(44) Little Presents - Due in December 2013

[Hoping girl 2]

HG2; it's better to be alive than to not be. Remind him, if you're in the position to, that it's only temporary that he might not be allowed near his grandchild and you. Such a hard reality to be faced with though. Can they offer another surgery for the incontinence? I know it's not the same, but after my first labour I started having stress incontinence (peeing when you cough or sneeze). I've spoken to the midwife about it this time around, and she said that there are surgeries I can have after the birth to fix that. Might be worth looking into, if that's the only thing stopping him going for surgery

I didn't know that, thanks for mentioning it We told him today to wait until the scan results to see if it's spread or not, as he can't decide anything til then anyway. And then to speak to his doctor as only then will he be able to say for sure what treatment he'd get and what the secondary effects will be. We'll support him whichever decision e wants to make and deal with either situation, but it's nice to be able to mentio there might be help for the incontinence. Thanks again! Xx

 

[Lara310809]

HG2; it's better to be alive than to not be. Remind him, if you're in the position to, that it's only temporary that he might not be allowed near his grandchild and you. Such a hard reality to be faced with though. Can they offer another surgery for the incontinence? I know it's not the same, but after my first labour I started having stress incontinence (peeing when you cough or sneeze). I've spoken to the midwife about it this time around, and she said that there are surgeries I can have after the birth to fix that. Might be worth looking into, if that's the only thing stopping him going for surgery

I didn't know that, thanks for mentioning it We told him today to wait until the scan results to see if it's spread or not, as he can't decide anything til then anyway. And then to speak to his doctor as only then will he be able to say for sure what treatment he'd get and what the secondary effects will be. We'll support him whichever decision e wants to make and deal with either situation, but it's nice to be able to mentio there might be help for the incontinence. Thanks again! Xx

no problem; the surgery might be different in men than women, and it may be different depending on the cause of the incontinence, but it's definitely worth looking into

 

[August3]

My husband works away from home mon - fri but he ended up having to work all weekend too and I've spent such a miserable weekend missing him. I can't even bring myself to contemplate how much more difficult it will be when I'm sleep deprived & trying to cope with a newborn.

Sorry for the whinge! I need a kick up the bum. Gonna look to my blessings.

 

[Suzy_Q]

I'm the same way when my OH is out of town. I usually force myself to go run errands and do things so I don't get too dramatic about it. I don't know how military wives do it with their OH gone for months or even years at a time.

 

[Beanonorder]

hi ladies

Hope you don't mind me popping in here quickly! I just wanted to wish you all the best of luck as you reach the final stages of your pregnancy! I had a December baby last year and I remember getting to this point and thinking it still felt like forever until I was going to see my baby. Now here I am a year later and thinking 'where did the time go?!'

I hope none of you get TOO uncomfortable and that your labour & deliveries go well.

 

[Lara310809]

This may be our third pregnancy/baby but sometimes I think my husband thinks it'll be a walk in the park. I had my first baby before my EDD and my second baby after my EDD, so there's no telling when this one will come. I'm due on 11th Dec, and OH said he would only start his paternity on the EDD. I said to him "what if I have her earlier?" - he said he would be at the labour, but after that he would go back to work until 11th and his mum would help out. Uh what? I'll have three kids under 4, and he expects me to be okay with him staying at work and having to ask my MIL to help out?

That was one thing, but now he's saying he's not going to start paternity until the 15th so the chances are she will already be born and I'll have to manage without him home. He does shift work and he said he's got nights that week, so what, he'll be sleeping during the day and working at night, so he won't be available AT ALL

I can't deal with three kids by my own so fast. I mean, a few weeks, fine, but as soon as I'm out of hospital??

 

[brit3435]

Lara I think you should talk to him about it, there is no way you will be ok to take care of 2 toddlers and a newborn within a week of giving birth much less right after! Anyway won't he have to watch your kids during your hospital stay?

So I've started having pain in my right rib cage and under it. It hurts when I move or lay on that side. It started friday night and was the worst on sat morning, it's a bit better since then. Has anyone else had this?

