(44) Little Presents - Due in December 2013

[DHBH0930]

Happy 20 week scan day for me! Go team yellow

Enjoy your scan today! It's always so fun to see what's going on in there

I hope so as well!

At least I know 4728183747192 things NOT to do...

I'm one of 3 girls in my family and we are all 3 best friends and have an awesome relationship with our mom. So it's totally possible for mom and daughter relationships to be special too. Hope you have a better experience with your daughter then you have with your mom and sisters.

Had another OB/GYN appointment this morning. My blood pressure is a bit high so have to go back to my GP in a fortnight and have it checked again. All is well with our little girl though

Glad to hear your little girl is doing good! I keep thinking they are going to tell me my blood pressure is high too. I've had borderline high blood pressure in the past, but its been better for the past couple years on its own. My mom had trouble with high BP during pregnancy so I keep thinking it will come back. Thankfully it hasn't though. Hope everything turns out ok at your doctors appt.


AFM: had the second part of my anatomy scan yesterday to get the remaining measurements. She now weighs 1 lb. 1 oz. which is double what she was 3 weeks ago, crazy! It was also really cool to see hear kick and feel it at the same time it was my last scan as long as there are no issues, its a bummer that I won't see her again for like 18 weeks. I could do a private scan between now and then, but money is tight so I will just have to have some patience

 

[onetwothreebp]

I was so happy to see a mom happy just to have boys it's true I really wanted a girl but its boy #4 for me but I'm happy and I think a mother son relationship is so special

It makes me so sad when I see women disappointed over having boys and always wanting girls. I understand that having a daughter is a special relationship to some people, but the love of a mother and son is amazing. It leaves me on !!

That being said, I am a bit more adjusted to the idea and I am seeing the positives of having "one of each" (although I hate that saying!). It will be a new experience to have a daughter, but my husband is thrilled so I'm excited to see him interact with her.

 

[brit3435]

I think the relationship you have with each of your children is different and unique in its own way. I don't think gender effects this relationship unless the parents let it. I think any relationship between a mother and her child is a special bond whether its a girl or a boy! I'm having another girl but i don't assume my relationship will be the same with her as it is with my daughter. She already has such a different personality than my daughter did in the womb so I know it will be a whole new experience to be her mommy even though she is another girl.

Congrats to everyone on their little miracles boy or girl! Glad to see everyone's 20 week scans are going well

 

[Lara310809]

I think the relationship between a parent and child depends on the characters of those involved, as well as how much they work at their relationship. If people naturally clash you're going to find problems, as well as those that don't try to he a good bond. I don't think a relationship is any better through having a specific gender of child though.

I'm sad to never have a boy, but my girls fill my heart more than I could ever have imagined, so I'm just fine the way things are.

 

[SugarBeth]

I agree,I think the relationship between mother and child is a bit different for each child, regardless of gender. While gender does determine some things usually, it's not the end all. If I were having another girl, I would not assume that I would have the exact same relationship with her as I have with my daughter, as she's a different child and has a different personality. Of course I'd love them equally, but there are different ways to relate to everyone.

 

[DHBH0930]

I agree too, I don't think the type of relationship is predetermined just solely off of gender. There are many factors involved. I also dont believe that all mother/son relationships are more special then mother/daughter relationships and vice versa. They can both be just as special, it just depends on so many things.

 

[Suzy_Q]

So I went back to school shopping and spent way more money on maternity clothes than I wanted to I really wanted to "do this" on the cheap but as a professor, I can't help but get wrapped up in the back to school excitement! I guess it's for the best as I do have to work and appear professional and I can't do that in clothes that, at some point, my belly will pop out of!

Ah well, work should be nice as it will help me pass the next 17 weeks as I wait for my little one to grace me with her presence

 

[DHBH0930]

So I went back to school shopping and spent way more money on maternity clothes than I wanted to I really wanted to "do this" on the cheap but as a professor, I can't help but get wrapped up in the back to school excitement! I guess it's for the best as I do have to work and appear professional and I can't do that in clothes that, at some point, my belly will pop out of!

Ah well, work should be nice as it will help me pass the next 17 weeks as I wait for my little one to grace me with her presence

I haven't bought any maternity clothes! I've been living in my sundresses and skirts. It helps that I didn't get a job this year so I can lay around the house in my husbands boxers and tshirts I will probably have to breakdown and but some things when the weather gets cooler though

 

[brit3435]

I didn't buy maternity clothes with my last pregnancy or with this one so far. I wore regular clothes but went up a size, and always tried to get longer shirts. Maternity clothes are so expensive! I wore alot of Victoria's Secret yoga pants! They are comfy, can be worn as casual or dress up and have a band that can support the belly

 

[Hoping girl 2]

I was lucky, got two very comfy maternity jeans for my birthday and they are the best thing I've ever worn! Not sure why we don't have similar jeans for non maternity people And once I've got my jeans on I can wear any stretchy tops with them. Very happy so far! But back to work in September (school teacher) so when weather turns cooler I might invest in some winter tops to use with leggings...

 

[August3]

I'm a teacher too but also deputy principal which requires a certain dress code so cannot get away with my maternity jeans and leggings sadly. I've been lucky to find some wrap type dresses and I got a pair of black over the bump trousers so hope that will keep me ticking over for the 11 weeks of term before maternity.

