(44) Little Presents - Due in December 2013

[Hoping girl 2]

HELP!

I have been having the WORST PROBLEMS with my job lately.. They won't grant me any time off for any thing extra and now i'm having really bad back pains that have me and my doctor worried and my dr wants to take me out of work for a week to see if that helps, but i'm so scared to tell them because I feel like they are going to try to get me fired. Not sure what my rights are or what to do..

Thank you so much, ladies. I work in the auto insurance industry.. [Which i'm quitting as soon as maternity leave is up] The thing that gets me is they turned me down for a HALF day off next thurs. because they're 'too busy' but my office where I work is DEAD! It's unbelievable. Then they ask me to come work at their office.. which is about a 40 minute commute for me, whereas now I don't have one - and I don't even know how to work there! It's not my job.. so then my boss turns around and asks the other girl that does my same position.. and tells her that if SHE goes out to the other yard then SHE can work a half day.. the same day I wanted off .. WOW! Anyways, So now because I got denied that day off b/c 'they're too busy' i'm scared to tell them I have a dr appt. But I can't work with my back like this! I can't even sit still..

I'm sorry they're being unreasonable, but they cannot deny you time off for medical reasons so I would just go and let them know. And I'd definitely look into ringing someone for advice...

 

[Mom2Hope]

diamond...definitely fill out the disability forms and ask your dr. to fill out his/her portion also if he feels you should be off work...then the job can't mess with you...here is an article with some info on California short term disability

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/california-short-term-disability-benefits.html

This next link is to the website that should actually have the forms on it...you should be able to search disability forms and print it out or at least order a form to be mailed to you...I am giving you the link to the Frequently asked Questions page...

Hopefully this can offer some hope and reassurance for you...sorry you are dealing with this now...

 

[Mom2Hope]

https://www.edd.ca.gov/Disability/FAQs.htm

of course I need to add the link or you can't even look lol...sorry about that

 

[threegirls]

I'm off for a couple of weeks for vacation but I wanted to let you all know that I am OFFICIALLY TEAM BLUE!! We are having a BOY!! We are sooooo over the moon excited )

 

[Hoping girl 2]

I'm off for a couple of weeks for vacation but I wanted to let you all know that I am OFFICIALLY TEAM BLUE!! We are having a BOY!! We are sooooo over the moon excited )

Congratulations on your baby boy!!! Finally another blue bump

 

[onetwothreebp]

Congrats on the ! I'm judging from your username that this is going to be a new, exciting adventure for your family!!

 

[DHBH0930]

Congrats on the boy!

I've been feeling soooo much movement in there, wish my DH could feel it, each time he tries she stops or starts doing lighter kicks...we are wondering if it is cuz i yell for him to come over and maybe she stops to hear me?? I think he is a bit disappointed that he can't feel it, the light ones he probably doesn't feel cuz my heartbeat masks them.. Hopefully he will feel some good ones soon! It's so cute how he is always rubbing my belly and has sometimes talked to hear already. I know that's not uncommon just surprised me cuz I didn't think he would be the type to do that.


Also with the kicks, when she kicks downward, it's a weird feeling since she either kicks my cervix, not too pleasant or my bladder which makes me suddenly feel like I have to pee. Anyone else getting that?

 

[Lara310809]

Diamondlove, DEFINITELY find out about your rights; in the UK at least it's illegal for your employer to not allow you time off for medical appointments, scans etc, and if your doctor signs you off its effectively illegal for you to work despite that, but your employer has to be informed otherwise it won't stand up in court. I can't imagine they're allowed to make you work, but I suppose they could wangle another "reason" to get rid of you, but in all honesty you shouldn't worry about that, as you and your baby come first every time. I hope you can get things sorted soon.