 

[Lara310809]

My MIL is retired and she would happily take them while I was in hospital, and I'm happy with her looking after them; I just don't think he is right by going back to work and delaying his paternity until HE wants it. Paternity is there to support the mother in looking after the baby, and other children; it's not supposed to be a holiday where you can choose your dates

Also it's not fair on my existing children to not be around their baby sister when she's born. If I need my MIL to help, it could be for days on end, and I wouldn't expect her to stay here with them; she'd be more comfortable in her own home with the kids, but then they don't get to bond in the early days with the baby

 

[DHBH0930]

2 more months! Feeling really fat it's more then just my bump. I can see the weight gain in my face and arms, oh well! Just gonna work hard to lose the weight after she comes. I'm my sisters matron of honor next September so I will have that as a motivator.

 

[brit3435]

I know how your feeling DHBH I'm feeling fat too. I weigh 142 now up 25 lbs and that was my goal for the whole pregnancy. With my daughter I lost about 22 lbs by 6 weeks post partum and the rest was extra fat I had to use diet and exercise to lose so knowing everything I gain now is extra is really depressing. It doesn't help that my 3 little sisters are all home from college on fall break and have spent the past two months conditioning for college softball. They look fantastic with tiny waists and here I am with my massive belly and puffy face

 

[SugarBeth]

I'm 30 lbs up. It's definitely starting to show in other places to me. I'm guessing I'll be a little over 40 lbs by the time baby comes at this rate.

 

[Skadi]

I've only gained 10 lbs so far... which I am THRILLED with as I gained 25 lbs with my first (and I hadn't lost any of that weight prior to this pregnancy.)

 

[luz]

I've gained 30, but im not really sure where it is all going. I hardly look pregnant at all and my face isn't swelling and chubby like it was with my first pregnancy. All my clothes still fit me fine, it's so strange...

I'm sure i'll gain about 40 by the time this pregnancy is over, but i don't really worry. With my first i gained 50 and lost it all +20 more without even having to try.

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Mmmm... I work in kgs, not lbs, but I've out on about 8kgs so far. A bit more than I wanted but trying not to worry. All seems to be going to the bump, but from the back it actually looks like I've lost some weight! Hope
The extra weight is not too hard to shift, I find it tough to lose weight. But never mind, every extra kg is worth it

 

[Lara310809]

I lost my scales in the house move but 2 months ago I had only gained 4lbs, and I don't think I've gained much more. In my first pregnancy I gained 70lbs, 40lbs of which was actual fat, and in my second pregnancy I gained 11lbs, and lost 14lbs in the labour, so ended up lighter than pre-pregnancy. I'm hoping this is a redo of my second pregnancy weight gain

 

[Kaiecee]

having the worst fake contractions super uncomfortable

 

[DHBH0930]

For this pregnancy I've got you all beat, I've gained 45lbs already I don't think it helps that I've been at home since June, it's much easier to eat a ton when I'm at home and don't have any other kids yet. I'm not going to stress out about it, there isn't much I can do about it now. Not gonna start a diet and exercise routine while I'm super pregnant. I'm not supposed to exert myself too much anyway with my borderline BP.

I normally don't have trouble losing weight, I think a lot of it will drop off quickly after the pregnancy. It slows down when I get closer to my goal weight.

My doctor hasn't said anything about my weight, I know it's more then you should gain and I still have 2 months to go. I have a feeling my next pregnancy won't be as bad since I will have a little one to look after and won't be sitting around watching tv all day 10 feet from the kitchen

 

[Lara310809]

I was really good at losing weight until it was baby weight; then it refused to budge and I was stuck losing the same 7lbs over and over again for a year I think it's probably because I was so much busier and was concentrating on my baby instead of myself.

We are only weighed at our 10wk appointment, and only to establish our BMI. After that they don't weigh you, so I don't get an update on my weight unless I weigh myself.

 

[Lara310809]

Is anyone feeling anxious about the baby's arrival? I'm anxious about the labour, like REALLY anxious, and also about looking after her afterwards. This is my third; I shouldn't be this nervous about it, bit as the weeks pass I'm getting worse

 

[Hoping girl 2]

I'm a bit anxious, keep worrying about the pain. I'm good at tolerating pain but only if I kind of know what to expect