 

[Hoping girl 2]

I'm a teacher too but also deputy principal which requires a certain dress code so cannot get away with my maternity jeans and leggings sadly. I've been lucky to find some wrap type dresses and I got a pair of black over the bump trousers so hope that will keep me ticking over for the 11 weeks of term before maternity.

Oh no! Shame! I'm not allowed jeans at work but leggings are ok thank goodness, and I've got some 'flowy' dresses which should hopefully see me through. Going on leave October half term so hopefully will last me til then and I can go back to my lovely jeans

 

[August3]

Lucky you heading off nice and early, Hoping girl 2. I have to persevere until Nov. 22nd but hoping to be able to stay out until the following September if we can afford it

Hope your scan yesterday went well.

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Lucky you heading off nice and early, Hoping girl 2. I have to persevere until Nov. 22nd but hoping to be able to stay out until the following September if we can afford it

Hope your scan yesterday went well.

I know! I can't wait really My DH and I spoke about things and we've decided I'm staying at home once baby arrives so once that decision has been made it made it even harder to want to stay for longer - plus I hate the Autumn Term! And coincidentally, the teacher who will be taking over my class once I leave comes back from maternity leave herself after October half term so everything worked out perfectly and there didn't seem to be much point in me staying longer than half term and overlapping with the other teacher (that's my excuse at least! )

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Oh and scan went really well A perfectly formed little baby, so we are really blessed... can't wait to meet him/her now! Will post pics when I scan them in. Thanks for asking! xx

 

[August3]

Oh and scan went really well A perfectly formed little baby, so we are really blessed... can't wait to meet him/her now! Will post pics when I scan them in. Thanks for asking! xx

Ah, delighted for you! We're staying team too! It's very exciting. Fantastic that you'll be able to stay off with baba, my hubby works on contract so financially that's not an option for us but c'est la vie. I'm so blessed as it is, I ain't complaining.

We've booked in for a 3D/4D scan on the 24th when I'll be 25+4 so super excited about seeing our little munchkin again.

 

[DHBH0930]

I'm super excited that I'm able to be a SAHM. I've wanted to be one since I was a little girl, but as I got older I was sure I was going to have to give up that dream since its so much harder to live on one income now a days. However I didn't end up getting a teaching position and took it as fate. Finances are tight but its totally doable, just have to adjust to a different lifestyle. When we were both working and didn't have a LO on the way we went out to eat whenever we wanted and bought whatever we felt like. We've cut out dining out, I've been doing smart grocery shopping (using coupons, looking for sales, etc) and we stopped buying things that we don't NEED. So far so good!

 

[August3]

I'm super excited that I'm able to be a SAHM. I've wanted to be one since I was a little girl, but as I got older I was sure I was going to have to give up that dream since its so much harder to live on one income now a days. However I didn't end up getting a teaching position and took it as fate. Finances are tight but its totally doable, just have to adjust to a different lifestyle. When we were both working and didn't have a LO on the way we went out to eat whenever we wanted and bought whatever we felt like. We've cut out dining out, I've been doing smart grocery shopping (using coupons, looking for sales, etc) and we stopped buying things that we don't NEED. So far so good!

It's amazing how thrifty we can be. We regularly look at where we can trim the fat, so to speak without feeling deprived. It's all about looking at the bigger picture - you have to balance the cost of childcare if you're working. For many it doesn't make financial sense and the benefits of being a SAHM for your little ones far outweigh the wee bit extra in the bank account.

 

[DHBH0930]

I'm super excited that I'm able to be a SAHM. I've wanted to be one since I was a little girl, but as I got older I was sure I was going to have to give up that dream since its so much harder to live on one income now a days. However I didn't end up getting a teaching position and took it as fate. Finances are tight but its totally doable, just have to adjust to a different lifestyle. When we were both working and didn't have a LO on the way we went out to eat whenever we wanted and bought whatever we felt like. We've cut out dining out, I've been doing smart grocery shopping (using coupons, looking for sales, etc) and we stopped buying things that we don't NEED. So far so good!

It's amazing how thrifty we can be. We regularly look at where we can trim the fat, so to speak without feeling deprived. It's all about looking at the bigger picture - you have to balance the cost of childcare if you're working. For many it doesn't make financial sense and the benefits of being a SAHM for your little ones far outweigh the wee bit extra in the bank account.

It's so true! You hear of families of 5 living off 1 person making minimum wage, so if thats possible I knew we could find a way! I'd rather give up luxuires like dining out, big vacations, and "things" we dont need to be able to stay at home.

I was offered my teachers assistant position for this year, however it was a 50 min drive each way and I would have paid more in daycare then I would've made, not even exaggerating. So that was an easy no. Especially since I didn't like it there anyway.

Everyone's situation is different though, I can totally understand continuing to work for both if they have to or just want to.

 

[ready2Bmum]

So apparently I have a UTI and I'm on antibiotics for the next 5 days
Feel like crap

As for working, I just qualified as a teacher (results out next week) so I'm going to take the coming year out and try to teach the following school year. Its not perfect financially, but we're ok and its good to have the option to do this.