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AFM I went for my second 20-week scan today; the sonographer couldn't get all the measurements last week so went back today to get everything else. Awkward baby though; she still wasn't in a great position. She managed to get all the measurements, but only just. Baby was hanging about my belly button the entire time, which the Doppler can't get past - just like last week just like my second baby, she likes to squish her face into the placenta, using it like a cushion, so we didn't get to see much of her face

Anyway, I walked away with four more photos! I didn't expect any as I already got some last week, but I got a lovely pic of her profile; so cute

 

[Kaiecee]

I'm sure u definitely have rights I know in Canada they couldn't do that hope it turns out all good u don't need to be working in pain

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Woo hoo! First three proper kicks I'm in love with my baby!!!!

 

[diamondlove33]

Thank you ladies so so much! I have made an appointment for monday afternoon and have decided to go with whatever my doctor deems best for my baby and me. I need to stop stressing about work!! I'm not coming back to this job most likely anyways so it really doesn't matter. Just don't want to get fired is all.

But you ladies all really gave me the courage to make up my mind thank you sooooo much!!


So excited to hear of another blue bump! They're rare on this thread!!

 

[Kaiecee]

I think by law they cannot fire u while pregnant especially f u have a dr's recommendations to rest at home

 

[Lara310809]

They can fire you for things not related to your pregnancy, but not because you have complications and health issues during pregnancy. However they can easily make up grounds, like poor time-keeping, blaming you for something that wasn't your fault, not meeting targets etc etc. it's down to the individual to prove the employer is wrong, and that can be very hard. BUT you and your baby are the most important people here; do what you need to do for your health and worry about other things later

 

[August3]

Hi August3 :wave: I'm in Ireland too...and august 3rd is also my birthday! Congrats & welcome!!

: Yay, happy birthday to us! ​

Hope you have a fab day ready2Bmum, it feels extra special for me this year with little one on board, this time next year we could have help blowing out the candles!

Hope everyone is getting on well! Diamondlove3, hope all works out for you, great advice from all the ladies here. Have you got a citizens information service near you who could advise you of your legal rights? I agree with Lara, your & baby's health and well-being are top priority at the mo. Best of luck, hon.

 

[Skadi]

Yes, you can get fired or laid off while pregnant. I was laid off at 13 weeks... as soon as I started showing. They said it was due to lack of work. (Err So why was I constantly busy from the minute I got in until the minute I left everyday?) Nothing I can do about it though so I am on employment insurance and working on an online business so I can stay home with my kids instead of working outside the home. I'm actually happy it happened now as I feel way more relaxed and less stressed out.

 

[DHBH0930]

Anyone else still just as tired as they were in the 1st trimester?

It's not everyday that I feel so tired and lethargic but still a few days a week, that all I want to do is sleep all day. Yesterday I slept in till 10 watched half a movie and passed out for another 3 hours! So much for all this energy that I'm supposed to have in 2nd trimester! I have some good days where I'm energetic and motivated, so I guess there is that....

 

[SugarBeth]

I never got energy back from first trimester. I'm still tired when I wake up, I'm tired all day, I take a nap and wake up tired, go to bed tired...repeat every day of pregnancy. I feel so worn out and I'm not even dealing with a new baby yet!

 

[Hoping girl 2]

I never got energy back from first trimester. I'm still tired when I wake up, I'm tired all day, I take a nap and wake up tired, go to bed tired...repeat every day of pregnancy. I feel so worn out and I'm not even dealing with a new baby yet!

I'm with you!!!! I wonder how people
Do this when they already have children to look after... I'm already exhausted!

 

[Skadi]

I feel fine, I don't have time to be tired! lol First trimester was so rough for me... I love second trimester!

 

[luz]

I never got energy back from first trimester. I'm still tired when I wake up, I'm tired all day, I take a nap and wake up tired, go to bed tired...repeat every day of pregnancy. I feel so worn out and I'm not even dealing with a new baby yet!

I'm with you!!!! I wonder how people
Do this when they already have children to look after... I'm already exhausted!

It's so so bad! I have a very energetic 20 month old who wears me out in addition to constantly feeling exhausted. Luckily my husband lets me sleep in most days, but I don't feel like it really helps at all. Bah!