasing cervical mucus (lochia) that increases as preg. progresses. I haven't had any spotting since about 8 weeks on.....

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[Blythe]

@ blythe and tadpole... Hi ladies, thanks for your posts. I am still here, hanging in there. Still showing pregnant, still spotting but nothing major has happened. I went to the doctor and I got a scan for wednesday at the early pregnancy unit... firngers crossed... but although I seem very strong, I have cried unconsolably today for a while. I needed to. I just felt fed up. I am ok (ish) now... I stopped taking clexane and the bleeding lessened... then I took it and again it started... so I am going to skip it tomorrow again. Fingers crossed... and waiting for wednesday... xx

Happy - i just saw your sig and post...Im so sorry. I hope you are ok - this is all so hard and often heartbreaking but i have no doubt you will get your sticky bean. thinking of you x

 

[tadpole1]

@ blythe and tadpole... Hi ladies, thanks for your posts. I am still here, hanging in there. Still showing pregnant, still spotting but nothing major has happened. I went to the doctor and I got a scan for wednesday at the early pregnancy unit... firngers crossed... but although I seem very strong, I have cried unconsolably today for a while. I needed to. I just felt fed up. I am ok (ish) now... I stopped taking clexane and the bleeding lessened... then I took it and again it started... so I am going to skip it tomorrow again. Fingers crossed... and waiting for wednesday... xx

Hi Happy,

I'm so sorry to hear about your news. It's amazing how we feel it as well. I know there's nothing I can say to make things better. But please know that we are grieving with you.

 

[kismett]

I ladies sorry to jump into the middle of anything but I could really use some input! I am 42 I have only 1 tube ( duel ectopic, 1 ectopic in each tube lost only 1 tube luckily, I am only the 22 documented case ever, I know what your thinking "lucky girl"...NOT) My one tube I have does have scar tissue but 6 months before my ectopic I have birth to a healthy baby boy , he is my miracle baby i waited 18 very long years for him!!!!

So I have been trying for another the past few years off and on and the past several months I sware this is the month! and every month my DH says "you said this last month" I am not sure if I just want to get pg now to "show" him!! LOL anyway this month in my 2ww I kept getting what I called fish hook pains in my lower left uterus they felt like a quick sharp rip type of pain like the ligament pain in pregnancy.... for about 3 days they came frequently and I had a pain in grocery store that paralyzed my lower back so I was feeling that this was it then 2 days before AF was to arrive I got a big dollop of brown blood and cm or brown cm not sure but it freaked me out, the reason i knew the ectopic was not right was I had brown blood but only when i wiped,.... SO after the big spot of that I put on a liner and went to bed I woke up to a clean liner and when i went to the bathroom it kinda pured outta me into toilet ...sorry tmi... so I thought okay period is early then ...nothing on pad for now 2 days only when i wipe but it's no longer brown it goes from pink to a strange red i never had before back to pink but not alot very very light and ONLY WHEN I WIPE!! I wore a pad one day for 8 hours and it had no more that the size of a quarter and that was black colored...
I don't "feel" pregnant but hey every month I "feel" pregnant and I am not so what do I know! I have not taken any pregnancy tests cause I just can't bear to see that neg again . .. I am still having the "fish hook" pains but not as frequent and they are now not just in the same spot as before they are on left and right of lower uterus.. sore boobs went away 2 days before all the spotting but nipples still feel weird,,,,and I have NO cramping at all!! normally every period I am in agony I have to sleep with heating pad and bottle of advil!!!! SO I am wondering is this another ectopic, a misscarriage, burst cyst, peri menapause, or implantation??

Anyone have this happen? I could really use some advice other than take a test cause I just can't unless I am sure there is a good enough reason to put myself through that it kills me to see those neg tests 18 years of them really kills me!! funny everyone in my family has multiple children heck even my mom had 7!! I have always been fertility challenged! sucks!

thanks for taking the time to read my overly sarcastic book and sorry for barging right in here!

 

[kismett]

so my 2 day "period" ended as fast as it started it barely lasted 2 days that is really being generous! I figured it was just a light period but 2 days after it stopped I started getting cramps and now I am going on full 2days with cramps not bad like I get when i get my period but bad enough that I am noticing them and I have never noticed getting cramps after my "period" ended!!
I have posted this question on 2 boards and haven't gotten 1 answer that sucks.... I don't want to take pregnancy test unless I am sure I have spent more money than I care to think about on them and I really hate seeing that 1 lonely line... the dollar stores here NEVER have them in stock the projects are right behind the dollar store so there are tons of ovulation and menapause tests but NEVER pregnancy tests.... well maybe someone in the same situation will read this and answer PLEASE ANSWER I just am beginning to drive myself crazy ! This just can't be pregnancy!? can it??

 

[Happypregnant]

Thanks for your message... I have stayed away for a while... the scan went really bad, I started spotting after it and it is all over. For a few days I was just laying down not wanting to get up off my bed... but 5 weeks later, I am back, ready for another round!!!

 

[Happypregnant]

Thank you! Yes I was bummed out but after a couple of weeks of wallowing in self pity, I am back, ready to grab the bull by the horn! x

 

[Happypregnant]

Hi Ladies, thanks for your messages! I stayed away for a while, I had to! I already finished feeling sorry for myself and now I am ready for the battle again, except this time, I am more prepared! I started taking the DHEA again, from the moment I started bleeding for I knew it was all over. I just knew it by what they said at the scan. But this time around I went to see Mister Shahata at the miscarriage center in London. Now ladies, this guy is switched on! I went and told him all my concerns and suspicions and for the first time, he didn't look at me as if I was nuts! I told him I suspected my immune system was attacking my babies and because I have multiple food and chemical allergies, joint pain, psoriasis (which all are auto immune problems) he said he sees this all the time, women that keep having miscarriages because of it. Now, I didn't have all these problems with my first 2 babies. This is something new. He did a lot of tests, a full thrombophilia and has to do a full immune test. He started me on antimalarian drugs (immunomodulator) which will calm down my immune system, 4,000 IU of Vit D3, baby aspirin starting now, multivitamins and I have to do all this for at least 6 weeks. Still waiting to take the full blood test as I was self medicating with turmeric (which is an immunomodulator as well) and it would compromise the test results so I have to stay off it for 2 weeks before the test. Now this guy is NOT cheap! But he is so worth the money. There are 2 top specialist in the UK, him and a lady Dr Quenby. I had to go private as my insurance will not cover it as I haven't had 3 consecutive miscarriages as I had a medical termination in between the 3 miscarriages. The NHS won't conver me either. So no choice. He seems pretty positive that he could help me. He said I dont' need IVF as obviously I can conceive, the problem is keeping them babies! So, I will start my antimalarian medicine in about 2 weeks (don't want to just yet as they have to do a liver function test) and then will take it for about 8 weeks. By the end of the 8 weeks, I would have taken DHEA and Co Q10 for the full 12 weeks this time!!!! Any good news anyone? Fingers crossed for everyone and lots of baby dust! Keep me posted of any good news or new findings. And thanks for your nice messages. It is not that I am callous (maybe a bit by now but it still hurts!) but there is no point in wallowing in self pity for too long and lose precious time. I am a warrior! The battle continues... xxx

 

[Happypregnant]

Ps: ladies I promise you all that my story will have a happy ending, whatever it is I have to do for it I will do... and hopefully that will give some of you inspiration!!! x